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OHH IM so excited for you . Good luck . Versaid is great. You will be just fine and your husband will realize what he's missing out on now that its too late. Hang in there you can do this. Im so happy for you . Mindy

If I were you I would not stop taking the wellbutrin cold turkey. Even though you have only been on it for 10 days you will probably be ok . But its never a good idea to stop taking any antidepressant cold turkey. If you having problems with your meds and your doc wont call you back SWITCH DOCS. That's BS . Are you taking your wellbutrin at night or in the morning ? if its in the morning try taking it at night . HTH Mindy

Funny you mention that. Since I have PCOS my husband and I had to have sex basically every day for 5 months ( I was VERY lucky i got pregnant that fast with PCOS) in order for me to get pregnant. During that time I wouldnt say I had a "Sex drive' But i had a "Mission" to get pregnant so I wanted to have sex. I have never really been one to want or initiate sex. My marriage suffered a GREAT deal because after I had my son my husbnad and i basically had no sex life. I slept on the couch for 4 yrs. We had sex MAYBE once every 6 months. ( People are AMAZED He never cheated on me ) As SOON as I got on wellbutrin ( For migraines as well as some anxiety issues) BAM I had a sex drive. Now 1-2 times a week and my hubby is happy as a clam . Im still not sure if THAT IS normal or "enough" But after what we went through my husband is MORE Than satisfied. OH and i have no problems with O"s actaully now that i think about it I usually have Several lol . My lack of sex drive i firmly belive is related to my PCOS and my wt of course. Mindy

Gummiebear, Im not sure how often you get migraines, But I do still get migraines on topamax but I went from getting them 3-4 times a week (4-6 in the summer) to 1-2 a month . So it significantly improved them . For migraines the topamax is used as a preventative. Its interesting that I have now found out its used as a mood stabalizer. I recently told a friend fo mine " I didnt realize HOW Bad i have felt for so many yrs until I started feeling " Normal" by not having so many migraines" I thought that simply not having so many migraines was making me feel better. So maybe the topamax itself was making me feel "Normal"LOL. Im on 100mg a day and its encouraging to know that the dopey feeling goes away eventually . I am kind of use to it now ,others that are around me are use to it, Its something i found that i have to warn others about . I say things sometimes that dont make sense. I have to call someone as SOON as i think about something or i'll forget. ( that drives my husband NUTS when I call him 100 times aday but he's use to it now )LOL. But Like I said before , Im willing to deal with that as apposed to having a migraine almost everyday . Mindy

Hell you just described me . Take out the taking care of the mother part and add in taking care of 2 boys and a husband , who btw are slobs and think im their maid , bills, a business , the house, dinner. I Just get out my Ipod and dance to FOOTLOOSE . O Wait im only 31 But BOY Do i feel old sometimes lol I feel for you taking care of your mother though seriously . I did home heatlh care for 4 yrs and THAT Is hard work when its a job , I can only imagine when its life.I admire anyone who does that. Go have a good dance. And try FOOTLOOSE its a good pick ya up song lol Love Mindy:clap2:

