Sometimes I go on this site and I'm embarrassed to be a member. All of the bickering and complaining and insults. I joined this group for support!!! Support is what I think most of us needs right now. If you are here to fight and argue and put down please find another app.

Sometimes I go on this site and I'm embarrassed to be a member. All of the bickering and complaining and insults. I joined this group for support!!! Support is what I think most of us needs right now. If you are here to fight and argue and put down please find another app.

AMEN!!!

Agree

I tell everyone about this site because it has helped me a real lot. You are right about the disrespect people have for each other and they don't even know them. We are all a group of people who decided to take charge of our bodies with The Band. We should be here to help and listen and not fight.

Unfortunately, you're going to have that on any online venue but especially forums.

You have hundreds of personalities on here and some clash. Couple that with the fact text doesn't necessarily read the true emotion of the poster. For instance, more than once I've posted facts that someone has taken negatively. The reason this happens is the poster can't see my facial expression or hear my voice inflections so they're left to their own interpretation. I may say "Stick to your post op diet, it's not worth a slip" out of concern but the person may misread it as said judgmentally

Now, combine that with inevitable: Some people are miserable and want to drag others down in their misery with them. Some people are just plain mean. Some people are so immature it's scary. Some are painfully ignorant. If you put all these people into one big forum- you're bound to have some serious clashes and pissing matches.

Just take the good, leave the bad, and ignore the ridiculousness. It's all you can do.

Unfortunately' date=' you're going to have that on any online venue but especially forums.

You have hundreds of personalities on here and some clash. Couple that with the fact text doesn't necessarily read the true emotion of the poster. For instance, more than once I've posted facts that someone has taken negatively. The reason this happens is the poster can't see my facial exp<b></b>ression or hear my voice inflections so they're left to their own interpretation. I may say "Stick to your post op diet, it's not worth a slip" out of concern but the person may misread it as said judgmentally

Now, combine that with inevitable: Some people are miserable and want to drag others down in their misery with them. Some people are just plain mean. Some people are so immature it's scary. Some are painfully ignorant. If you put all these people into one big forum- you're bound to have some serious clashes and pissing matches.

Just take the good, leave the bad, and ignore the ridiculousness. It's all you can do.[/quote']

Bashing and a difference of opinion are totally different. I understand what you are saying.

Bashing and a difference of opinion are totally different. I understand what you are saying.

Oh I agree too, they're totally different.

But remember, there are some nasty miserable people in this world. You put them online and now they can be mean idiots with no repercussions because of the anonymity online provides.

Just try not to let it get to you. I used to get upset by this, but then I realized: I'm dealing with a miserable, unhappy, moron. When I turn off my PC I'll go back to my happy and fulfilling life- and they'll still be a miserable idiot trying to drag others down to their level.

...don't let them drag you down to their level

Misery LOVES company. Ignore the lame post, remarks and focus on and our FUTURE accomplishments. I'm super excited!! Hope you are too!

Misery LOVES company. Ignore the lame post' date=' remarks and focus on and our FUTURE accomplishments. I'm super excited!! Hope you are too![/quote']

I am super excited!!! I'm being banded Thursday!

I am super excited!!! I'm being banded Thursday!

I'm with u on thurs!!!

And I totally agree w Mis73 (and all). I've noticed there are some especially positive ppl on the site an I often follow their threads and where they comment. This is too important to get dragged down - I've already got my own saddlebags for that

sadly these type people are on just about every public forum you go on...I do what I always tell my kids to do...I don't cater to ignorance...I ignore them and stick to talking with the fun positive people

I treat this forum (and others) like a big social gathering. I walk around, I talk in conversations that interest me, and once in a while, I come across someone who rubs me the wrong way. I can mostly still be polite to that person, but I won't linger longer than I need to, and when I walk away I don't think twice about them afterwards.

I won't invest in someone who is behind some computer who I don't even know. If someone reaches out to me, and over time we become friends - GREAT! But if it's just some post on a forum, their lives don't impact me or my success at all.

at times i wonder if some of these people even had the band.....the ones that come in here talking all negative I'm like really ?? pretty sure you are not going through what we are , makes you wonder just sayin

I sincerely hope that someone who never had the band wouldn't come here--what would that accomplish? Why would they waste their time and energy? I simply believe that people have different experiences and this lends itself to different comments regarding the band. I try to take the good and the bad here, as I've experienced both.

It's the same on the "sleeve talk" forum which my daughter is a member of. Unfortunately, you're going to get the good and bad of everything.

I have been to other sites and it's way worse than on here... everyone on here seems to be pretty decent.. there are some rude comments here and there and like all humans we react sometimes without thinking... take the good stuff and try to stay positive and motivated.. you will need all of that after your surgery.. but, in the end it's about you and how you are going to work on your health and well being.. take care of yourself and the rest will work out...