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I know, I know, I got myself all psyched up and made my appointment to get rebanded January 19th. Now I am having SERIOUS thoughts about cancelling it.

Between the problems I had last summer, then my sister got in trouble recently but thankfully it was corrected with an unfill by Dr. Martinez. Then all the erosions being reported here on LBT...

I know the band is a wonderful tool, but I'm wondering if I'm just too emotional (plus the fact that I'm at the change of life age). Both my sister and I struggled with eating when we would get tired, stressed or emotional at all and our band would basically put a tourniquet on our stomaches.

I also am afraid of going more into debt. I'm still paying off my first banding and my band removal.

So for the month of December I'm leaving my appointment with Dr. Ortiz, but am trying to lose on my own (yes even at holiday season) and will make my final decision at the end of this month.

Thanks for listening!

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Hugs, Darcey.

Anyone could understand your fears. I know that everyone will support you in whatever you decide.

Happy Holidays!

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It has to be a hard decision for you, especially with all the problems that have been going on here. Just listen to your heart, I'm sure you will make the right decision.

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Darcey, I think you are very wise in giving this a second,third, forth... thought. Its your God given right to change your mind - and I certainly would be reconsidering it myself. This isnt your first "go around".

Hang in there Girl - and go with the decision that gives you a peace of mind.

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Think my decision is being made for me. I was just diagnosed with a rotator cuff tear in my left shoulder and I have to see an orthopedic doc in 2 weeks (hopefully will get in on a cancellation) Ended up leaving work a couple hours after I got there tonight. I'm checking into using my short term disability 'cause work seems to aggreivate it. Of course this will take any leave I have plus any extra money or overtime so I definitely cannot afford the rebanding plus by that time I will probably be mending from surgery on my shoulder! ARGH! Oh well....at least the decision is a no brainer at this point.

Thanks for your support and input!

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Bummer...too bad you can't have both surgeries done at the same time and be done with it! Rotator cuff surgery is a hard one too. I will keep you in my prayers! At least if you have insurance they will cover that one!

Dawnita May

DOB 10/05/05

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Hey Jack!

I don't know of any more good Soup places, but I did play around with a Beer cheese soup recipe here at home and it came out pretty good! Maybe I should just have you guys over to my place sometime??? Teresa's friend Tracey lives not far from me either.

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Darcey, you've got to feel good about getting rebanded, I mean really good, after what you've been through, take all the time you need. If you chose not to do it, then so be it.

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Thanks Pat,

Sorry to say that I've gained a LOT of my weight back since losing my band. Struggling a lot with myself. At this point, I don't have the funds or the time to take off from work to get rebanded even if I was ready mentally and emotionally.

Jack, let me get back to you on possible dates and times, okay? I would have to do it during the last 1/2 of the week otherwise I'm sleeping during the day. When works for you? Also trying to work around physical therapy for my shoulder and such.

Hey Teresa, are you around?

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