Does anyone's family mainly spouse not understand why going to the gym 4-5x week is vital part of success????

I'm not sure why your spouse doesn't seem to agree with it but you do need a break! Don't ware yourself out. We all here support ya so keep it up!

I'm lucky in the fact our whole family goes to the gym together at nite. Since getting banded my family is on "the plan" too and we are all committed to getting healthy. We do our own thing once we get to gym but find if we all go together its part of our nightly routine and we hold each other accountable .

Giiiirl, my hubby doesn't even acknowledge I NEED A gym membership with an additional couple of weeks of personal training. He thinks because I have a treadmill & a spinning bike at home, that that's enough (it's a GREAT place to start) but I want to start weight training so I can tone up. Today I mentioned that maybe instead of a gym, I should just take some kickboxing classes and he liked THAT idea.

I hate to say it but you gotta be selfish. Trust me when your healthier, hotter and happier he will understand my hubby pushes me outta the door now. Better that than the tori that sat on the sofa eating pizza and ice cream feeling depressed and having a breakdown when I couldn't find anything to wear........

I know what you mean when you say "selfish", for lack of a better word. When I lost 40lbs on Atkins, one of my best friends, who is VERY religious, asked me how did I lose the weight. I said: "I put MYSELF first". She was was like: "oohhhhhh, Noooooo, you can't do that, your husband & your family come first". Can we agree to disagree?!! Sheesh!!

Agreed how can you be the best wife or mother if your unhealthy, unhappy and unfit? Surely if you can be the best YOU you can be the best wife and mother you can be.....

Agreed how can you be the best wife or mother if your unhealthy' date=' unhappy and unfit? Surely if you can be the best YOU you can be the best wife and mother you can be.....[/quote']

It is a hard balance for the family. And. ME time seems ya gotta put your self first at least half of the tome

Thank God that my husband is 100% behind my journey. I'm going back to the gym tomorrow and meeting with the trainer to revisit my workout now that I'm post-op. I'm super excited to get back, I've done really well losing weight and I imagine it will kick into high gear once I get back to the gym. Keep doing what you need to be doing, he'll either see the importance or he won't, as long as you know it is important, that is the key.

I hate to say it but you gotta be selfish. Trust me when your healthier' date=' hotter and happier he will understand my hubby pushes me outta the door now. Better that than the tori that sat on the sofa eating pizza and ice cream feeling depressed and having a breakdown when I couldn't find anything to wear........[/quote']

Ladies you are right selfish is what I become because going to the gym is more than me losing weight it become my daily me time to decompress from work kids bills and yes my spouse love him dearly but all women needs there space and when it's all said and done I think I'm a much happier person

Hubby and I were talking about this AGAIN about an hour ago and he still doesn't get it and thinks with the treadmill and spinning bike I'll get the results I want..... But he has another thing coming. LoL!! He's lucky I still haven't found the right place to give my money to.

Hubby and I were talking about this AGAIN about an hour ago and he still doesn't get it and thinks with the treadmill and spinning bike I'll get the results I want..... But he has another thing coming. LoL!! He's lucky I still haven't found the right place to give my money to.

Do what works for you I love my safe haven my me time spot