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Thought i would ask.... How many of you have LBT as your secret place? Meaning that you come here and talk to follow LB people and are able to speak your mind and not have to worry if someone you know will see.....

I do... my hubby don't know about the site and i love it that way... i can come here and say what i want and not have to worry about what people that "know" me will think...

Just curious Does your Husband/Wife know you come here...?

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My boyfriend (whom I live with) knows about this site but he never comes on here. It's "my thing" and he respects that. So, I am free to post here without worrying about prying eyes. The only time he sees what goes on here is when I walk over to him with my lap top going "baby, you gotta see this!" to show him a post or picture.

Truth is, this site has helped me to inform him too. Before I had my Tummy Tuck, I read about a lot of other people's experience with it on here and read a lot of the posts to him. When I found before and after pictures, I'd show him. It really helped him know what to expect from my surgery.

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My Wife knows of the site and being pre-op I have invited her to join in a couple of times but she says "no, that is your thing".

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My imaginary boyfriend has no idea. ;D Anyways, yes this is a place for me to come and ask questions, give my opinion and feel comfortable. This is the only place that I feel comfortable putting my weight and body pictures on display because I know you call all relate and won't judge. The only other people that know my weight are my doctor and nurses and sometimes that even makes me feel uncomfortable. I like this being just my place and not my friends or family being involved. Sometimes I will be so happy and express someone's journey in my own word because it is encouraging but other than that its just me! :D

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My imaginary boyfriend has no idea. ;D Anyways, yes this is a place for me to come and ask questions, give my opinion and feel comfortable. This is the only place that I feel comfortable putting my weight and body pictures on display because I know you call all relate and won't judge. The only other people that know my weight are my doctor and nurses and sometimes that even makes me feel uncomfortable. I like this being just my place and not my friends or family being involved. Sometimes I will be so happy and express someone's journey in my own word because it is encouraging but other than that its just me! :D

This is the only site I put my weight and before and after pics on. 'Cause you are all my people!

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This is the only site I put my weight and before and after pics on. 'Cause you are all my people!

Exactly! This is where I feel comfortable sharing my ups and downs! :D

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my husband knows about this forum, but doesn't ever have the desire to come on and read... he never has been one to talk on forums, etc..

if I have a question or something he suggests that I ask the people on here.

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No husband/boyfriend here, but my parents don't know I go on here. Not really hiding it necessarily, but I wouldn't invite them to read my posts or anything lol. My sister does know about the site because she asked where I could get support from other people who have the band but she hasn't been on either.

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My imaginary boyfriend has no idea. ;D Anyways, yes this is a place for me to come and ask questions, give my opinion and feel comfortable. This is the only place that I feel comfortable putting my weight and body pictures on display because I know you call all relate and won't judge. The only other people that know my weight are my doctor and nurses and sometimes that even makes me feel uncomfortable. I like this being just my place and not my friends or family being involved. Sometimes I will be so happy and express someone's journey in my own word because it is encouraging but other than that its just me! :D

I agree with you....can't believe I posted my weight and my story on my profile page...never would have done that anywhere else....EVER!!!! Still haven't gotten the courage to post a profile pic yet though....as for before and after pics...still waiting to be banded before going that route.

Never feel judged here....some really great people on this site! It has been a saving grace for me! And my hubby knows I'm here but doesn't look around unless, like missy, i say WOW you have to look at this!

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I am an open book lol EVERYONE that is in my life knows I am on this journey, it helps to keep me motivated by knowing I am inspiring others. As far as the site goes, I use it for general info, to give my two cents needed or not, and to be part of a community of those like me.

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This is the only place besides my doc file that shows my weight. It feels safe here. My husband and fam know I found a site I love, and I've told my surgeon about it so he can pass the word to other patients - but I don't think anyone who knows I'm on here has gone looking for me. I'm sure my hubs is able to otherwise occupy his time online with porn and videos of kittens sneezing and falling off of things.

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I'm sure my hubs is able to otherwise occupy his time online with porn and videos of kittens sneezing and falling off of things.

That was a seriously awesome comment!

My boyfriend knows about this site, he knows I hang out here now and again, and that I use it to help keep me on track, but he stays away. I put up pics on here that he would probably prefer I not post (pics of before/after surgery where I'm in bikinis and stuff) but this is where I feel I can be most myself, with people who 'get' me. And I have done so long before he came along so I'm not about to stop now!

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My husband knows of this site but has never seen it unless I show a picture to him. As far as my weight you all know it and just my husband does. I don;t share my loss with anyone anymore. I don't need them to say, WOW what real fat f**k, Arlene was. I most likely will never share those numbers.

I tell all the people at my monthly support at the hospital about this site and other 2 for other WLS. I think having this site is the best support anyone could ever ask for and get. A doctor does the surgery but doesn't feel what we do. That is like a male gyn-ob doctor. He never had a baby-how does he know.

I tell some close family members that I do a blog type site and they are all very supportive. That is needed in my life.

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I don't have anyone that gives a flying flip about me or what I do online so its all good. I'm free to be me. YAY! :)

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i love this site.... i feel like this is my special place. I can come her and be trueful about who i am and where i have been.

My husband had see pics of people that im in Awww of, but he has no interest in coming here...

Steph... we all give a flying flip about you....

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