NewBeginnings2018

Hi all! Denise, this is not the 29 year old, although the guy I met the other night is younger - 31. But he really seems to have his stuff together. He owns his own house, two cars, has a good job, and we just planned our second date which is at another very nice restaurant. He's not show-y though. Very down to earth, normal guy. The 29 year old, which I have dubbed my "Boy Toy" because he's hot lol, wants to go out this weekend. He's definitely only looking for one thing, which I won't give him, but I may go out again just to have some fun. We'll see. I'm actually quite excited about the new guy (I'll have to come up with a knickname for him lol) but I don't want to get my hopes up. Hopefully the second date is as good as the first. Karla I usually meet them somewhere the first couple of times, and it's usually for dinner. I always suggest just meeting up for coffee or a drink, but the guys I meet ALL want to take me to dinner. It cracks me up. They have no idea if they'll even like me, but they want to buy me dinner?? I get a little uncomfortable if it's a nice place or an expensive meal. That's happened to me twice so far. My friends tell me to just go with it, but it blows my mind that a guy has no problem dropping $75+ on dinner when we haven't even spoken on the phone yet. lol But I also appreciate that these guys are trying to show me that they know how to treat a woman right so I am just trying to "go with it". Oh by the way Karla - I'm so jealous about the LBT cruise. That will be a blast! Soooo...those of you who've been reading right along with my saga will get a kick out of the fact that my tattoo boy instant messaged me last night. He saw a new pic I had posted on Match from a wedding I was in last weekend, and he wanted to "let me know" that I looked beautiful. Then he started on about how he really doesn't know why we broke up, and he's sorry blah, blah, blah. I told him not to be sorry, it is what it is, and I've moved on. Well now he's been text messaging me. Ugh. "I'm so sorry I messed things up with us" and "Thanks for letting me get things off my chest last night". I've just not been responding and hoping he'll just go away. Wish me luck! lol

Well I think with the band it is slower, but it does come off. It also takes a lot of work and effort, but in the end it will all be worth it no doubt. So update on last night's date. I was sooo dreading going out. I was just tired and had no interest in going. I came close to canceling, but I went anyway. And you know what? It was probably the best first date I've been on. It was slow in the beginning, but after we warmed up a bit we had a great time. We laughed and seemed to have a lot in common. Over 3 hours flew by and neither of us noticed. That's always a good sign. On the drive home I chuckled about how surprised I was that I had such a good time. See...and I didn't want to go! So we'll see if there's a second date. I hope there is. Kristi how are things with tattoo boy? Wootsie, Karla, Efika, how are things with you ladies? How about those gents out there. You guys have got to be facing some dating challenges too, no?

Oh Mandy you are waaaay too kind! The full body shot will show you where I need to lose the other 50 lbs from. lol

Hey everyone - I'm alive! The wedding was Sunday and it was a blast! A little soggy with all the rain, but by the time the ceremony was over the sun was out. There were a few tears at the reception, but there were some very touching moments that will make wonderful memories. Here's a pic. I'll see if I can find a pic of the dress to post as well. They were very pretty. As far as the dating life is going, I'm still out there dating. I'm meeting someone new tomorrow night, he seems nice, but we'll see. I also went out with a 29 year old who was HOT and we're supposed to be going out again. I'm not sure he's relationship material but did I mention he was hot? lol. I'm just having some summer fun right now and when the right guy comes along I'll know it. I've also been feeling like I really need to buckle down with this band. I've done ok so far, but I've really only been losing a couple pounds a month if I'm lucky. At this rate it will take me forever! I need to start working out, and I hope to start next week. I need to get things in order as I've been living in chaos for the past couple of months. If I don't start exercising next week, you can all yell at me!

Hey Kristi!! I'm so glad you posted - I was wondering how life was treating you. I'm sorry things have gotten weird with your tattoo boy - maybe it's the name. lol. Seriously though, if you're still interested in him, I would talk to him and let him know that you like him, but you feel like he's not interested. Tell him why you feel this way, and what you're looking for from a relationship and maybe he'll do the same thing. Maybe he needs you to call or plan dates so he feels wanted. You never know, but if you really like him it's worth having a heart to heart. If you talk and things don't change - dump him. You're too good to put up with crap or someone who's not going to be into you 100%. Welcome spedhelk, and good luck with your surgery! I agree that it's not about how others love us, it's about how we love ourselves. Kristi you asked, so here is my latest: I went out with a 28 year old (I'm 33) and let me tell you, he is hot. lol I'm sitting on this date with him thinking there's no way he's going to be interested in me - he's younger, hipper, and did I mention hot? lol. We shared a very nice kiss at the end of the date and he asked me to go out again. I wasn't sure if I really liked him, but he was cute enough for me to say yes to a second date. Shallow, I know! lol. We haven't been on our second date yet, but he has drunk dialed me a few times this week while he was away on vaca. It completely cracks me up! I'm not sure if there is anything substantial really there, but I'm going to go out with him again I think just for fun. I said to my girlfriends that this makes me nervous though, because I have no idea what I would be like if I get to the point where I'm able to "get" the hot guys. lol Oh to have such a problem! I've been on a few other first dates, and I have a few other offers on the table. It gets tiring after a while going out all the time. lol. But I keep trucking along.