Ok I debated about weather to share this or not . But I usually do not hesitate about this so i'll go for it here. There seemed to be only 1 or 2 other woman brave enough to fess up to an abortion This is MY Story . Think what you want : At age 16 I got pregnant , Because I have PCOS I honestly DId not know I was pregnant until I was 22 weeks pregnant. It was quite normal for me to not have periods for 4-6 months at a time. So when I found out I was pregnant it was a shock to find out how far along I was. The "Sperm Donor" as I call him Thought I tried to trap him into marrying me because I was so far along , I literally had 1-2 weeks to decide if i wanted an abortion or not . HIS words were " Have an abortion i'll pay for it , keep it its not mine and your on your own" . I chose to keep my son , I lived with my parents, finished high school , worked full time as I was going to high school . Had it not been for my parents I would not have been able to make it. Fast forward 3 yrs . Met a guy , Was on birth control, We lived together for a yr I was 19-20 yrs old and found out I was pregnant Again , OMG WTF am i going to do . THere is NO WAY Im going to be 19-20 yrs old and have another baby . I DID Take precations to avoid this from happening. My boyfriend and I were ni the processs of breaking up . Why you might ask ? OH Yeah I forgot, He JUST GOT DONE Beating the SHIT out of me and put me in the hospital THAT"S How and where i found out I was pregnant. SO I decided to have an abortion, I couldnt do it alone with 2 kids , and I was NOT Going to raise this one with an abusive father. BTW The first guy TOOK OFF . Now let me explain something .... An abortion is NOT AN Easy thing to do , At least for me . For those who think its an "Easy fix " You couldnt be more wrong. I had my abortion on the Friday of my son's birthday party, that sunday I was at his birthday party in pain , NO ONE knew I what i had done expect the father of the baby . Dont think that doesnt bother me EVERY SINGLE Year, it does. BUT I know for my son's sake it was the best thing . I KNOW I did what was best for me and my son . NOW That being said , DO I Agree with abortion as birth control ABSOLUTLY NOT , do I agree in late term abortions HELL NO . Am I Pro Choice YES. I am now married with another son , I have a 14 yr old and 5 yr old. Im 31 yrs old. I have a son that is almost half my age. My life was rough enough as it was, trying to date as a teenager was not fun or easy with ONE Child let alone 2, it would have been nearly impossible. Money has always been tight. For the first time THIS YR I paid for and gave my son a birthday party 100% on my own with out ANY Help from my parents. after 14 yrs . BTW I have been on goverment assistance ONCE to get my son's eye surgery paid for by meidcaid because my insurance at the time wouldnt pay for it , I had to go on it . I am married to a wonderful man that loves my son as his own . OH Yeah the "Sperm donor" Died in a car accident 6 yrs ago . He was a drug addict , he essentially killed himself with drugs . MY son would have had no chance with him as a father. the father of the child I aborted has been divorced 3 times and arrested 3 times for abuse. I KNOW I made the right choice , Would I Do it again ? Probably not . Was it easy choice to make ? NO , BUT I had that CHOICE . Does it Bother me ? Sure it does sometimes. Does it "Haunt " Me ? NO . People who have abortions are not cold hearted "Baby Killers' as those who might think we are , because that's what gets YELLED At us as we walk into a clinic. We are not MURDERS, we are not EVIL , Most of the time we are simply people who unknowingly and probably unwillingly made a mistake ( even those who tried to be responsible and protect ourselves) we ARE HUMAN , we DO Make mistakes , Dont judge until you are in our shoes. I had a friend Yell up and DOWN she would NEVER EVER have an abortion , guess where I took her .... Mindy

I think it depends on the doc. I wanted my tubes tied at age 25 in 2001 in Texas . The doctor i had told me he would not do it. I asked him why , He said " My age requirement is 25, which you meet, however I do not feel you have been married long enough ( I had been married a yr ) and I feel you might change your mind , Since my husband didnt agree with my getting my tubes tied he REALLY wouldnt do it ." So my doctor took MY CHOICE AWAY FROM ME. I was 25 and had 2 children. But when I asked him " Would YOU Snip my husband he said Well YEAH " . Mindy

I currently Do not have health insurance and I am in the process of getting it. Since we are self employed we have to get private health insurance. Ok ...private health insuracne WONT Cover WLS, its 3Xs as much as group insurance and the covereage is WORSE. The policy we are getting becasue fo the price and it actually has pretty good coverage... They wont me to have my OWN Policy , its cheaper that way . Ya know why ? Because im OBSESE . Like you said they wont pay for a dietitian , WLS , Hell even a gym membership .. BUT they WILL PAY For a Tummy tuck and a boob job if i can prove its a health issue ( Which I WILL LOL) MY Policy is $160 a month, my husband and 2 boys policy combined is $220 ! GO Figure. it is a catch 22 . and a MONEY ploy on their part. I have keep Wt off for a YR to lower my premium . Its ALL ABOUT MONEY Mindy

I toatally understand how you feel. I have been overwt for 6-7 yrs. And I look at myself and think " Im one of those people I use to look at and think " HOW can someone get like that " But its ME NOW . 7 yrs ago when i met my husband I was 135 pds. Sometimes I sit and wonder HOW DOES This happen to me. I was talking to a friend of mine and I think either before i have the surgery or after the surgery for SURE I am going to go to a conselor just to make sure im 100% mentally ok . I think i might have some underlying issues ( OK I KNOW I DO ) I want to find out what caused me to eat the way i do . Or just to keep me honest I guess. I was watching Carney Wilson on the View today and she said that she's SUCH an emtional eater. But I got the picture that she hasnt changed ANYTHING when it comes to that since she had her Bypass surgery . I dont want that to be me. I hope that makes sense. Mindy

