WrenBird

For the record: I, and most of the 'critical people' in this thread aren't against diet pills. It's her lack of knowledge on the subject and judgement towards everyone with a lap-band that irked me.

I'm so sorry to hear. I hope everything works out for you. <3 *hugs*.

I'm worried the same thing will happen to me...My fiance first took notice to me becasue he liked my chubby round bum. He has a thing for chubby women and I'm worried he's not going to find me attractive when I'm thinner. I don't really have any advice for you besides seeing a therapist. My mum and dad's marriage is perfect because they've seen a therapist a few times. They've been together since they were 15 and they're so inlove. Sometimes these things just happen. If you love someone enough you'll see that it's worth fighting for - I think both of you need to start fighting. At the moment though, your husband seems to be making it a bit tougher for you...Just let him know the importance of weightloss and what it means to you. If he really loves you then I think you guys will do just fine. Good luck to you both. It takes a lot of effort, but I think if you guys really do love each other then there's no way this little obstical will ruin your marriage.

What does he use to find the port? x-ray? ultra sound?

2 weeks seems a bit excessive for humans, but it makes sense for rats. People do stop eating when junk food isn't available, which I think is the point they're trying to make. The duration of that period of not eating is irrelevant because we're as a different species with different needs. I knew that before I got my band I used to get hostile when someone didn't buy me my favourite foods...It was all junk food, of course. If there wasn't junk food in the fridge or pantry I wouldn't eat and I'd get very very mad and complain that there was nothing to eat. In those days I was a very very upset girl and the fridge was always full of nutritious foods that I eat now, but wouldn't think to of eaten back then. I once went 3 days without eating and told my doctor that it was because my mum hadn't gone shopping. There was plenty of salad in the fridge, I was just being a bitch. It's amazing what the asbence of an addictive thing can do to someone...I was a completely different person when I was forced to eat like a normal person.

Good luck with your surgery <3

Awww, no worries :-) Glad to see the word's getting around. BTW: Refined sugar is also addictive.

Is it possible that the gas is unable to escape because the band might be too tight? Hope it all works out for you. x

I would think so too...

It'd be kinda cool to have sister wives I reckon...But if you have a catfight with one of them then you're stuck with them,.

I deleted it right after I posted it because I was looking at the wrong thread...Why would you re-post it if I deleted it? I think I'll hold back on sharing my experiences with appetite suppressants now, it's obvious you don't want to hear my opinion.

No one was attacking you for wanting to take appetite suppressants...I think they were more offended by your ignorance than anything else, which is why I find it hard to believe that multiple people messaged you saying they were in the same boat. Once again, no one's against appetite suppressants. If you just posted here to get people to smile at you and say 'go for it', it wouldn't be a very good advice forum, would it?

I also know of someone who's had the band and never had a fill. She's lost 60 kilos :-)

I hear ya...When someone does as much work as we do to get fit, THEN they can judge...Quietly and to themselves... The funny thing is though I actually felt guilty from eating mince meat...I looked at how much work I'd done and then thought to myself, "you know what? Mince meat is something I HAVE to have because I can't eat very much Protein at the moment". I just needed to look at the logical side of things and trust myself and not make myself feel sick over guilt. People like that are the ones that enforce unhealthy eating obsessions on other people. My mum does it (yet she riddles her house with junk food) and my stupid friends do it too. It's annoying. But someday I'm going to be thinner than all of them and I can then slap the celery out of their hands.

I read your blog :-) I love peanut dressing!

Gah. I hate it when people who know NOTHING try to give you weightloss advice. My friend who's lost all of her weight through liposuction tried to tell me to not eat mince meat the other day...I was so offended that someone who has had liposuction and it booked for another round gave ME advice on losing weight. I work my damned ass off to lose weight! I exercise 10 hours a week and I watch what I eat...Just because I needed meat and at the time I couldn't eat it because it was too heavy for my fill, I chose mince meat and she said that it had a tonne of calories in it. I believe I had one bite, felt horribly guilty and then cried. People are stupid. They think that if you eat foods like nachos or meat or anything that isn't lettuce that it's obvious that you eat it often and the band is doing ALL of the work for you. Gah...The band does 1/4 of the work and you have to do the rest. If you wanna eat nachos like a normal person, which you are, then who the hell ahs the right to tell you to stop? No one. Especially someone who has no idea what the hell they're talking about.

Is the sleeve and or GB more expensive than the lap band?

Mmm...That is weird. I probably would've just laughed and taken it as a joke, if it it wasn't. I'm a bit of a push over in situations directed at me...Don't mess with my fiancee though because I would slap someone over that. My new aqua aerobics teacher is a bit of a bitch. I've been doing aqua aerobics for ages but because I hadn't attended her class before (they're all pretty much the same) she thought it be a good idea to pick on me because I was the heaviest. I had to explain to her that I'd been doing it for a while now and that I'd lost 13 kilos (this was a couple of weeks ago) doing it. Everyone congratulated me and she didn't mess with me again. With the small amount of information you've given me, I'm just going to assume that she's a bit of an awkward weirdo...Because normal people just don't do weird stuff like that

Hello! I just wanna know your stories. I'm going to guess that some, if not most are going to be similar. I'm just curious as to why you didn't get a gastric bypass or the sleeve? Why did you go for the LAP-BAND? For me personally I was a little worried about the restriction being permanent. At some stage I'd like to have kids and having a good amount of restriction while pregnant worried me a little. I think the adjustable side of things makes me feel a lot more comfortable. I'd love to hear your stories, opinions and experiences!

I think I'll use tofu. I've liked tofu in the past couple of years and have been searching for yummy recipes with it in it.

aaaaaaaaand this is why I adore you <3 I've never had chili before so I'm going to try this one tomorrow. Thanks

Please understand that I mean my responses in the NICEST possible way. You still need a lot of willpower for the band to be successful. The band does 1/4 of the work, you have to have the willpower to do the rest. Some people get the band because they're hungry all the time...I'm sure if you told a thin person who's hungry to stop eating, they wouldn't. Where I'm from a doctor will only approve a patient for LAP-BAND if they've tried everything else and failed. I'm assuming this is going to be different in other places, but I think it's a pretty important factor...I think that surgery should be the last resort. Lucky. For some reason appetite suppressants didn't work as well for me as the band did...I don't think you should regret the band until you get your first fill. I felt the same way :-) You need to do what's best for you. No judgement here on that one! Uhhh...I don't quite know how to answer your question then lol. I felt the same way as you did (except I may have been a bit more pissed off than you). I was in depression for a few weeks after the band because it wasn't supressing my appetite. After I'd had a fill I felt great and everything went fine. I know how agonisingly annoying it is to hold back from food, but it gets easier. So far I've lost 15 kilos in under 2 months. That's 33 lbs. I didn't really start losing my weight until I got a fill. I exercise for 10 hours a week and don't eat refined sugar or carbs. For me that's been as tough as hell to overcome. I remember sitting in my bed thinking about the full fat yogurt downstairs in the fridge and crying to myself. Yes, crying. I then remembered eating a giant pizza right before my surgery and crying AFTER that...I think knowing how bad I'll feel after eating it is my greatest motivation to keep away from food. I really hope this works out for you. I know this isn't something you wanna here but...It gets easier :-P

When I was in hospital there were 2 ladies who had also had been banded that day and both of them had to have hernia repairs.

Usually a can of chicken with some mustard. lol.

The shoulder pain was the worst for me...It lasted a while too. If you've been given meds, don't be afraid to take them...In the mean time... CONGRATS AND WELCOME TO BAND LAND! :rolleyes2: