Hello everyone... The count down is near 3 days way and I am excited. I'm having a slight problem, since time is approaching my significant other is really giving me signals. It's like he is being insecure asking me will I leave him. My point of it all is to ask is anyone having the same issues and how are you dealing with it.

Thanks in advance...

I'm one day before you, good luck

As for the boyfriend, they seem to act this way. My guy is super supportive, but seems a little insecure in that field. He hasn't been rude about it, but I can tell he is feeling worried. I have told him that the weight change is not a reason I will leave him, if I do leave him in the future.

And they say we're complicated!!!

Even the married ones get a little worried I've been with my husband for 13 years, married for the last 8 1/2 and he's a little leary. He's very supportive, and completely backing me up, but every now and then a little comment will slide that makes me realize that deep down every guy thinks that we're going to get skinny, crush their perfect little worlds, and find another man. I just remind him that I'm doing this for not just me but for US, and our future. I'll talk about the things that I'm getting exciting to do - play basketball with him, go hiking...without feeling completely uncomfortable. Men are just funny. Even the strongest get worried. Once the weight starts coming off and your esteem starts shooting up, *hopefully* he'll get happier right along with you.

Mine is the same way...he will joke about me leaving him...but I can tell he is insecure about it. I just keep encouraging him and telling him that I love him and would never leave. I will keep stroking his ego along the way. He isn't much overweight...maybe 20 pounds....but he has asked that I pack his lunch with healthier options...which tells me that this journey has kick started him as well.

Hello everyone... The count down is near 3 days way and I am excited. I'm having a slight problem, since time is approaching my significant other is really giving me signals. It's like he is being insecure asking me will I leave him. My point of it all is to ask is anyone having the same issues and how are you dealing with it.

Thanks in advance...

Mizpk83, I have been married for 19 yrs in June and with my husband for 21 years. He has asked me the same thing and actually said that " i will get skinny, get my nursing license and leave him for somone with more money" It is definately an insecurity for them but you just have to tell them again how much you love them and that if you didn't leave before then what would change that would cause you to leave afterwards. Your significant other will get through this as my husband has. We love our men for who they are, not for what we look like . Good luck I am sure that you will do great!

_{I guess they are all alike! Just as all of us suspected! My husband is also super supportive but makes the same comments. I have to reassure him that I was much slimmer when I married him and this surgery will not change who I am or who I love.}

_{Best of luck Mispk83, fast healing to you and to all above - may our husbands relax!}