Question for those who have kids 12 or over

[Sarah75 67]

Sarah' date=' that is my fear too - one little comment to one of their friends - then boom, all the mothers know... sorry to hear that happened - although maybe at least they were supportive of you when they found out?[/quote']

All my friends have been very very supportive!!...their step-mothers reply to her after she told her was "oh well not everyone can lose weight the natural way and lots of people get sick an have complications"...I had a little chat with the ol step-monster and she has t opened her mouth since..she herself is a large lady and when I run my 3 miles every day I make sure to run past their house

[sherylkay 23]

I LOVE IT!! KEEP RUNNING PAST THEIR HOUSE. HAHAHA

[mda69 36]

I have the same concerns. Two daughters both healthy. I have only told my sister who was banded 2 years ago. I don't plan on telling anyone. Just eating less and working out. Hopefully that works! I do feel guilty about my girls and parents. Hope Mom is not mad!

[Soulshine76 11]

I am divorced with 3 children. Daughters that are 9 and 11 and a 16 yr old son. I told my son and he has been involved with the entire process. He was even my driver for the surgery. I really do not want my ex-husband and his wife to know because then everyone on the PTA and soccer team and so on will know. So I originally told the girls I was having a stomach surgery and it was no big deal. Finally, as the surgery got closer I ended up telling them that the surgery would help me lose weight. They were so, so excited and started talking about shopping and all that. I made sure to never say the word "Lapband." I then explained extensively that this is something that is private and it's ok for families to have things that are private. I explained how important it is to not tell even one friend. They've done great. My ex even asked them what kind of surgery I was having and they said they didn't know. I really think its a judgement call and depends on the individual child and their maturity level.

[Soulshine76 11]

I should amend the above... When my ex asked the girls what kind of surgery, they actually said they weren't sure what its called and to ask me. What I first wrote made it sound like I told them to lie.