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LOL Kelly, I will have the same issue in December when I see my mom for the first time since the surgery...she's mostly going to wonder why I won't eat more, and will try to force food on me...lol

I know right???!!! That is the stupid ass comments I don't and didn't want to hear. People are really ignorant if they think for one second that this is easy! This is harder than any diet I have ever done! I have to work twice as hard to lose weight than I have ever done in my life. It is so strange. But at the same time, it is so worth it.!!

I don't think my mom would be judgement towards me like that and with her living in another state, I really don't have to deal with it right now. I will in November tho when I go home for a visit! She has no idea that I have lost all this weight and I will definatley have some explaining to do! LOL

Kelly B)

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This is what I get in response to clearly explaining the procedure and telling her about all of you:

"What does your primary doctor say? Does he recommend this?

I worry because any kind of surgery has side effects. I do not feel like celebrating something that is unnatural. God gave you a stomach just the way it is and not to be cut in half."

I want you to be happy. I did not realize that you were unhappy. So, you are saying that if you were thinner, you would be happy.

No, healthier!

and then the guilt trip:

"I have had more heartache than anyone can imagine. It seems like I always have to be dealing with something or another. "

After she said it was unnatural I lost it and fired back: "having your appendix out is unnatural."

Immature I know, but God put that organ in her and she had it out. Ugh!!

Perspective anyone?

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This is what I get in response to clearly explaining the procedure and telling her about all of you:

"What does your primary doctor say? Does he recommend this?

I worry because any kind of surgery has side effects. I do not feel like celebrating something that is unnatural. God gave you a stomach just the way it is and not to be cut in half."

I want you to be happy. I did not realize that you were unhappy. So, you are saying that if you were thinner, you would be happy.

No, healthier!

and then the guilt trip:

"I have had more heartache than anyone can imagine. It seems like I always have to be dealing with something or another. "

After she said it was unnatural I lost it and fired back: "having your appendix out is unnatural."

Immature I know, but God put that organ in her and she had it out. Ugh!!

Perspective anyone?

OMG! I thought I was the only one on this boat. After I told my mother she not only gave me the same sermon, she promised to make me thin with natural herbs and remedies before my surgery date. She calls me almost everyday to ask if Im taking those teas she gave me and if I've walked. I tell her that if it as that easy I would have lots the weight long time ago. I have to stop her before she tells me horror stories she heard about bariatric surgery. My sisters are not very supportive either, well with the exception of one of the three. They say that since I told them, their lives have been disturb. They want me to try on my own. Since my surgery is not only another 4 months I decided not to talk about it and maybe they'll forget. This is the very reason why I joined this support group.

So, unfortunately sometimes the family could be the least supportive group. They worry too much, I think.

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You'd all like my daughter. She got the explanation and watched a few Youtube videos and she was so excited for me. My daughter rocks.:D

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