Depressed 2 months post op

[livinglifelikeitsgolden 2]

I had my surgery on May 16th 2011. I was so excited due to my rapid lost which was like 27 lbs in just a couple weeks. Once i began eating normal foods I watched the scale come to a complete stop. I have been on a stall since my 3rd week. Sometimes i would notice i lost 5lbs but that would slowly creep right back up. I feel so helpless and depressed. I used to come to this site to be encourage but now I feel so alone because everyone is losing the weight and yet I am lagging far behind. Due to this I have notice that I have started drinking alcohol which i think isn't good due to the calories. But I feel like I have really given up or having a very nonchalant attitude about losing weight. I get full quicker but still not losing weight. I just don't understand. I have changed my diet and am eating alot healthier and still on a stall!!! AHHHHHH, i feel like screaming and hiding. Someone help me plzzzzzz........

[Nancy Rivers 24]

You are not alone! There are several people on here who are "slow losers". It is also normal to enter a stall around week 3 or so. From what I understand, when you start eating normal foods again, it is also normal to enter another stall. Drinking alcohol this early out isn't a good thing - it is just empty calories, plus it could potentially damage your new and healing stomach. My surgeon's office says to not have alcohol for the first 6 months because of this.

Have you talked to your surgeon and/or dietician about your stall? You really should. They can help you figure out why your not losing anymore. Make sure you have food logs to show them as they won't be able to be as helpful without those.

[anonynurse 13]

I have been stalled since day 14, so I feel ya. But stopping doing the right things guarantees this is not a stall but a permanent stop. So get off the alcohol. Get out your diet guidelines. Get back to eating "clean" and trust in yourself and your body.

The suggestion above to see the dietician is a good one.

[seelessofme32 1]

I had my surgery on May 16th 2011. I was so excited due to my rapid lost which was like 27 lbs in just a couple weeks. Once i began eating normal foods I watched the scale come to a complete stop. I have been on a stall since my 3rd week. Sometimes i would notice i lost 5lbs but that would slowly creep right back up. I feel so helpless and depressed. I used to come to this site to be encourage but now I feel so alone because everyone is losing the weight and yet I am lagging far behind. Due to this I have notice that I have started drinking alcohol which i think isn't good due to the calories. But I feel like I have really given up or having a very nonchalant attitude about losing weight. I get full quicker but still not losing weight. I just don't understand. I have changed my diet and am eating alot healthier and still on a stall!!! AHHHHHH, i feel like screaming and hiding. Someone help me plzzzzzz........

I am very sorry to hear about your decrease in weight loss. My surgery is scheduled for July 25th, I am going to repalce 2 meals with Protein drinks and 1 reg meal per day. Maybe you should try this and see if you can start loosing agin. It may have been too soon to add reg meals all together back in. And the ALCOHOL don't waste you calorie intake on this. We can get through this. I know it is hard because we have been having this fight all of our life and now you have a tool to help and it seems helpless. Don't give up. Try something different before giving up. Good luck and Don't give up we have come too far to go back now.

[Anakin Jay 39]

The alcohol is probably your problem. Whenever you drink alcohol your body will burn that for energy first before anything else... it's like pure energy.

No matter what diet I've ever been on, alcohol always causes a stall.

[sugarmamma7 2]

Hope you get back on the horse sweetie. It is tough, but you can do it. We will all be here to support you. You can do this! Don't give up. It would be said if you went through all of this pain and heartache of having the surgery for nothing. Please don't drink alcohol it will hurt you stomach. We all believe in you! Good luck sweetie!sending hugs your way!

[Maraki 1]

Hey sweetie, cheer up, change your habits and definitevely kick out the alcohol. It really isn't good for your tiny little stomach. I suggest you keep a food diary and write EVERYTHING on it, even the stuff you shouldn't have had. Try to switch up a few things here and there (things you are permitted to eat), avoid carbs. Are you exercising? Try walking. The endorphins are sure to cheer you up and the weight will start coming off.

you can do it. YOU ARE WORTH IT.

[SuperMom 33]

Hey...we were almost done at the same time ! I have had some stalls too! I noticed when I was not eating ENOUGH I stalled.....how many calories are you eating? I had cut out carbs all the way and apparently my body did not like it. I did not do it on purpose....I was just full when I had finished the Protein and was not getting them in. Also...I noticed when I did not take Calcium I loose slower???? Weird. I also switched acid pills (not on purpose) and that broke a couple days of stall. When I drink more Water that helps also. Just some ideas! Lay off the alcohol. Your poor body is not healed enough for a hangover yet....lolol....too hard on your liver too which is already working overtime to process all that protein. Try to stay OFF the scale and think positive, happy thoughts and when you feel the urge to drink go do something positive like take a walk and breath deep. Sending you some happy energy! You can DO THIS....take it one hour at a time!

[Maraki 1]

supermom, can you specify the amounts you are eating. I am not sure I'm eating enough.

[SKCUNNINGHAM 298]

I agree with all the others that are telling you to stop drinking alcohol. Calories aside, alcohol is a system depressent (just like a pharmaceutical depressant)- and is probably the cause of your depression, or at least, makes it much worse. Also, your system is reacting to alcohol differently than prior to your sleeve surgery. For me - I tried alcohol twice since my surgery - as an experiment to see what happens. I got a buzz on <1/2 c of beer, and a buzz on 2 tablespoons of fine tequila (sipped, not done as a shot). Beleve me, prior to my surgery, I could at least have a couple of drinks (beer or spirits) before I got to the same point of feeling a buzz. So whatever alcohol did for/to you before the sleeve - it is doing it MAGNIFIED after the sleeve.

If you are having trouble staying away from the alcohol - get it out of the house until you get things back under control.

Good luck!

[livinglifelikeitsgolden 2]

Thanks everybody for all your kind comments. *tears* I think you all are right and I know that I am only drinking when I feel down and depressed. I have some medicine but don't like taking them but I am and I will get this under control. @sugarmamma7 it was very encouraging and I really needed to hear that. So as of today I am going to pick myself up and try try again. Luv ya!

[SeattleSue 25]

Thanks everybody for all your kind comments. *tears* I think you all are right and I know that I am only drinking when I feel down and depressed. I have some medicine but don't like taking them but I am and I will get this under control. @sugarmamma7 it was very encouraging and I really needed to hear that. So as of today I am going to pick myself up and try try again. Luv ya!

Good for you girl! I know you picked that name for a reason...remember what it was and go live life like it IS golden!! We have a second chance and this stall canNOT last! You got a lot of good advice here--the alcohol as you know, has to go. At least for now, maybe forever if you are given to depression. Do what is best for you, not what is easiest. You totally have it in you to do because you chose to get yourself sleeved!!! You are a tough cookie...

Stay in touch,

Susan

[KellyL 173]

Hey sleevesister, we had the same surgery date. You are not alone, I stayed the same for over a month after the initial drop post op. I couldn't understand it either but decided it was indeed the dreaded 3 wk stall. My clothes did get looser though. The scales are just now moving again. And its still not daily or regularly. And when I drop 4-5 lbs, it will bounce back up the next day but over time it goes back down. I seem to have more stalls than losses! Lol. But I have resigned myself to the fact that this is how my body loses. It's not the sleeve, in fact while trying to lose pre-op, I had a 6 month stall!!!!! So I will take whatever the sleeve helps me achieve.

I won't lecture you about the drinking, but caution you to be careful! Transfer addictions are a serious matter with wls patients. Don't give up on the sleeve but more importantly, don't give up on yourself sweetie. You are worth taking care of. *hug*