OK, I've noticed an exodus of people from this board and to be quite frank, I don't understand it. I don't read every thread, and most threads that I do "read" I just skim, so perhaps I missed somewhere where everyone got into a huge fight and things were being lobbed across the room . . .

I imagine it would open up a huge can of worms if whatever the big deal is is addressed again, so would someone please PM me and tell me what's going on?

(as an aside, I have found some threads offensive but, then, I just don't read them. I have also disagreed with some things I have read but I generally just ignore them)

We have an ignore feature on this site? I didn't know that:duh:. I am serious I didn't know that

Hey - not to sound totally stupid and ignorant here - but is there really an 'ignore' feature and I missed it?

Or are you just saying to generally avoid those threads and posts that iritate you by 'ignoring' them?

i think there is a real ignore feature. you can ignore aa particular person's posts. at least i have seen other boards with this feature. its a great feature!

Ignore a hijacker...

Hard to do when they keep coming back in your face everywhere you go, that is why I used the term hijacker.

If you understood the situation, you'd see that they left the board because the hijacker is turning it into something else, not what it was.

And, no, I do not have to leave because of one person. That is why I am making my stand now, and making it clear that they bother me personally, and I do not approve of their actions. Period.

I never asked you to agree with me.

I never said "he/she started it", I simply stated that most conflicts begin with the actions of one. I do not beleive that hijacking a board should fly either.

Again, you are free to ignore my postings if they bother you.

It's a real feature.

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/profile.php?do=editlist

We have an ignore feature on this site?

Yep, in the same way that you can add people to a Buddy list, you can add them to an Ignore list. Click on their name to go to their public profile and you'll see the options there.

I never thought one person could hijack a entire forum. Still, I suppose it's possible? In life, it's often a small minority that can ruin it for everyone else, I suppose.

Like others, I think its shame that the more experienced bandsters are leaving - for example, I really identified with "Jack". His experiences were a lot like my own when I was first banded, and it was great to hear I wasn't the only one with certain issues... If I remember, his description of the different kinds of PB was a revelation - and certainly helped me prepare for mine.

Ignore a hijacker...

Hard to do when they keep coming back in your face everywhere you go, that is why I used the term hijacker.

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/profile.php?do=editlist

If you understood the situation, you'd see that they left the board because the hijacker is turning it into something else, not what it was.

Insulting my intelligence ("if you understood...") isn't going to win any arguments for you.

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And, no, I do not have to leave because of one person. That is why I am making my stand now, and making it clear that they bother me personally, and I do not approve of their actions. Period.

It was a generic "you". Maybe you(Paul) didn't have to leave but others felt they did.

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I never asked you to agree with me.

Never said ya did. But then again, doesn't mean I can't express my own opinion, does it?

I never said "he/she started it", I simply stated that most conflicts begin with the actions of one.

I'm not seeing a distinction.

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/profile.php?do=editlist

Again, you are free to ignore my postings if they bother you.

You don't bother me, Paul. Just because I don't agree with you doesn't mean I'm going to ignore you. I don't have to agree with you to respond, do I?

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Two points

Quote: I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.

Author: Voltaire 1694-1778, French Historian, Writer

Quote: If we don't believe in freedom of expression for people we despise, we don't believe in it at all.

Author: Noam Chomsky 1928-, American Linguist, Political Activist

Geez I thought you Americans were big on the whole idea of freedom of speech J

Okay if you put their name in the ignore list they just won't be able to PM you right? Can you still see what they have written in a thread? If Not Avoidance sometimes is the only option. For peace sake that is. (Notice I said Peace:peace: not Pete lol.

in another board I belong to I have someone on ignore. When they post their name shows but underneath there is a little line that says "this person is on ignore" or something like that.

Jill,

I am confused. Why are you taking this personally? I was not referring to you in any way, nor was I insulting your intelligence.

I think you need to stop reading in between the lines of my post, believe me, if I wanted to insult someone, I would say it directly.

I absolutley reaspect your right to disagree with me, and to post your response, however, do not denigrate my feelings as to what I feel is happening on this board, and MY OPINION as to the cause.

I have the right to that opinion, as much as you have to yours.

Wow this thread is getting A LOT of attention... I wish some threads with posts about real band problems (small or big) would get JUST as much attention..... thats my 2 cents in a nutshell!

My fear with a hijacker isn't how it affects me. I'm a big girl and can handle myself. My true fear is what happens to someone who is new and doesn't understand some of these nuances. This place has literally saved my mental health at times...and I don't want anyone jeopardizing that for anyone else.

The person(s) that were causing me to get so frustrated has been rather quiet lately so it seems kind of silly that I am still thinking about this. But it’s not often that something gets so under my skin.

Megan

Jill,

I am confused. Why are you taking this personally? I was not referring to you in any way, nor was I insulting your intelligence.

To tell someone "if you understood the situation" is akin to telling a teenager that "they'll understand when they're older", meaning, they do not have the capacity to understand *now*.

I do understand the situation. I have read all the same posts you have. To tell me I do not understand (by saying - if you understood), you did indeed insult my capacity to understand.

I think you need to stop reading in between the lines of my post, believe me, if I wanted to insult someone, I would say it directly.

I have quoted each thing I've responded to you for. There's no reading between anything. I use the quoting system to make sure folks understand what I'm replying to.

I absolutley reaspect your right to disagree with me, and to post your response, however, do not denigrate my feelings as to what I feel is happening on this board, and MY OPINION as to the cause.

How have I denigrated your feelings? By disagreeing?

Isn't that how this whole mess got started in the FIRST place?

You are allowed your opinion, Paul, and I am allowed to disagree with your opinion. I have no called you any names, I have not denied your right to voice your opinion, nor have I said "your opinion is stupid."

*sigh*

We're beginning to not see the forest for the trees here, I think.

The Blame Game is what I am initially arguing about here. I don't want to get into a disagreement about semantics. Which is seems that this as slipped down to. I have no interest in continuing a "you can have your opinion, but don't disagree with mine!" argument.