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The BIG secret!!

I'm hoping to get my lap band next month. Right now I'm very secretive about telling anyone. The only one who knows is my husband. I guess I'm feeling that this is "cheating"... and people will think negtively about it. Anyone else feel or felt the same way?? I'm pretty nervous abou the whole thing and how I will explain it to everyone. I'm just thinking that I'm going to just them the I'm under a very strict diet with my doctor. Anyone going through any of these feelings??

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Me too. Did you have your surgery yet?

I'm hoping to get my lap band next month. Right now I'm very secretive about telling anyone. The only one who knows is my husband. I guess I'm feeling that this is "cheating"... and people will think negtively about it. Anyone else feel or felt the same way?? I'm pretty nervous abou the whole thing and how I will explain it to everyone. I'm just thinking that I'm going to just them the I'm under a very strict diet with my doctor. Anyone going through any of these feelings??

I am lucky as my BFF had is 8 years ago and is a great support!

Be proud of your decision to become healthy don't ever be ashamed!!! If people ever give you crap about it (I've never had anyone ever be negative about it) but I would get right back in their face and be like well this is my business and not yours and I did the right thing for me and basically you can shove your opinion up your you know what!!!!

When I had surgery the doctor discovered a small hernia that he fixed. My mother was really excited because she could tell my aunts (her sisters) that she was staying with me because of the hernia operation. I am not telling the whole world becuase I don't think it's their business. My aunts can be pretty pushy and my mother just does not have it in her to lie so it was a great answer as to why she was staying with me for a week.

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Me too. Did you have your surgery yet?

YEP!! I had surgery on Dec. 27th. It's only been 4 weeks and I feel AWESOME!! I had NO problems at all, except a little problem with an allergic reaction to the surgical tape. The Doc gave me an RX for the red sore skin. But all of that is healing nicely now.

I'm starting to get my appetite back... maybe that need I'm soon ready for a fill....??

HI

I haven't told anyone...I don't think i will either...Just my husband knows..I am paying for my surgery so im scared of judgement and what family will think ..Im scheduled in Feb.

I understand everyones concern on who to tell and how people would react, but remember we are all doing this for ourselves. Each of us that has choosen to do the surgery has tried a dozen of diets before even considering this surgery. I know I have spent so much money on trying different diets and the most I have lost on the diets were about 10 to 15 lbs.

Having this surgery is stressful enough for us all, because believe it or not it is a big life change for us all. Just worrying about that is enough than to worry about what everyone is going to say about us having surgery. Also, remember that this surgery is only a tool we have to change our way of eating to make this a success and not forget about the exercise on a dailu basis.

Good luck everyone it is hard enough to put our life through this and then have to worry about what other people are thinking.

Dora

Ohh i have something to say about this...People are soooooo judgemental and negitive...i am sick and tired of talking about to the people who give me dirty looks or say stupid ignorant comments like "have you ever tried eating healthy and working out?". REALLY? i feel like slaping people like that. I decided to only tell those people that need to know. its no ones business and this surgery is no where near "EASY WAY OUT". Keep it to yourself and this is what being on this site is for...to vent and talk about it with other people who understand. If one more 125lb friend of mine says one more comment like "try weight watchers" or "join the gym with me". I will flip. thank you..VENT OVER...surgery date feb7th!

OK, First of all I told all of my family and close friends, and close coworkers with 100% support from them all. They all know how sick I've been getting over the last few years due to my obesity. Since I'm up to about 45 pounds lost now, people are definitely starting to notice. But as far as other "acquaintances" go, here's my policy:

  • For thin people that say "Wow, you've been losing weight. How'd you do it?" I say "I cut out bread, soda and sweets, I drink a lot of Water, and I exercise every single day." Which is all true.
  • For larger people who I think really want to know "So, how are you doing it?" I say "I had the lap band procedure which helps, but I'm working really hard to follow the suggested eating guidelines and I exercise a lot!" I just want to make sure that they know that the lapband helps, but it isn't magic... and that you still have to work hard to succeed with it.

OK, First of all I told all of my family and close friends, and close coworkers with 100% support from them all. They all know how sick I've been getting over the last few years due to my obesity. Since I'm up to about 45 pounds lost now, people are definitely starting to notice. But as far as other "acquaintances" go, here's my policy:

  • For thin people that say "Wow, you've been losing weight. How'd you do it?" I say "I cut out bread, soda and sweets, I drink a lot of Water, and I exercise every single day." Which is all true.
  • For larger people who I think really want to know "So, how are you doing it?" I say "I had the lap band procedure which helps, but I'm working really hard to follow the suggested eating guidelines and I exercise a lot!" I just want to make sure that they know that the lapband helps, but it isn't magic... and that you still have to work hard to succeed with it.

:bananapowerslide: :iagree:

I've told my husband and a few people at work. Once I get approval, I'll tell my mother/father in law. (mostly because we'll need their help with the kids on the day of surgery). My family is very judgemental, so I'm opting to not tell them at this point. During my psych eval, I was AMAZED to be told that it's OKAY to not tell people! That mad eme feel so much better.

I was not telling while thinking IF I should get a surgery.

After I started the process, decided on the band, doctor.. etc... I did tell my mom and her boyfriend, my brother, his girlfriend, my cousin, my closest friend, her parents, her husband, 1/3 of my coworkers ...:D

Now I simply can not fail and be embarrassed - I have to succeed B)

I've just told people I'm having a hiatal hernia repair and my dr wants me to lose some weight before surgery to make it safer an a quicker recovery. And it's true, o am having a hernia repair...I just didn't tell anyone that a lapband was going in @ the same time.

We have a similar story. I'm having my left overy/cyst removed at the same time as i'm getting the band (getting banded on 1/31) so I can at least tell people that I'm having surgery. My immediate family, closest friends and a few close co-workers know the truth, but I just don't feel comfortable telling more. Of course, I have an Aunt with a big mouth so I'm sure it will get out before long. I don't plan to lie if someone asks, I just don't want to volunteer the information.

I have told my cousin who had the gastric bypass that I was doing it and she said congrats. Other than that I have not told anyone else that I was actually going to go through with the surgery I just told my mother, and husband that I was playing around with the idea. I feel ashamed but I have been fighting my weight for the past 10 years I need extra help be for it gets out of control. My endocrinologist congratualted me today. I will tell my husband maybe 3 months into my 6 month medically supervised diet.

I am going thru the same thing with my boss... she is my bestfriend and all but she doesn't want me to do this... She says I don't need it, but I do.. I get depressed alot and eat and sleep and cry, mostly cause I feel ugly.. I get the you would be so beautiful if you just lost the weight.:blink: , but all my residents and family and other friends are as excited as I am about this new beginning ..

I'm hoping to get my lap band next month. Right now I'm very secretive about telling anyone. The only one who knows is my husband. I guess I'm feeling that this is "cheating"... and people will think negtively about it. Anyone else feel or felt the same way?? I'm pretty nervous abou the whole thing and how I will explain it to everyone. I'm just thinking that I'm going to just them the I'm under a very strict diet with my doctor. Anyone going through any of these feelings??

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