Hey Dez!! I agree we need to get together again! Things have been crazy and hectic here too, but should calm down after tomorrow (I'm in a wedding that has been monopolizing way too much of my time). I'm still losing, but very very slowly. I have been coming to terms with some band issues and have decided that I really need to start working this band. No more excuses! So let's shoot for June maybe? I'm open the entire month!

Wow Dianne, you look amazing in that mothers day pic!! I hope you feel like a million bucks because you look like it!

Congrats Patty!!! I have to say the shoulder pain was the absolute worst part of the surgery for me. It gets better day by day.

Well Eficka I really moreso go on the first couple of dates with no expectations. If I decide I like them, not so simple. lol. Online dating is not my favorite way to day, but it's really the only way I know of to meet people, because I certainly don't meet them in my day to day life. Wootsie so glad to hear from you! I think you're smart taking things nice and slow. The right guy will understand why and not push you.

Happy Mothers Day to all our mommas on here! I hope everyone enjoyed their day with their families. Me, I had a cookout with my family and then went to go visit my "second" mother. She's very ill with cancer, and it breaks my heart to see her like she is. She has her wits about her, but is in a lot of pain and is wasting away to nothing. I am praying that her final few months are as pain-free as possible. Her youngest daughter is getting married next weekend (I'm in the wedding) and I hope she's up to being there for the whole time. I'll be sure to post some pics after the wedding. Patty - good luck tomorrow!!!!!!!!!! I can hardly believe it's finally happening for you. :rose: You are more prepared than most probably, so you'll do great. I will be thinking of you tomorrow. :rose: Mandy we are going Sept 16-22 and would LOVE to meet up for lunch with you. Since we have yet to book anything for meals (haha) you pick the day, time, and place and we'll be there! There are a few places Sherry and I were thinking of for meals - the Hoopdy-Doo Review, the Sci-Fi Diner, the 50's place in MGM, the Coral Reef. Any suggestions you can give for your favorites would be great. It's sad but Sherry and I haven't even had the chance to discuss our meals in Disney. On some level we're not even worried about the food which, to me, is a victory! lol. But I know we have to book or we'll be waiting in some long lines. Hi to everyone else - Cindy, Kat, Darcy, Betty, Beanie, Eileen, etc. I've been reading along, just not much time to post here.

Happy mothers day to our single moms!!!

Denise - I think you are beautiful at the size you are so no need to wait! But you do what makes you comfortable. As far as tonight, we only spoke over emails, but they were pretty lengthy and I could tell he was a really nice guy. I just got home and he was very, very nice. I had a lot of fun, and I think we're going to go out again. I heard from the 29 year old as well. I didn't really think I'd hear back because he's really cute and out of my league a bit I think. lol. My friends hate it when I say things like that. lol But anyway, he wanted to go out tomorrow night but I have wedding so we're going to meet up afterwards for a drink. Should be fun. Thanks for the reply Lee! I'm all about the fun these days. Sounds like you're doing well with the band!

Hi Suzzie - welcome! Ok, I owe you guys a fill-in. I had a date this week with a 29 year old. He was HOT. lol. I don't think he's relationship material but I'd go out with him again just for fun. I figure I deserve some of that. I have another date tomorrow night, and it's one I'm actually looking forward to if you believe that. lol. We'll see though. I've learned to go in with no expectations so I'm not dissapointed. Sad, huh? lol Oh and I heard from tattoo boy today. I knew it was just a matter of time. lol. I'm all set there thank you. So that's it with me really. How's everyone else doing? How are things with you Wootsie??

Kristen I think it's probably better off that way. Have fun at the class today!!

Hey guys, just got back from a work trip to Myrtle Beach. The weather was great but man, I hate and drank waaay too much. lol. But I'm still alive and kicking. I'm in a wedding on May 20th, but other than that I should be around. I would love to see everyone!!

Oh Kat I'm so sorry that Rick is having health issues again! It has been quite a year for your family. We will be thinking of you both! Mandy - our price of $650 included airfare. I think it was around $150 and airtran as well. Although Diseny messed up booking our tickets, and put Sherry's last name the same as mine. This is even though we used her credit card for the deposit AND I asked the guy what info he needed on Sherry for the plane ticket. Now I have to fed-ex the air ticket back to get a new ticket. I'm not happy. grrr... Congtrats on your date Pat!!! WhooHooo! It has been a long wait, that's for sure! Hi Darcy, Cindy, Beanie, Eileen, Betty, and everyone else! So Sherry and I have decided that we need to start exercising so we're using Disney as a motivator. We have committed to exercising 3 times a week each week between now and Disney. She is thiiiis close to hitting onderland, and I seem to be at a plateau, so it's time to get things moving!! Hope everyone has a great Saturday! I'm off to do the MS Walk this morning.

