Hey all...

I wrote a post last week "No support from friends". Just today, I was reading this forum. My boyfriend came over to me where I was sitting with my laptop. He said 'Wow, you're reading that forum alot'. I explained how I am getting so much great information from you all, and I want to be as educated as I can be. He asked "Are you sure you want to do this?" I said yes, explained that I'm tired of gaining and loosing - and I don't want to gain any co-morbidities. He then said "Ok, then I'm going to tell you this now, "I love you exactly the way you are now". THAT meant the world to me. Not b/c I didn't know that, but it just felt really good to hear it. So his support is coming around a little at a time.

Then I questioned myself and will ask you the same question:

"Is there a point when you asked yourself, 'Do you WANT to have the band, or do you HAVE to get the band?"

Have a great evening.

Sheri Lynn

Both. I wanted it very much and knew that if I didn't do it I might not be around for many more years. I have grandchildren that I want to watch grow up and there is still a lot in life that I want to do. I was to the point that I couldn't do those things anymore. That's why I got the band. Because nothing else worked and I've been dieting my entire life.

Sherrilynn, that's so nice to hear. I've been married a very long time and many years ago when I weighed much less but was still struggling with it, my sweetie told me that he would love me the same no matter what I weighed. Well, I reached the morbidly obese stage and he still treats me like a goddess.

I wanted the band, but also had to have it. We're older parents of a 13 yr old and I do so want to see him grow up and also see grandchildren if he decides to procreate. Thanks to pretty good genes, I managed to get as heavy as I was with relatively few comorbidities, but I think they would begin to show themselves as I aged.

Good question!!

I wanted the band because I had to get healthy and nothing else worked in the long term. So, I wanted it because I needed it.

I am so glad that your BF is coming around. My husband is as well. I also was upset about not getting any support.

I currently am having " issues" with skin break down or something under my breasts and I was so upset today over it. I Showed hubby and he said " OH DAMN what is that from " I told him " BEING FAT" started crying told him they were " Fat Sores" . Later today our office manger came over , i thought it was weird he was over on Saturday . After he left hubby says " I think your surgery can happen in December " . they were going over money from the business .

Something else when I had my break down he said that you might want to think about Sherrilyn. My husband told me " Mindy I feel like im in a catch 22 with you , if i told you I Think the Band is a GREAT IDEA that's awesome you would say something like , YOU THINK IM FAT I KNEW IT U Want me SKINNY .. if i told you no you dont need it , you would say ... SO YOU WANT ME TO BE FAT AND MISERABLE " and ya know he was SO RIGHT. I would do something like that. So maybe your BF feels a bit like that too . Im glad he's coming around.

As for me and the band: Im doing it because I WANT IT , i have never wanted anything more in my life (other than my kids) BUT I want it so bad because I NEED IT . I NEED IT TO be around for my kids. When I heard those words " YOUR MORBIDLY OBESE , it scared the crap out of me. I NEED this ...

HTH

Mindy

Dear Coltonwade,

That 'rash' under your breasts is something that I get also. It's called Intertrigo. It's a fungus of sorts. I even get it under my armpits. The best defense is keeping those areas dry, drying them COMPLETELY after showering; and I used Lotrimin powder spray EVERY day; instead of deordorant. I can no longer use regular deodorant; it somehow upsets the fungus. I am a very clean neat person; but this came years ago before I diagnosed myself, then doctors confirmed it for me.

BOY can it be painful; makes me cry! And it's much worse in the summer.

Visit it on the internet - it could be your issue as well.

Here is a good start: http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/breasts_f.htm

Dear Coltonwade,

That 'rash' under your breasts is something that I get also. It's called Intertrigo. It's a fungus of sorts. I even get it under my armpits. The best defense is keeping those areas dry, drying them COMPLETELY after showering; and I used Lotrimin Powder spray EVERY day; instead of deordorant. I can no longer use regular deodorant; it somehow upsets the fungus. I am a very clean neat person; but this came years ago before I diagnosed myself, then doctors confirmed it for me.

BOY can it be painful; makes me cry! And it's much worse in the summer.

Visit it on the internet - it could be your issue as well.

Here is a good start: http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/breasts_f.htm

Sherrilyn,

I LOVED the website. I've just spent about 15-20 minutes reading all the entries. You can be sure I've added this to my list of favorites.

Thanks,m

Jo Ann

Dear Coltonwade,

That 'rash' under your breasts is something that I get also. It's called Intertrigo. It's a fungus of sorts. I even get it under my armpits. The best defense is keeping those areas dry, drying them COMPLETELY after showering; and I used Lotrimin Powder spray EVERY day; instead of deordorant. I can no longer use regular deodorant; it somehow upsets the fungus. I am a very clean neat person; but this came years ago before I diagnosed myself, then doctors confirmed it for me.

BOY can it be painful; makes me cry! And it's much worse in the summer.

Visit it on the internet - it could be your issue as well.

Here is a good start: http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/breasts_f.htm

Thanks Ive been using the lotrimin powder spray for a few days now . its getting better. I got a few new bras.

Its getting better slowly .Ive had it before under my "apron" On my tummy .

Thanks everyoen for your advice. I love that site too

Mindy

I totally WANTED to do it..........I have NO regrets and I feel like a new person.

I feel like I have control over my weight issue. I have never felt in control of it and now, I CAN and WILL be healthy..........