Im in a really funky place. Im going to be self pay . I know what doc im going to use , I know SO much ( i feel) about the surgery , I feel I am SO VERY VERY ready . BUT I cant go any further because Of money . We THINK That I am going to be able to get it done in December. We own our own company ( Just started it in Feb.) and its going VERY WELL. SO IF things keep going the way they are now and IF We get paid for the job we started In December I'll be able to have it. BUT I wont know until December comes. In the mean time im still busting my ass cleaning houses just in case. So im a bit depressed. OR I should say I get a bit depressed. Some days I feel like " Its SO CLOSE" Other days I feel " Its SO FAR away " Someday I have to stay away from my lap band boards and friends because its too depressing for me , other days I NEED them to keep me thinking " That's going to be me soon" As for the banding itself im very excited about it because I feel like i KNOW SO much about it that I am nothing short of 1000% sure this is for ME . I know 100% this is the right descisoion for me. I just have to get there. I would feel better if i just KNEW I was having it for sure in December. I dont know maybe its better I dont know until I can start my pre op stuff .I think the anxiety and anxiousness alone would give me an ulcer LOL thanks for listening Mindy:eek::help:

Sorry I was wrong Kind of lol ,,,,, I read up on it more and I guess its now being prescribed as a mood stabalizer.It is technically an Antiseizure med . Learn something new everyday . My bad. I did find this as well . http://bipolar.about.com/cs/topamax/a/0209_topmigrain.htm HTH Mindy

Topamax is acutally an antiseizure med that is also used to prevent migraines. I have not heard of it being used to treat BP or a mood stabalizer. http://www.healthsquare.com/newrx/top1541.htm I am on topamax for migraine prevention and after 11 yrs of preventatives not working its the first one that has worked. It does however make me feel " dumb down" or it can I should say . My new neuro suggested that I take 25 mg in the morning and 75 mg at night before I go to bed. And that REALLY helped the "dumb" feeling. some call topamax dopamax lol If you do not have migraines or seizures I would REALLY question why you were put on topamax. I notice no side affects of wt gain. The side affects I Do have from topamax( and there can be MANY ) are numbness in my hands and the bottom of my feet , one side of my face will go numb and the ding bat syndrome as i call it . The numbness is short lived ( about 20 mintues coming and going ) I however choose to live with them , its either that or having migraines 4-5 times a week. Im also on Wellbutrin for Depression associated with my chronic migraines. All I have to say about that is LOVE IT LOVE IT LOVE IT. NO Side affects . In fact sometimes i have to REMEBER To eat because it does have an appeite supressant in it. Oh wait that might be from the topamax LOL Granted meds affect everyone differently but everyone I know who's been on effexor has gained lots of wt. A friend of mines son was on it for 4 months and gained 75 pds before I told her ' Take him off that he's going to die " The doc had no CLUE what he was doing . She saw nothing wrong with him gaining 40 pds in 2 months ( he's 11) BeecheeGirl , I totally understand your frustration , The only thing i Can recommend because i went through it with trying to get the right combaination of meds for my migraines is keep trying. If your not happy with your doc , get another one , its VERY important you find a doc that will listen to YOU and YOUR Concerns. HTH Mindy

Very well said. I know in my situation I get enough people judging me in my own family for this descsion , I need all the support i can get. Mindy:clap2:

Ok here's something . How many of you are already planning have Plastic surgery AFTER The lap band ? I already know i need a tummy tuck and a breast lift after 2 kids by age 31 ( First one at 16) . SO Im already going to start saving after my surgery for my PS ? Anyone else have that mind set ? LOL Mindy

