JG407

You need to have a serious discussion about what the surgery means for you, mentally and emotionally, and make it very clear to him what you expect from him as a support system. If you are up front, clear and non-confrontational (focus on your feelings and criticize his "behavior" and NOT personal criticism against him) then give him a chance to improve. Then if he is still an ass, elbow to your hearts content.

Hey avi, this is COMPLETELY normal. I don't know of its separation anxiety, hormones or what, but I definitely had the same feeling right after. Why did I do this, was it the right choice, what if it doesn't work etc. letting go of these false assumptions and perceptions is hard but I will tell you from experience (I'm 10 months out) that it all gets better and the only regret you will have is that you didn't do it sooner. I know you don't know me, but I ask you to trust me. You've just been through a major surgery and you will not start to heal physically and then mentally. Keep your eye on the "why" you did this to begin with (I'm assuming to be healthy, happy and have a new lease on life) and that intense focus will allow you to get through the "how" (the possible pain, difficulties and new ways of doing things that to will learn over the next couple of months). I'm proud of you, you can do it, and I can't wait to hear about your progress and how amazing you feel when this first speed bump is behind you. Happy birthday, a new life is coming your way!

You need to have a serious discussion about what the surgery means for you, mentally and emotionally, and make it very clear to him what you expect from him as a support system. If you are up front, clear and non-confrontational (focus on your feelings and criticize his "behavior" and NOT personal criticism against him) then give him a chance to improve. Then if he is still an ass, elbow to your hearts content.

Hey avi, this is COMPLETELY normal. I don't know of its separation anxiety, hormones or what, but I definitely had the same feeling right after. Why did I do this, was it the right choice, what if it doesn't work etc. letting go of these false assumptions and perceptions is hard but I will tell you from experience (I'm 10 months out) that it all gets better and the only regret you will have is that you didn't do it sooner. I know you don't know me, but I ask you to trust me. You've just been through a major surgery and you will not start to heal physically and then mentally. Keep your eye on the "why" you did this to begin with (I'm assuming to be healthy, happy and have a new lease on life) and that intense focus will allow you to get through the "how" (the possible pain, difficulties and new ways of doing things that to will learn over the next couple of months). I'm proud of you, you can do it, and I can't wait to hear about your progress and how amazing you feel when this first speed bump is behind you. Happy birthday, a new life is coming your way!