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atroglet

Gastric Sleeve Patients
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    atroglet reacted to kimbernada in WLS Cover-up Story   
    I even bought the same brand/color of pants in smaller sizes so that no one really even noticed my weight loss until I'd lost closer to 50-75 pounds. No one even said anything for the first six months. Well, no one outside of my team at work. They knew I had the surgery, but they didn't find out until the Friday before I had my surgery. I had okayed the time off with my manager and didn't tell anyone else about even that (just the generic "surgery"). One of my teammates had asked "What kind of surgery are you having? Or should I not ask that?" So... I said "Weight loss surgery" and then explained what kind. Our team is like family, so once I told them, I felt much better about it. NOT saying anything was kind of bugging me. I didn't want anyone to know that I was having this surgery BEFORE I had it - mainly because I did NOT want to hear negative stories. Everyone knows someone who had complications, etc. Well, actually I do know someone - my aunt. (She had bypass surgery about 15-20 years ago.) But there are complications for any surgery. I know someone who died during a knee replacement, which seems to be one of the more "common" surgeries. Another aunt (sister of the other one) died during a different "common" procedure.
    Anyhow, I've rambled a little. To the OP, there is no right or wrong regarding what to tell others. What YOU feel you need to do or say is the right choice for you. For ME, once the surgery was over and I was feeling good about my surgery, having great success and no complications, I found that I didn't have a problem telling people who asked. <-- emphasis on asked because I don't just stop and tell people about the surgery.
    Even my UPS driver said to me last week "Okay, so just what have you done?" I was actually confused because I wasn't sure what he was talking about. He was pretty funny because he said that he had wanted to say something the last time he saw me, which is actually kind of rare to SEE him, but he said he wasn't sure if it was appropriate. I did tell him that I had surgery last summery and then, as usual, I explained a little about the surgery. (Who knows? Maybe his wife is overweight and that's why he asked me what I did?)
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    atroglet reacted to newat52 in WLS Cover-up Story   
    Do whatever you need to do to get through this journey. Trying to cover your tracks can be tricky. How about not saying anything at all? It has worked well for for me. The only people who know about my surgery are my husband on one of our sons. For me, I'm just a private person and never talked about my medical history or very personal things. It's just not who I am.
    For work, unless someone asks, don't say anything. Legally, you don't have to disclose to HR anything other than medical issue. If someone asks how you are losing weight say "working really hard at it." Or how much have you lost? (a very rude question in my opinion) say "a bunch."
    There are ways around it without lying. You just need to remember that just because you are asked a question, does not mean that you are obligated to answer it. People will get the idea that you do not want to discuss it. Some may persist, those are the ones that whatever you tell them, they will tell someone else so don't hesitate to shut those ones down. If someone keeps asking me I will look at them and say "boy you sure are asking a lot of personal questions." They will usually get embarrassed and say something like I was just curious and my reply is "yes, I can see that." It will shut them up.
    What I am saying is don't be bullied into telling people things you don't want them to know, just because you are asked a question don't mean you owe them an answer. Then you don't need to keep any stories straight.
    Getting sleeved and losing weight is not the easy way by any means. Do whatever you need to succeed. Sometimes though, we over think things and they can be quite simple. For me, closing down the conversation before it gets rolling has worked for me.
    Good luck in whatever decision you make!
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    atroglet reacted to SerendipityHappens in WLS Cover-up Story   
    Only say you're getting your gallbladder removed if you actually ARE.. otherwise, if you ever have to get it removed for real, then that's another cover story you'll have to invent... If you really feel you need a cover story, you could say you're having a hiatal hernia repair...And it's something in the digestive system, so it would require the liquid diet and all that.
    Personally, I just didn't say ANYTHING. That left my options open so that when I was ready to, I could tell people. I waited until I had lost 100 pounds and then just casually told people about it... kind of like in an "I can't believe you didn't know" kind of way.
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    atroglet reacted to Andrew0929 in WLS Cover-up Story   
    You make some good points and I do hate to get all caught up in a web of lies. One lie leads to another, when trying to cover-up the truth, and eventually it can all become apparent to everyone that I was lying. That turns into a lot of work for me (keeping track of all the lies) and for no net gain if everyone figures out the truth in the end.
    This is what I'm struggling with in trying to determine whether to attempt to cover up or just be (somewhat) honest with everyone from the start ...
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    atroglet reacted to A_ReNUDE_me in WLS Cover-up Story   
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    atroglet got a reaction from A_ReNUDE_me in WLS Cover-up Story   
    Personally, when I had my lapband surgery I made up excuses to friends and coworkers. I told them I had a come to Jesus meeting over my vacation to start eating smaller meals (mostly Protein drinks) and start moving more. Fine and dandy until 8 weeks later I get REALLY sick.
