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See? This is why I wish I didn't have to tell anyone! But I'm single and I need someone to take care of my dog and my house and possibly me when I have this surgery later this year. So I have been forced to tell my worst critic--my mother!

My mother, who is happy for the first, oh 60 pounds or so, and then turns very jealous. She knows several people who have had the RnY and is expecting some giant turn-around within a year, and I keep telling her it's going to be sloooooow progress.

Let me tell you a little story about the LAST time I lost a significant amount of weight on Jenny Craig (over 140 pounds). She out-of-the-blue asks me "What are you going to do about your extra skin?" and telling me how awful I'm going to look after I lose all my weight.

My best friend of over 15 years also abandoned me completely and only made up with me after I had regained it all.

I had coworkers who wouldn't ALLOW me a piece of cake at office birthday parties (despite the fact I had allowed for the extra calories).

Everyone, be STRONG! You are doing this FOR YOU. For a better life for YOU.

Dang it, I'm so angry right now.:D

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I am sorry you are angry DerbyGirl, you've got good reason.

What a nasty situation! We have enough in the way of issues without everyone looking to hand over their extra baggage the second we drop a pound.

No matter what they may make you believe-it is not about you. It may make you feel like crap, but the crap was theirs. They just flung it in your direction.

(((derbygirl))) <--Hugs

Thanks to everyone here for the support! I really appreciate it. Brenda

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Oh, I'm angry for all of us...probably most of us are going to have to deal with this. I've decided that I'm going to start therapy immediately following the surgery. I'm sure there are going to be all kinds of issues like this that pop up and I want to learn how to properly deal with them so that I don't sabotage myself unknowingly.

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derbygirl.....you are spot on. There are always people around who are going to try and sabotage your weightloss success.My mother is the same as yours. For the firsat few pounds she's proud of me but when I start to lose alot of weight she becomes jealous and puts me down. I also have a friend who is the same. In the past when I've lost weight she has told me that being thin doesn't "suit" me and that I look older when I lose weight. This is why this time I have decided to not tell anyone (except my husband and kids) about my up coming surgery. I don't want to give anyone any further ammunition so they can use it to sabotage my weightloss.......I sound paranoid don't I?

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