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I know some of u have to b going through this... I am 6 weeks post op and my husband is eating nothing but crap!!!! Right in front of me!! He bought easter candy today and as we r driving home he asks me to open it for him....then I tell him how much I hate him...and he replies ...u can have one!!!! R u f**king kidding me????? Sometimes husbands can b so clueless!!! Needless to say I did not eat the candy!!!!! But I might accidentally elbow him in my sleep tonight!

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I don't know how you had the strength not to punch him in the face LOL. I know I would have if it were my hubby LOL jk :P . Kudos for not eating the candy. Hopefully he realizes what he is doing and become more aware.

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You need to have a serious discussion about what the surgery means for you, mentally and emotionally, and make it very clear to him what you expect from him as a support system. If you are up front, clear and non-confrontational (focus on your feelings and criticize his "behavior" and NOT personal criticism against him) then give him a chance to improve. Then if he is still an ass, elbow to your hearts content. ;)

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LOL - yeah what JG407 said!

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A serious case of restless leg syndrome too! lol On a more serious note, that would've been hell for me!

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My fiance also eats lots of crap. He loves fast food. Of course he is solid muscle and hardly any fat. He burns everything he eats.. Lucky ASS! His body fat is like 19 %!!!!!!! I mean really?!

At first I was a little annoyed with him for still eating like that but I came to realize I am in total control of what I do. He can eat crap if he wants to. I can't really get mad at him for it. If I'm tempted then I just look away or go do something else. before I had the surgery I told him how it makes me feel and that I need his support and he really changed how he was with me. He told me if it bothers me to tell him. I honestly think sometimes if you don't spell it out for them they really just don't get it at all.

He does support me and has been pretty awesome in this whole process. So I feel pretty lucky. When I cook healthy meals he eats them and loves it. I guess now its to the point where I'm ok with it all. I even made him Cookies one day.. I guess my views on food have changed.

Your husband needs to know how important this is to you and if it bothers you that he is eating crap in front of you it is not ok at all. The emotional and mental support are just as important as the change in diet. You have to be in a good place with all of it to really be successful.

Good luck :)

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My son and mother do me the same way. They had pizza the third day I was sleeved and eat out just about every night. I've tried talking to them and I think my mom gets it. My 14 year old son however couldn't care less about my agony. Fortunate for him he's to young for me to sucker punch.

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I would definitely have a sleeve to heart talk w/ him.. .Just reiterate how being you guys taking this journey to health together is beneficial for all parties... And if he still doesn't get... do what they ^^^^^^^^ said!!!

I hope this work out for you!!!

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My husband also eats a bunch of crap, not just in front of me, but everywhere! Plus, he is pretty normal sized, and when he wants to lose a bit of weight, it drops off with little to no effort on his part!

He eats dinner, sometimes a huge dinner, and one hour later he is combing through the fridge and pantry for more to eat.

He thinks he is getting some Easter candy, but it won't be from me. I don't really care about candy anymore and I am more scared of it than anything. I need to just take care of me, but every so often I give him a nagging.

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He wont be laughing when u look all sexy...!!!

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