I too will admit that part of my reason for being banded was due to the fact that I Dont like how I Look. It has nothing to do with how others view me, call me names, perseive me . Its all ME . Im getting the band because I want to feel better about myself. What you said about the insults made me think of something. I generally have a problem keeping my mouth shut in certain situaions lol . Normally someone could look at ME and make a comment and I would not say anything. Teenagers now can be CRUEL as hell . My little sister and I were at Target a few weeks ago . My sister is 14 . ( im 31) My sister just got out of Volley ball practice. She had those tight SHORT volley ball shorts they wear. my sister is TALL and skinny , the type that CAN wear those shorts. WELL, these 2 snotty little twits walk by both were around 20ish in age. As we were walking in I saw then starring her up and down and rolling their eyes. We walked in the store and my sister bent over to tie my 5 yr olds shoes. Then one of the twits said ' OH KAY Can ya get EM any shorter bitch" SHE Thought I DIDNT Hear them , my sister did not . I HOWEVER Was FURIOUS . ( these 2 girls were not exactly thin ) I Turned around and said " They are called VOLLEYBALL SHORTS BITCH if you have something to say to her say otherwise keep your mouth shut " I get so tired of walking around the mall with my sister and see these teens looking each other up and down based on HOW they look . My sister did NOTHING To those girls. My sister about DIED by the way LOL . She was calling all her friends saying "Your never gonna guess what my sister did " . But I think girls in general do things like that BECAUSE NO ONE Ever calls them on it . Maybe next time those girls will THINK before they do that to someone . Sorry that quote just made me think of that. lol Mindy

One more , I found a chewable http://www.fish-oil-supplements.com/supplement-facts/dha-kids-120sg-carlson#ingredients Hope that helps a little Mindy

Im not banded so I cant say I have had this problem. But my Sister in law takes fish oil for a condition she has. They have it in liquid form . From what I hear its NOT Pretty tasting. BUT Just looking around really quick I did find some for Kids , so i bet that tastes better. You could probably take that. http://www.evitamins.com/product_grid_sub.asp?catID=65&subID=471 HTH Mindy

Im 30 yrs old and the only Obesity related issue I have is sleep apnea( something my father has as well) although I suspect It will go away when I loose wt . I have no other issues. I have PCOS But I had that before I became obese. I have been obese for 6-7 yrs. There is a reason they call people who have a certain BMI MORBIDLY Obese , its becaues conditions related to the wt can KILL YOU . With just me having PCOS, Sleep Apnea and my migranies ( something i have had all my life ) I am at risk for diabetes, stroke, high blood pressure, heart attacks, depression, uterine cancer , and heart disease. JUST To name a few. That's not inlucding my complications I COULD get from being obese. The symptoms from PCOS will all but diminish ( SO they say ) after i loose wt, as will the sleep apnea . ( Migraines I'll have all my life ) . I am 30 i wanted to get this surgery BEFORE I get any of these things and have to play with my kids in a wheel chair or a hospital bed. I could give a rats A$$ what society thinks about me . Personally I do not think someone should get the band because of what someone ELSE Thinks about them . Its kind of like getting plastic surgery because your husband wants YOU To have bigger boobs. Its not about the other people its about you . I count myself LUCKY I have not had any problems of major proportions from my wt. But im NOT Going to sit around UNTIL Something happens to do something . Just my input Mindy

I too am waiting to be banded . Waiting for the money . I will be self pay as well. Your BMI Is similiar to mine , Im 5'4" 240 and my BMI Is 40.1 I have PCOS and sleep apnea. but otherwise I am in good health . I debated for quite some time about lap band. I have tried the Exersise , the diets ect. With the PCOS I knew the wt loss was going to be tough . I put off surgery because I thought surgery would be tough to loose wt with PCOS as well. Then i started to research more. The only thing that I can tell you is that once I decided I decided and NOTHING WILL STOP ME NOW from gettnig this surgery . I have the will power of a NAT . or so i thought until now. lol . I have smoked for 15 yrs at least a pack , pack and half a day . I quit cold turkey a month ago . I decided i better do it now before surgery , healing is better when you dont smoke and if i gained wt it would be better to do it before the surgery . My surgery WILL HAPPEN . Im not keen on Mexico the more i read about it . Im staying in the states. What im trying to get at is .... For me once i decided this was for me and I KNEW I COULD Do this and I COULD loose wt with the band that was it . Sure i had my doubts , i still have my concerns , it is surgery , like someone else said its natural to have concerns. But Im educated about my conerns and know what im getting into. I have a friend who is banded and is not doing as well , with wt. I firmly believe that is because her DOCTOR Did not educate her enough about the band and she didnt educate herself enough about the band. I know more about the band than she does and I dont even have one yet. Its up to you to learn as much as you can about it . Then if you decide to do it KEEP Learning. Almost every question I have had is on this board answered and at least 10 people have gone through it. So bascially I think if you KNOW the band is for you... you KNOW . if that makes sense lol At least I did . Mindy

