So today I had my last dietary appointment. I was down 7 lbs since my last appointment and received all my information for my pre and post op diets. Hoping for surgery in early March. I was having a good day! I came home and was talking to my boyfriend about it. So far I have only told him and my parents (who are very supportive) I just don't feel like I want to tell anyone else yet. So, as we (my boyfriend and I) were talking about I said okay, just don't say anything to anyone because I'm not ready to really tell anyone yet and he got a funny look on his face. I said "what??" He said "Well, I may have told just one person." Well of course it was his mom. Probably the last person on my list to tell. Her response "She doesn't need that!" It's just very frustrating. Yes, I am 5'4" and weigh 236lbs I do not look like I weigh that much but that is not the point, I stil FEEL like I weigh that! It was just very upsetting for her to say I don't need it. This is my choice. So I just wanted to vent a little.

I don't want to shout it from the rooftops either however, I have to remember that although my hubby is super supportive, this changes his life too. He has fears of the surgery going well, anxious about what he is eating in front of me, etc. He is anxious too....for me to have forbid him to tell anyone was too much of a burden for him. I tell who I tell...when I tell it (if at all). But I will also remember that my family is along for this ride too.

Good luck...pretty-faced girl.

I only told a hand full of ppl that I was having the op cos I didn't want to hear u don't need it ect. When I went for ny first consultation a woman there just had her first fill she said those very words, u don't need the op. I was like 6 stone over weight .since having the op I've told ppl a lot of supportive but a few have said what a waste of money, u don't needn't, your very pretty that may be so but on the inside I don't feel pretty,.I don't like carrying the extra weight neither do ny knees or back. I did this for me, no one else.

Sure glad I never had a MIL. I would probably lose it if someone said something like that to me. Sounds like some of your MIL's would like to keep you fat just to have it to throw back at their sons for marring a full figure girl. Keep up the good work ladies and don't the MIL's get you down.

This happened with my grandmother the day before my surgery!! It was so frustrating she wanted me to do all these diets and other crazy things. My fathers side reactions were all the same. It's frustrating but keep confident in what you want!! You'll get more comfortable with talking about it as time goes by remember its you that matters! You are strong! You can do this!!!

Good Luck!

Hi. You will have people who will not be supportive. I am 5'5'' and weighed 207 and I was banded Jan 7. down 18 lbs so far and I have no regrets about doing the band. My parents were not supportive at all cause I went to Mexico, which I would do all over again, but I had my husband's support and support of good friends so that was all I needed. Take it with a grain of salt and do it for you!!!

I told pretty much everyone about my surgery because i was so excited about it. I think the fact that i always told people about and was always confident in my decision i never really got any negativity. My mom was a little worried at first but only because she didnt know much about it, but never said one neg thing about it and her and my dad, and my husband were with me on surgery day. I wouldnt worry about what people say....when they see how great you are going to do, they wont have much to say. I dare someone to tell me i took the easy way out. There is NOTHING easy about having surgery, and watching every single thing that goes in your mouth, and chewing a million times, exercising, etc....we do the same thing that people that dont have the band do. We watch what we eat, we exercise, we work hard too. The only difference is we have a tool that allows us to eat alot less of those foods! Hold uour head high in your decision....you are saving your own life!! Xoxo

hi my name is jenny im new to all this ive almost been banded for a year march 30 2012 80 pounds and i know how you feel i only told my parents and boyfriend i said no one please dont tell no one i just wanted no one to know i didnt want any judgements or like i didnt need that or why or my fav you could of done it on youre own but my boyfriend tells his sister thats was such a disapointment because its like he dis missed what i asked him to do its just some people dont see the band as needing it they see it as were to lazy and were wanting an easy way out is there way of thinking which is sad bc my support group is small my parents and my boyfriend all the the best to ya hope all is well

thank you all of the comments are helping me its touched my heart to know that there are people that feel what im going through

I told pretty much everyone about my surgery because i was so excited about it. I think the fact that i always told people about and was always confident in my decision i never really got any negativity. My mom was a little worried at first but only because she didnt know much about it, but never said one neg thing about it and her and my dad, and my husband were with me on surgery day. I wouldnt worry about what people say....when they see how great you are going to do, they wont have much to say. I dare someone to tell me i took the easy way out. There is NOTHING easy about having surgery, and watching every single thing that goes in your mouth, and chewing a million times, exercising, etc....we do the same thing that people that dont have the band do. We watch what we eat, we exercise, we work hard too. The only difference is we have a tool that allows us to eat alot less of those foods! Hold uour head high in your decision....you are saving your own life!! Xoxo

LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS! Thank you!

hi my name is jenny im new to all this ive almost been banded for a year march 30 2012 80 pounds and i know how you feel i only told my parents and boyfriend i said no one please dont tell no one i just wanted no one to know i didnt want any judgements or like i didnt need that or why or my fav you could of done it on youre own but my boyfriend tells his sister thats was such a disapointment because its like he dis missed what i asked him to do its just some people dont see the band as needing it they see it as were to lazy and were wanting an easy way out is there way of thinking which is sad bc my support group is small my parents and my boyfriend all the the best to ya hope all is well

Thanks! 80lbs! Good for you!!