Well neveragain, I did have a 22 year old wink at me on Match - was that you??? His favorite things included Metallica and Iron Maiden. haha. Seriously your age group is a bit tough, but hang in there. Honestly, I really think online dating does not provide instant gratification. It takes a lot of time, effort, and not-so-good first dates to really find someone you click with. But for me, at my age, it's worth it because there are very few other ways for me to meet single men. AND at least I'm getting out on weekends and not sitting at home all the time. lol Speaking of which I have another date this Saturday, and a potential meet up on Sunday evening. Wish me luck!! Hey Karla, great idea on asking this to be a sticky! We use this forum a lot to talk about online dating, but it's purpose really is to discuss any issue that we face as single people who are banded. It just seems that most of what we face is a lack of dates. lol

HAPPY BANDIVERSARY KAT!!!! You have done an amazing job over the past year, and you should be very proud of how far you've come. And what a great accomplishment to hit Onderland for your bandiversary! Congrats!!!

Good luck Wootsie! A nice guy will respect your boundaries, especially considering what just happened. So I had my date on Saturday night. What a nice guy! A big bouquet of flowers, opened doors, would not let me pay for a thing, planned a wonderful date - but no spark. Figures! I so want to like him, but it's just not there. I had another date last night and we was nice - for a while anyway. As the night went on I learned that he's 38 and his longest relationship has been 6 months. That scares me. lol. The worst part of it all - he let me "chip in" for my salad, then asked me to go out again. Are you really that cheap? lol. So safe to say there is no second date with that one! lol Hey Denise - did you ever check out my profile?

You girls are a hoot with your possum stories. lol For those of you who asked, the date was very nice. He is a top-notch guy all the way. Brought me a huge bouquet of flowers, took me out for a nice dinner, to a romantic bar afterwards for a drink, opened my car door every time, wouldn't let me pay for a thing, and walked me to the door at the end of the night. The problem - no sparks. I really wish they were there, but oh well. I met another guy tonight for dinner and he was nice, but I don't think they'll be a second date. He's 38 and the longest relationship he's been in was 6 months. That scares me. lol.

Wootsie I think you should report him to Plentyoffish as well. I'm sure they will block his profile. Denise - as far as my fill, I think I have decent restriction most of the time, but there are times I think I need a bit more to get to my "sweet spot". I get fairly hungry between meals too, which I would like to curb. My next appointment is the end of my and I think I"m going to ask for a small fill, like .25 cc's. Oh - and about your size - remember that every day you're going to be looking better and feeling better. But in the meantime, LOVE yourself and your body and know that you are sexy. That will come across in your profile and on your dates when you meet people. Confidence goes a loooong way. Oh, and if you remember, PM me your screen name. I'd love to check out your profile too.

Thanks Eileen!

Denise I'm at 226 now, and I'm 5' 6". I wear a 16 top and a 20 on the bottom. I'd like to lose at least another 26 lbs but am shooting for another 50. If I stopped making excuses and got my butt to the gym like Kristi I'm sure I'd get there sooner! lol

Congrats to you Kristi for 60 lbs down. That is amazing!! I am so happy things are working out so well between you and your tattoo boy (the name's yours now lol). I think you are a sweetheart and deserve the BEST! As for my tattoo boy, I think he just kind of settled into his "real" self and I didn't like it very much. He was moody, and either hot or cold. I got tired of the games and broke it off with him. I "unhid" my profile on Match and within 2 hours I had a date lined up with a guy I went out with once when I first starting dating tattoo boy. lol. We're going out tonight and I'm looking forward to it. Denise I did the same thing as Kristi. Lots of pics, a couple body shots, I even posted one without makeup. lol. If you want to check out my profile pm me and I'll send you my screen name on Match. I've been having a TON of activity over this past week though. Winked at by at least a dozen guys and I'm emailing with 8. But I find it's either feast or famine. Wootsie my dear, I am SOOOO sorry that happened to you! What a jerk!! I know it's a lot of effort to press charges, but I think you should consider it. What if he comes after you? It just makes me nervous. I know you're careful, and will especially be more careful now. You know it's not a bad idea to take a self-defense class at your local police dept or something. I've taken them just to know how to defend myself i f I ever need to.

Mandy I totally understand where you're coming from with the whole drama that went on here. I missed it to be honest with you, but I know that it was not pretty or nice. The member is Wavydaby. I'm not sure if she's a member here or not. Funny (funnyduddies) may also come to the park to visit. If you'd like to just keep the meeting between you, me and Sherry I TOTALLY get it and would respect that 100%. As long as we get to meet I'm happy! Congrats Beanie on the great interview!!!! You barely had any time off and now you've already found a new job! Make sure you take a few days for yourself. Oh Sherry - you did really have a crappy week! Don't worry - I'll come and give you a BIG hug tomorrow! xoxoxoxo Hi to everyone else! Gotta start getting ready for my date tonight. I'll let you all know how it goes.