Rosie Sue

For me it happens if I overeat or i get stuck. It hits me in the neck, shoulder and the worst one is when it hits me in the back!. But as I learn It's getting better, I make sure not to overeat. (chips are the worst, very painful food, i see them and get scared now, so i guess it's a good thing!)

I am completely lost without the junebugs now!

Of course we've talked about it. His grown children from a previous mariage talked to him about it (they don't come around much because of it) He knows he has a problem, admits it, but won't get help for it. He keeps saying he's too old to change. I think he's too scared to change. After 15 years if it, and watching it get worse, I've had enough, life is too short for all this waiting.

Well, I've started looking around for a better job. I work seasonal right now, get good money, but I need something year round if I want to support me & the kids. My husband has drank away everything he owns and I see him drinking away this house inside the next 5 years, he already drank his buisness away, his vehicle, so I have to save myself. And there's no way I'm going to bust my butt working just so he can continue drinking. It's either he quits or I'm gone. Oh who am I kidding, I want out of here. I am disgusted with it all. In the past 15 years I worked so hard making a nice home for my kids, I can't beleive it will all be gone soon and someone else will be enjoying all my hard work. In a way I'm glad my father isn't around to see all this. But I know deep down that it's not my fault. He's the one drinking drinking DRINKING. I feel bad for my kids because they;ve grown up with a beautiful big yard and a nice house, and we'll probably end up in an apartment somewhere. they will definately hate me, blame me, resent me, but in the end I hope they see & remember how their dad treated us. |Too bad we'll have to lose everything though.

For me, eating is an ADDICTION. Telling you to stop eating after 1/2 cup is like telling an alcoholic to stop after 1 sip. WE have to eat to live, we need food. it's not like just stop going to the liquor store. I got the band because i needed HELP. I agree with you that if you're not feeling restriction, whats the use having the band? I couldn't do it on my own before. I really really need the help. I'm not losing much, but i'm always looking forward to a good fill that will give me restriction and actually make me feel FULL after that /2 cup of food. i beleive it's out there, i just need patience and not lose my mind when i'm having a hard time with no restriction. hang in there with me shurmeka, we're truly in the same boat. we'll get there eventually!

Hang in there. I havent lost much either (3-5 lbs in 2 months) i've had to fills and now have 5cc in a 10 cc band, and it's not enough, i still dont have enough restriction at all. i can eat over a cup of food if i eat slow enough. i know thats the choice i make, i can't stop myself, so i lose SLOW. i go for a fill in 3 weeks and i will be lucky if i'm down a pound. of course i dont exercise as much as i should. i want to be realistic about this, i know i wont be a gym person or a marathon runner, so why dump money into it now so i can fizzle out of it in 6 months. if i lose slow, i figure it will be a normal slow, not a run around with my head cut off, exercise freak, fast losing different me. i want to stay me, but in a smaller body. does that make sense? anyways, i just hope my next fill will be the ticket. good luck shurmeka.

I have 5 cc in a 10cc band and it's not enough for me yet. i can eat over 8oz some days, and i can gulp water just like before the band. I slime at least once a day, but thats because of poor choices on my part. i still have 3 weeks to go before my 3rd fill.

You sound like me. Things are going slow for me. I've been banded 2 months and i've been bouncing around the same 5 pounds. But i got my 2nd fill last week and WHAT A DIFFERENCE. Now i have restriction. I was very sore too in the beginning, i couldnt sleep very well, i'd get up in the middle of the night and cry because of the pain especially to my back. But it took about a month to get back to normal. Now i have to learn not to cheat on my band. i have to stop eating 'sliders' as in chips, pie, shakes....it's all up to me now. the first fill did nothing for me. nothing. but the 2nd one is helping a lot. Please don't get discouraged, it will get better. I was where you are and now i'm back to normal.

I'm losing! started counting claories, i've been resisting doing that since surgery (50+ days) I wasn't losing, but now that i realized that i was eating almost 4000 calories i've cut down to 1200 aprox. and the weight is going down, a good 5 lbs this week. I hate counting calories, but it's easy using the lapband-progress site. i went out with the kids last night, they needed a night out, i had some onion rings and i don't regret it, they were good! i get another fill in 2 weeks, i hope i get RESTRICTION! i can eat more than a cup of food at a time, and i only get stuck if i eat too fast, wich doesnt happen often, but i'm getting good at eating slow, i don't have to think about it much now. anyways, it felt good to get out last night, we had a lot of laughs, it was very relaxing, we really needed that. it took a while for us to unwind, but by the end of the night we were giggling & joking & we talked about all sorts of stuff. very nice. i love my kids.

oh, and i've had my first fill a few weeks ago, didn't do a thing for me. no restriction. and i can pretty much eat anything. i get my next fill next week so hopefully i will be able to eat less. it's frustrating, but we're all in the same boat. we must have patience (how can i grow patience?!?!?)

I had to check the user on this blog, I thought I'd written it!. I've been banded almost 2 months, and lost about 3 lbs since surgery (20 pre-op) I've been very dissapointed, but i have to admit i wasn't giving my all in this. Only the beginning of this week have i started counting my calories ( iHATE THAT) and i noticed that even though i wasn't eating much, way way less than before, i was still getting in close to 4000 calories! now that i've cut down to about 1200-1300 calories a day, i've started losing, i've gone down a good 3-4 lbs!! plus i also have to admit that i'm not exercising through this, that would help if i did, but i'm stilll the fat girl inside, even with the band. so it's not an easy road and the band surely is a tool. i guess i'll have to get off my butt & work at it. Good luck, let me know how it goes.

Thanks guys. Yes I used to be strong, but with the help of my lapband, i feel i'll come out of this a new stronger person with more confidence than before.

The truth. I want to lose weight so I can get a better paying job so I can leave my husband. I married a mentally abusive alcoholic 15 years ago, and that has led me down a river of self abuse/denial. I've filled the holes in my life with food & pets. Food loves me, pets love me, and I love them back. Don't ask me how it all hapened. It just did. He drove away my friends, then my family, then my own self respect. But bit by bit I'm clawing my way out of the hole I've been in. When I got my band I started to see light. (he never even asked me why I was in the hospital. duh, love) It's hard, but I know i'm not alone feeling this way. I don't want to be thin so i can get another man. No way. I've been burned enough. I just want to have people look at me, not look at my fat or my ill fitting clothes. I can giggle and joke about the chips I had, or the donut i had, but it's sad. There's nothing funny about being fat.