    I became septic because of a nick of my liver during surgery and almost died. One lie became a million until I wasn't sure who knew what.
    Needless to say, I won't be broadcasting it but if asked I will definitely tell them what I'm doing. Plus I just didn't feel good about myself making all kinds of crap up. What if I could help someone who is also obese out with the truth than making them feel like more of a failure because they can't be the type that can diet and exercise the weight away.
    Don't know if I'm making any sense but just the way I'm going to deal with it. To each their own.
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    atroglet got a reaction from A_ReNUDE_me in WLS Cover-up Story   
    Personally, when I had my lapband surgery I made up excuses to friends and coworkers. I told them I had a come to Jesus meeting over my vacation to start eating smaller meals (mostly Protein drinks) and start moving more. Fine and dandy until 8 weeks later I get REALLY sick.
    I became septic because of a nick of my liver during surgery and almost died. One lie became a million until I wasn't sure who knew what.
    Needless to say, I won't be broadcasting it but if asked I will definitely tell them what I'm doing. Plus I just didn't feel good about myself making all kinds of crap up. What if I could help someone who is also obese out with the truth than making them feel like more of a failure because they can't be the type that can diet and exercise the weight away.
    Don't know if I'm making any sense but just the way I'm going to deal with it. To each their own.
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    atroglet got a reaction from A_ReNUDE_me in WLS Cover-up Story   
    Personally, when I had my lapband surgery I made up excuses to friends and coworkers. I told them I had a come to Jesus meeting over my vacation to start eating smaller meals (mostly Protein drinks) and start moving more. Fine and dandy until 8 weeks later I get REALLY sick.
    I became septic because of a nick of my liver during surgery and almost died. One lie became a million until I wasn't sure who knew what.
    Needless to say, I won't be broadcasting it but if asked I will definitely tell them what I'm doing. Plus I just didn't feel good about myself making all kinds of crap up. What if I could help someone who is also obese out with the truth than making them feel like more of a failure because they can't be the type that can diet and exercise the weight away.
    Don't know if I'm making any sense but just the way I'm going to deal with it. To each their own.
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    atroglet reacted to steelersgyrl in WLS Cover-up Story   
    I struggled with this but this week I said PUCK it and told folks at work. All were pretty receptive; however, at the end of the day I have to ask myself..why do I need to lie about this and why do I care what others think. That's their issue and their problem..not mine. and I must add when I shared..i felt extremely free if that makes sense...
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    atroglet reacted to No game in Where do I stop...goal weight related....   
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    atroglet got a reaction from RTRsleever in October sleevers   
    I am on 10/11 with Dr. Ilian
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    atroglet reacted to Juciilyps:) in What was /is your motivation for having surgery!   
    Whats my motivation!!! I am tired of being fat point blank period!!! I am tired of working out and getting frustrated when I only see 10-15 pounds and give up t gain 30 back..I have clothes with the tag on them when I lost 40lbs but I gained 40+ back... I want to cross my legs.. I want to look down and see my vag jay jay..lol.. Without having to hold my stomach... I want to look sexy in panties and bras.. I don't want to be ashamed of my body... I want to work and wind m damn hips during sex and not be tired after 5..lol..
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    atroglet reacted to cescelli in I am embarrassed   
    I have been very open about it. It's my life and body. Everyone else's opinion doesn't matter. Don't be embarrassed!
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    atroglet reacted to Italiancurves in Newbie here, how did you all pay for surgery? Finance?   
    My credit is no bueno either and I do not want to wait to save up money. I've waited long enough. I was turned down buy the finance companies so I asked my mom to co- sign. She agreed but the bank said no, she would have to finance without me and I could make payments to her. Mom said, ok we will work something out. I sent in my deposit. And two days later in the mail I received a card from my awesome beautiful mother who said... I love you and know how much this surgery means to you... Best wishes... Happy healthy journey... Inside of the card was a check with the rest of the surgery money. My mom is my best friend, I'm truely blessed and grateful to be paying cash.but if I had to collect aluminum cans, work 80 hours a week, walk people's dogs, whatever it takes I was going to find a way!
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    atroglet reacted to LipstickLady in Am i screwed?   
    chicken nuggets have carbs. It's in the breading.
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    atroglet reacted to NoneYa in Does anything know about death in Mexico.   
    I very clearly stated that I do not know the facts just as you don't know them. I clearly said IF the story as told is true........The difference is that I do not know or have an emotional bond or some kind of loyalty to the surgeon in question and I don't automatically assign the seat next to God to all Drs simply because they are mine. My opinion had nothing to do with intrigue or pot-stirring and frankly I resent your assertion otherwise. My opinion stands.
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    atroglet reacted to supbanana in Made it to Tijuana, surgery tomorrow with Dr. Illan at Florence Hospital!   
    http://imgur.com/a/ldVZI#0 (Note: potentially NSFW, incision pics are pics of my bare tummy)
    ^ Some pictures from Tijuana, both the hospital and hotel, and of course some pictures of my incisions!