I couldnt remeber what the heart deal was called. LOL Its called a PFO . here is a more specific article http://www.escapemigraine.com/escapetemplate.aspx?section=pfomigraines Mindy

There are studies going on now that suggest that some migraine pts have tiny holes in their hearts . Its something that was found my accident by fixing these holes and in turn those pts that had migraines no longer hvae them . Its not known yet if ALL migraines pts have these holes . Migraine pts who are known to have auras are more likely to the holes since these holes can lead to strokes. . I asked my neuro about this . He said " Is it promising yes" would I tell you to go have HEART Surgery to FIX Your migraines ABSOLUTELY NOT ". It is something that I think eventually may lead to something promising . But for now I think its one of those things that happen to "Fix" people with migraines by accident who they found the whole in . I personally think it could be something BIG in the way of curing migrianes. People can have these holes in their heart and be just fine. Here is an article http://abcnews.go.com/WNT/Health/story?id=876088 What Victorianna was saying however about her doc telling her she had TMJ and too much estrogen is not untrue either. Most migraines pts have TMJ . TMJ Is not the "cause" Of migraines but it doenst help either. The estrogen deal could also be PCOS . Both conditions I have. Again not something that causes them but contributes to them , making things more difficult to treat . HTH MIndy

Thanks Ive been using the lotrimin powder spray for a few days now . its getting better. I got a few new bras. Its getting better slowly .Ive had it before under my "apron" On my tummy . Thanks everyoen for your advice. I love that site too Mindy

Its been close to 2 months for me now since I have quit and im no longer on patchs . I can say that I can think " I kind of wish I could smoke" then its gone. Or almost in habit think " Time for a cigerrette" then go "OH wait i dont smoke" I was at my parents today watching NASCAR with my dad , our usual Sunday deal, really for the first time since I quit and he would go outside and I went outside w/him while he smoked and had not urge. So its easier. I think the "wanting" a cigrette is more of a habit deal , I use to smoke after I ate so I think of it sometimes becuase i feel like i SHOULD be doing that / Does that make sense LOL GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE I Hope ya'll are still doing well . :tape::gluck:

I could not agree with you more. I have had migraines for 20 yrs , since i was 11yrs old. I had tried EVERYTHING . I finally gave up on trying new preventatives because i figured" what's the point nothings going to work anyway " Finally my doc started me on Topamax I decided " OK I"ll TRY IT " It works . It has some strange side affects that I have heard others on my migraine boards just cant handle. For instance , the one's I have are numbness in my hands and feet( usually in the tips of my fingers and the bottoms of my feet) tinglying sinsations in my face and forgetfullness. The numbness is usually short term lasts for about 20 mintues when it comes on . SOME People can not tolerate it at all. But i figure its better than having a migraine. The meds have decreased my migraines from 3-4times aweek 5-6 in the summer to 1-2 a month . Its VERY manageable now along with the wellbutrin. I did not realize HOW bad I felt until i started feelign " Normal" I personally HIGHLY recommend preventatives. It takes a while sometimes to find the right one but its worth it .

The High school my son will go to is Hays. Up until a yr or so ago Hays' Symbol was the Confederate Flag. It flew at the school, on the school , it was ON the football field. On school Tshirts ect.. All the points that you stated TOM were debated when people started an uproar about removing it. My "issue" with that was the Hays Rebels as they are called has had the confederate flag as long as the school has been open as its " Symbol" , I for the life of me couldnt understand why it was an issue now ? Im sure it was an issue for some I dont know before that point. But it got UGLY around here over this. Before this though , honestly you would see people of ALL colors wearing everything and anything with the confederate flag on it. The flag is still flown , just not at the school , its still around , the mascot now is a yosimite sam looking guy " rebel" But the "Rebel" Flag is still around just not the "offical"symbol of Hays HS. I personally and honestly ( dont shoot me) do not know enough about it to know if I should be offended or how i should feel about it , i just never took the time to learn about it . So i can not say one way or another. Was it better for those Amish children who were held hostage and eventually killed to not know hate ? To be sheltered , but when it walked into the school they were in and they were confronted with it by a man holding them hostage . Was it better for them to be SO Isolated that they did not know people like that exsisted , people COULD hate like that ? Then when something happened like that , what must they have thought ? Its all a very tricky deal. Just like raising kids . Its a very slippery sloap to know what to do between what is right and wrong and what might shape them the right way and the wrong way . Its rough , at least for me sometimes.