I am fairly new to the forum, I have posted a few threads, but this one I am writing with tears in my eyes, im not writing to be kicked any lower, my husband and I have been going through a storm in our relationship, before the surgery I was an emotional eater I noticed yesterday I didn't wont to work out, I went to the gym and got on the treadmill for 15 minutes, but as I was walking I started thinking about the issues at home so I stopped and went home, I should have pushed pass the sadness and continued to work out but I didn't I was to down I wasn't motivated at all, today I noticed I have been snacking all day, and as I sat on the couch I cried and told myself this is how you use to handle your stressful situations, that's not you any more, I begin to encourage my self to stop snacking get up out of the dump and realize how far I have come, I have never done this in almost 6 months, but I do realize if you allow your self you can go back to old habits, I found out today the band is only a tool, that no it will not stop me from eating, I told myself I will not fail that I went through to much to get the surgery, im kinda glad this happen to me in a way because now I see that if I choose not to stay focused that I can go back to where I started, I just wanted to share this maybe it will help somebody else,

I understand; we all have highs and lows with the band; it is NOT failure until you quit trying. . . you can do it!

Pick yourself up and move on because its in the past and you can't change it...you can do this.....you've worked so hard and come so far...there will always be stuff in the way, be it personal or food related...and look how far you come that you recognized what you were doing and were able to correct it...that's HUGE!

Things will get better and tomorrow a bit brighter...hang in there!

chasingadream thank you very much for your advice...SoccerBlueJ thank you also I feel a lot better since I got this off my chest thanks again...

Wow, I think the fact that you pulled yourself out of that emotional eating needs to be commended! Well done! As women, we are so used to doing ten things at once and thinking that issues at home, work, with friends, children etc should just be juggled with everything else we do. Take a minute to realise that your home situation is abnormally stressful and its ok to not be coping. Once you realise that, you empower yourself to find a better way of dealing with that stress - which you did!

Inside is a strong and wonderful woman, try to focus on the little positives and achievements as they snowball instead of the percieved failures - they arent failures, you just percieve them that way.

Good luck with sorting out your relationship issues, and remember there is always calm after a storm. Big hugs for now.

I too applaud you for recognizing the difference between real hunger and emotional eating. I'm sorry you are going through a difficult time right now, but sounds like you're handling it like a champ.

Don't forget, we are always here for you, when life gets tough.

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I over ate almonds today and yesterday and I feel awful about if but they tasted so good. I need to stop buying them. We have to stop eating our problems. I so understand Sorry to hear you and hub are having problems. Talk. Been there done that for almost 43 years.

Being mindful of ourselves and our surroundings is one of the toughest things to accomplish. And, I'd say you are well on your way to being mindful of your eating. You recognized your situation and you took a step to change it. That's awesome! Kudos to you!

I know that I eat as a coping mechanism. I think many WLS patients do that and it's why so many turn to alcohol after they get surgery in order to find another way to cope. I've said this many times in these forums that I think WLS patients should get therapy afterwards to help deal with the changes in our coping mechanisms. When I went to therapy he broke it down very simply for me, I eat to cope. I need to cope because of stress. I have a choice, reduce the stress in my life or find a different way to cope. By thinking of it like that it's easier to address the stress and why we are eating to deal with it. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find a healthy way to cope or a way to help reduce the stress in your life.