    Between the two week pre-op diet and the two weeks post-surgery I'm down 28 pounds and LOVING the sleeve so, so much.
    Also, if any of you want to see the part of my stomach that was removed, well...
    http://i.imgur.com/CbipMcy.jpg
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    atroglet reacted to 2btrim in Does anything know about death in Mexico.   
    I agree with this, but only to a certain degree. Ya gotta know that Dr's here in the US cover each others butts all the time. I'm a victim of that, so frustrating I tell you.
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    atroglet reacted to Chellennunley in Pre-op Diet & Cheating!   
    Mine was also clear liquids only. For 2.5 weeks. I did not cheat at all. I was to afraid to! I lost 29.7 lbs during mine. My surgeon was very proud of me. That was the best reward.
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    atroglet reacted to sheilarae in My boobs got the memo...Wish my butt did too!   
    I have a new bra size...36 long
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    atroglet got a reaction from JACKIEO85 in My story--banded for 9.5 years.   
    Amen, sister! I found out the hard way by posting my story on here and unless it's positive - forget about it!
    I wonder what makes all these people so defensive. They have success on their side but have to bash anyone that didn't have a positive experience! So sad!
    As I was told you must just be doing it for the "I'm sorries" I get. Ya okay! Good luck OP on your sleeve!
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    atroglet reacted to DawnOfANewMe in Pumpers and Sleeve Surgery   
    Hi, I am also a Diabetic on an Insulin Pump that just had my surgery last Thursday, July 7. My basal rate was originally set at 4 units/hour and he had me change that to 3 units per hour the day before surgery and then the morning of surgery had me change it to 1 unit/hour. My surgeon allowed me to wear my pump as long as I placed it on my thigh. He couldn't have anything on the abdomen area. He gave me strict instructions that I was not to give myself a correction unless my sugar went over 226. The anasthesiologist placed my pump into a rubber glove and taped it to my leg so nothing would get on it and he told me not to worry as he would be monitoring my sugar throughout the surgery.
    The techs came in 4-6 times per day to take my blood sugar readings which I input into my pump. The 1st day of surgery, I was pleasantly surprised I never went over 140 - no corrections needed. By Sunday I was averaging around 126 for the day and by Tuesday I am running 96 - 112 - no corrections needed. I am still on 1 unit per hour and that's it. I go back to visit my endocronologist in a few weeks and he is very optimistic that I will be able to come off all of my diabetic medications and insulin.
    Dawn
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    atroglet reacted to LBD in How many of you had to have an open procedure?   
    So sorry! Didn't mean to scare you. Just because my doctor made a huge mistake, doesn't mean anyone else's will and I wish you the best of luck. I guess I felt the need to share my story because I still am pissed off about it. That doctor never came to see me in the hospital except for one time at the end of my 8 day stay and that was to tell me that my "anatomy was different". Never apologized and I went through hell. Made sure that I have a surgeon now that seems to care more about what happens to me. I'm also realizing that being that mistakes like the one my dr made are so rare that my posts about it don't really help anyone else in coming to terms and making the decision to move forward, which is hard enough as it is...
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    atroglet reacted to Jen35 in Does it really matter?   
    I understand what the OP is saying to a degree. I've seen some posts get out of hand and really hateful. Not toward me, but others. I try to stay out of the drama and just scroll on by . This is a public forum and there will be people you don't like, don't agree with, etc. But can't we, as adults, express our differeing opinions in a respectful way? I will say that the majority of those on this forum are very helpful and well meaning. I still come back here so I'm obviously getting something positive out of it!
    What the OP may be talking about is the judgemental attitude in the sense of "if you don't do things exactly the way I do then you're doing it wrong and you are going to ruin your sleeve and die" (I'm exaggerating a bit). I've seen this in some posts (again, not directed toward me) and it bugs me.
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    atroglet reacted to Dan2013 in Feel very lucky   
    Well here goes, I got to my heaviest weight 334 and decided I need to make serious changes. I am 37 but like most I can lose weight but can't keep the weight off. I went through the year long screening and education process for insurance to cover the surgery. My surgery day was July 16, 2013. I did a 10 day liquid diet and lost 19 lbs. My surgery went smooth with very little pain and no gas pains or nausea. I worked myself up so much before the surgery I almost left the hospital without doing the surgery. I stayed in the hospital for 2 nights and went home, hardest part of going home was the watching all the commercials about food and watching my kids eat. I started my soft foods on July 30 and have been doin great, I never even think about food much anymore, I have to tell myself to eat 3-4 times a day. As of August 9th I am down to 288 and feeling great, still learning to listen to my sleeve but enjoying getting energy back and watching the weight fall off.

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