LaLu

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people.
As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people.
As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people.
As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

Ok, I can't stand it any longer....people can be respectful with being honest. I have seen someone actually respond this way and please understand that I don't talk or write this way.....WTF, you should look at other threads because that has been discussed over and over.....to me that is talking down to someone and very disrepectful. I don't have to see their face to know what the tone of voice is when I see something like that. I think these boards for the most part are great and most of the posters are great too giving their opinions even if what they have to say doesn't agree with what the orginal poster is asking/posted. Each persons journey is different but in alot of ways the same. We all need encouragement to substain us and sometimes brutal honesty too but done in love.

Well said floridays
People do new thicker skin, especially to survive here. But it just sucks that that's the way things are. I feel sorry for the people who don't have thick skin, because they probably need more support than anyone, and they are the ones missing out or getting these harsh/judgmental comments and maybe not coping as well as the rest of us. People don't think about who's on the other end of these comments they make and what they have been through.
I just wanted to make everyone think about the comments they make and how they effect others, but looks like its just made things worse.

That's actually exactly what got me angry in the first place and that's why I posted this. A few people have told me the same thing as well. There's a difference between telling someone they should try harder and that we all make mistakes every now and then, and being lectured to make them feel worse which could send them in to more trouble. If that makes sense.

That's actually exactly what got me angry in the first place and that's why I posted this. A few people have told me the same thing as well. There's a difference between telling someone they should try harder and that we all make mistakes every now and then, and being lectured to make them feel worse which could send them in to more trouble. If that makes sense.

I believe diffrent types of feedback are necessary it allows the original poster to decide what they may or may not want to try to help themselves along their journey. Also must remember these are just our opinions and experiances and should always still check in with their doc before changing something dramatically since we are not doctors just people who have "been there" so to speak.
The one thing I have noticed that is upsetting to me though is when someone posts something such as " help I messed up. I ate to many calories today or I splurged and ate ice cream and not my Protein or I had alcohol and way to much" instead of getting an its ok we've been there or you can bounce back! You have the ones who instantly start with why did you even get a band if you were going to stick to your old life and so on as If they have never once made a mistake with their band.
Believe me I have made quite a few and I'm sure ill make many more along the way the band made my portion ability smaller it did not reset my brain or change my tastes buds so ofcourse I'm going to flub up now and again. I think thats where the original poster was going with it. That some people instantly lash out because they have been successful instead of trying to be supportive.

Lannah I am 100% on your side!! My issue is that their is 3-4 people on here that INSIST On posting in every thread!
Those 3-4 people think the sun shines out their arse and its their way or the highway!
I don't think they know they do it, or maybe it's just a strong American personality that I'm not used to.
And before they say anything, I have the toughest skin out and nothing anyone says hurts me BUT why can't this be a place for normal people that are struggling to come together?
( I have been private messages a previous time when I brought this up. I was told to be careful as the 'BANDED b*****s' will privately abuse you if you bring it up. One lady had to shut down her account)

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people.
As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

Our administrator Alex has handled this subject quite a few times. He wrote
"this is an open forum and everyone is entitled to their opinion as long as it is within forum rules. If a statement is made you don't like ignore it and move on. If there is a poster you continually do not like you are given the option to BLOCK that person".
Thank you Alex for working these options into your forum. You were thinking ahead.
Everyone of us have different personalities, we come from different cultures, different stresses in our lives. So yes, you most definitely will get different responses. It's a fact of life.
Please everyone take Alex's suggestions .
Happy Holiday's to all!

I got past that bit of weight that kept going up and down randomly just dropped off me lol.
I'm not on a diet or anything I'm just watching what I eat and exercise when I feel I need it. Figured as long as I'm loosing weight it doesn't matter what im doing. When I first got my lapband i did all the dieting and exercise and lost heaps of weight and then it got too much for me to deal with life an all the pressure of diets and exercise an the rules of the lapband, and it didn't work and I put all the weight back on. So now I'm only doing it casually and that way its not possible to go back to old habits, because nothing has changed dramatically. And it's slow enough that my body won't put it all back on.
So I got past that weight I was struggling with, and I still refuse to go outside and walk or exercise because at the moment it's summer and 105 degrees (Fahrenheit) in Australia. I started swimming but just for fun not for exercise. And today I got out the total gym and some weights, but I don't like doing that because it's never worked or me to loose weight, that's why I like my treadmill so much cause it's easy and i know it works for me.
A mate is going to see of he can fix my treadmill for me, so fingers crossed!

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people.
As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people.
As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

Harsh and judgmental is exactly what I meant! That's the words I needed. That's what I mean when I said "rude". Haha thanks dfav you said it better than me
(and yes you're right it's not the majority of people)

I hate how many people on here lecture other people. They tell everyone what they should be doing and that if you don't do it a certain way it won't work. Which is bull. And not to mention how rude everyone is these days. I come on here for help and support, and now if I come on here I just want to scream at people to lighten up. Don't be so strict on others! If that's how you want to do this journey that's fine, but I don't need to hear your lectures and you don't need to be so stuck up just because your loosing weight. Everyone here is loosing weight, you aren't any better or smarter than other people.
As long as you're loosing weight and happy with yourself and what you are doing, that's all that matters!

Sorry about the beginning of that post. I was typing from my phone. I am not the best with the touch screen. I was trying to encourage the both of you guys, Lannah and Shelley. Its all about the small things. I am trying to get back on track, so we are all in the same situation. We can do it though.

Okay not that I want to admit this to the world,
But I was banded almost 2 years ago. I was 18 and the first few months were great.
I lost 20 kilos and had a few top ups. Down from 130kg to about 110kg
Then, things started happening in my life (I won't go into detail)
And I stopped thinking about my Lapband. I stopped seeing my doctors and I stopped eating right,
I just didn't want to think about any of it because I wanted to concentrate on my mental health at the time.
I put on weight and stayed around 120kg until a few months ago. I'm now back to almost 130kg but too scared to go see my doctors and get a fill.
I don't want them lecturing me, I know I screwed up. Everyone always talks like if you screw up then that's it, it's over.
Which is why I feel so guilty, but I feel like if this Lapband is in my body for the rest of my life. Why can't I keep trying until I get it right?
I can now eat normally like I never got banded. Just a bit more pain then there should be.
But after reading this forum again for the first time in 2 years I realised that I didn't have as many fills as I should have. I didn't get to the point that I wasn't hungry.
I can't even remember buti think I only had 2 fills.
So maybe if I can get the courage up to go and get more fills it will make me stop eating so much?
My point is, I always hear of people and their success stories,
And I also always hear of people who fail and then give up...
But is there ANYONE out there who failed and is motivated to try again?
And if so, where should I start? Because I only just decided 10minutes ago that I might give this another go.