I kind of hate my new body....

[trishfish 1]

Ok so this just might be a hormone thing...but I needed to come talk to my banded friends.

I've just spent the last hour analyzing my body in a full length mirror...naked. And I hate it!

I have saggy knees...saggy boobs and a saggy belly..and im 27 with no kids!!! I work out all the time in hopes it.goes back. I am so happy to have lost 80 lbs...and have more energy.and I run...but I feel ugly....and my husband thinks I look hot. (which is a whole other mental thing I have.) I was more confident naked when i was 80 lbs heavier....at least my boobs looked good...

my hudband doesn't get it...i don't even get it. Maybe I should talk to someone.

maybe ill feel different in the morning....

[smsmithart 4]

Ok so this just might be a hormone thing...but I needed to come talk to my banded friends.

I've just spent the last hour analyzing my body in a full length mirror...naked. And I hate it!

I have saggy knees...saggy boobs and a saggy belly..and im 27 with no kids!!! I work out all the time in hopes it.goes back. I am so happy to have lost 80 lbs...and have more energy.and I run...but I feel ugly....and my husband thinks I look hot. (which is a whole other mental thing I have.) I was more confident naked when i was 80 lbs heavier....at least my boobs looked good...

my hudband doesn't get it...i don't even get it. Maybe I should talk to someone.

maybe ill feel different in the morning....

[Saraboo 21]

Oh, I look in the mirror and I feel exactly the same way. I hate the way I look naked now. I used to have no problem walking around in just my bra, or changing in front of people, or having "fun", but now, all I see is saggy skin. I hate it. I just try and remind myself that saggy skin or not, I'm happier this way, and healthier. But still. Ugh. :success1:

[AlienBandit 10]

Getting used to your body takes time. Trust me, I am still not used to my body. I was starting to accept it though I didnt see myself as being thin but then i had a Tummy Tuck and have to try to get used my body all over again.

You have lost 80lbs! That is great! Your body is changing still and will continue to change as you lose weight. JDon't worry your skin will change too. Keep trying hard and working out. You are becoming a healthy you

[hiddnstar 167]

Me too. I also can't see my weightloss in pictures. I have my before picture and my now picture---and they pretty much look the same. People tell me I look amazing---they can see the weightloss. I can see it in my face.

But the rest -- I just look fat to me

~hiddn

ps: I feel SO much better physically and love that Ive lost the weight. Going all the way!

[Humming Bird 275]

This is why I am just going to maintain at the higher side of a "normal" BMI. Believe me, my saggyness is worse than yours. I am also dealing with age (my son is older than you) and sun damaged skin. I can tell you that the loose skin does get a bit better with time and your youth should help you a bit. You have done well so far with the weightloss, so try to stay focused on the positive. If your husband thinks you are hot then you ARE HOT!! When you are spooning in bed it is a very different feeling for both of you than when you are picking yourself apart in a full length mirror. When you fit in smaller jeans it is very different as well. Try to stay positive and continue with the great job you are doing. I think the emotional part can be very rough at times, but at the end of the journey you will have your head in a better place more often than not.

[rottie69 4]

Hi!

Give yourself some time, and you will see a difference in your skin. It may not go back to perfect but it does get better with time. Your weight came off faster than it went on so your skin needs a little bit of time to catch up. Congratualtions on your 80 pound loss! I have 34 more to go and ill catch up to you. Im 42, so im worried about the loose skin thing too. So ive made it a point to go very very slow in the weight loss.

[Melissannde 41]

What kind of working out do you do? If running is all, may I suggest some kind of weight training also? I think it helps. Time will help too.

[justplaintired 0]

Wow, I was wondering how this was going to be. I was just banded so I don't know yet how I am going to look in the end. I've lost I 15 and I think I will be happy around 65 lbs more. So, My total will be 80 in the end. I keep saying that I wonder what the heck my stomach (in particular) is going to look like when I'm done. I'm 46 so I really worry!

I always thought that I would get a Tummy Tuck if things didn't look good post-op. Now, after having this surgery, I'm not thinking I could handle a tummy tuck operation too well. I had a rough three days, REALLY rough, with the band. I didn't expect it...I have had other surgeries...just one of those things.

The part that bums me out is that I am reading that so many of you still feel fat or gross. I have the tendency to be hyper-critical of myself, too. I was BRUTAL about it in my 20s. I'm with the other posters...your husband thinks you are hot, then believe him! Stop inspecting yourself in the mirror!

FWIW, you have a very pretty face and I'l bet you will never hear that you're pretty for a fat girl anymore! Or...she'd be so pretty if she lost some weight. OR what a shame...such a pretty face but she is so heavy. You have the pretty face and a small body, too! Your husband thinks you're sexy and I'll bet he is right!!

If you are really struggling, get a counselor. I think we all could use some help in the self-loathing department!

Ok so this just might be a hormone thing...but I needed to come talk to my banded friends.

I've just spent the last hour analyzing my body in a full length mirror...naked. And I hate it!

I have saggy knees...saggy boobs and a saggy belly..and im 27 with no kids!!! I work out all the time in hopes it.goes back. I am so happy to have lost 80 lbs...and have more energy.and I run...but I feel ugly....and my husband thinks I look hot. (which is a whole other mental thing I have.) I was more confident naked when i was 80 lbs heavier....at least my boobs looked good...

my hudband doesn't get it...i don't even get it. Maybe I should talk to someone.

maybe ill feel different in the morning....

[Jachut 487]

I have moments like this too, my avatar pic was probably at my best, I'm at least 25lb lighter now and I look scrawny and like a 90 year old naked. I have a flat chest, all my ribs show, and after all that weight loss and not needing any PS, the last 25lb have left saggy skin on my arms, my bum is just skin with no volume and i have no breasts left at all. I have to try to regain some weight but mentally, I just cant let go enough to do it.

I take comfort in the fact that my husband loves me no matter what, I can hide the worst of it (the boobs and bum) with nice lingerie, so I take advantage of that and dressed, I am tall and nowadays, a size 6, so I can generally look pretty darn good. The general public dont see me naked.

I just figure there's a reason why there's only a few supermodels in the world - they're genetic freaks. I am happy enough to be a normal approaching middle aged woman.

[lingra 1]

I am also having that same feeling, that i just hate the way my body looks now. I know we all did this to lose the weight, but it plays tricks on your mind. I'm 54 and have lost 65lbs. I had my surgery on 08-12-09, so I've lost the weight pretty slow. I wanted to lose slowly so I wouldn't have to much skin sagging. Im greatful for the weight loss, but need help mentally finding the beauty in myself. Thanks goes to your husband who compliments your beauty and "thinks you're hot." Stay on track and we must all love our new self.