flabuless

Woohooo juliegeraci! you go girl...that is 'flabuless!' He He He fogive the pun!

Wow! I would love to scuba!! maybe that can be my 200lb treat...something to look forward too. becky

haha Laurend...I feel exactly the same way...I have 1000 things to do and people depending on me...and other people delaying me. but I can only do so much I just try and find something I can do and do it...it may not be much but at least I feel like I am doing something proactive...instead of just running around pulling out my hair...But GOD it is FRUSTRATING! becky

Woohoo Marsene & iluvamc best wishes on the beginning of the rest of your lives...keep us posted. becky

you are all not alone...for me when I first started walking up my own driveway was a struggle...It is only now 18months later that I am able to power walk for an hour at a time and up REALLY steep hills to boot...(i only started doing that recently) You gain in confidence the more you do it and you can push yourself harder and harder but it has to be at your own pace...You will get there...just keep taking small steps. :eek: becky

I am sorry but I am not much help...in australia we didn't have to go on a liquid diet pre surgery....so I literally had the last supper the night...before...I ate and ate. and it was yummy! Post surgery...was a different story...I found the liquid diet sooooooo hard. infact I was on thickish soups by the third day...and I felt sooo hungry all the time. But surprisingly, it got easier...now sometimes I have to force myself to eat.

Great thread! My weeks goal is to quit stressing....I have had a really bad week emotionally and it has effected my eating habits...I fluctuate some days I don't eat a thing (ie revert to liquid diet) and then some days I eat things I should'nt eat like biscuits and jelly Beans...so If I can destress I can at least keep some control...a happy medium. I realise I do need food but more than that I need the RIGHT food. :eek: becky

I am not doing weight watchers but I have been thinking about it...just to give myself a bit of structure in my eating habits...but I know what you mean about the negativity towards WLS. but when you think of it of course they are...if everyone went the WLS route...there would be no need for weightwatchers... they make money on the fact that people end up putting weight back on again...and again...with WLS that is it...NEVER AGAIN. weight watchers to me is like a patch...it works fine for awhile but WLS is more permanent... people are afraid of what they don't know...secretly they are probably REALLY jealous...You go girl! :eek: Becky

Best wishes Berry & newme460 keep us posted...you will do fine! :eek: becky

You are so normal...I was seriously freaked out before my surgery..apart from having a baby...I had never had any kind of operation before...the pain was bad sure....but with each kilo I have lost since...I tell you the pain was sooooo... worth it...You will do great girl. the kilo's lost will be ALL the motivation you need to keep on going... :eek: becky

hahaha! I am just weening my 18 month year old from breast feeding anyhow my mom decided it was time for me to throw away the nursing bras and get me some with a bit more support! He He He...anyhow I went into the Bra shop and was looking around at size 22 (18usd) around the torsoe with a DD cup...hmmm the sales person asked if I had been fitted recently...to which I explained ahhh No! so the bustled me off to the dressing room and started fitting me...OK so my cup size was G australian sizing (lots for an eventual new man to play with) but the size around the torsoe was actually a size 18 ( equiv...14USD) I was stoked...Yay! :eek: becky

You go girl...turn up the heat...do anything...to get what you want..and FAST you have a whole life ahead of you. :eek: becky

WoW! best wishes Kaelin's G-Ma keep us posted. :eek: becky

Ha Ha I love this thread...my name is Becky and I am 28 and have recently come out of a 4 year relationship with an absolute ars*h*le !!!thank goodness. we have been separated for 18months and I am just starting legal proceedings to divorce... I haven't had 'ANY' for more than 2 years now...hehehe cant believe I am telling y'all this...and Gosh I am itching for it...I haven't been dating as after the divorce I moved 4min walk down my parents street...bad move...but as there was 2 kids in the mix it has been a lifesaver for me to have them so close...ok so I am sooooo... ready to move on...physically at least... and I am looking more and more beautiful everyday...but emotionally I really feel bad for the man that is game enough to take me on.hehehe! I am too much of a handful...I hope to find THAT guy...that will accept me for me weight and all and perhaps...I have found that in an unlikely corner...but watch this space...maybe...who knows? :eek: becky

I know exactly how you feel...I payed someone to clean my house...post surgery...I had enough to deal with...a recently X unproductive husband included...but post surgery...it was all about me...so I did WHATEVER necessary to make myself feel good...and cleaning the house was one of the things I quite happily delegated...It only lasted about 5 months... but it was the best investment I ever made...Look after yourself first...it takes awhile to get back to 'normal' but loosing weight helps alot...now I actually have the energy/motivation to do it myself...then I didn't. :eek: Becky

babygirl...you are not alone...but we will get there...

hi ya KoobiesMum ohhh you make me feel soo special! of course you can ask questions fire away...you can either im me or email me

thanks michelle... I love how he treats me, he has really helped me grow as a person and has been a sort of mentor over the past few months. I am extremely attracted to him, perhaps I am 'in love' with him...If things keep on going as they are now I certainly could be very soon...I haven't been able to sleep or eat for that matter over the past few days. but the situation is just too confusing at the moment...for me to really work things out..I am still healing from my past relationships...and the fact that what he is offering is not a long term commitment more fly in and fly out... but strangely I am ok with that. Hmmmm...more thought needed on this..I am pretty conflicted if you cant tell already!!! He has certainly done me a world of good over the past few months...I am thriving under his gentle loving care...hehehe! Perhaps I do deserve to be loved after all Becky

hi ya puddin...just found your thread..and I love it! I am struggling with how I am going to be when I am slim too...I am now starting to receive heaps of attention from guys mostly sexual but we wont go there... However, there is one...that I have been friends with for some time who seems to like me for who I am weight and all...and he is constantly encouraging me to be myself and be self empowered. (hope he never reads this) anyway the other day he drops a bombshell that he is 'in love with me'...now I gotta tell you I never saw that coming. I am still very vulnerable from the end of my own marriage 18months ago, so it is really hard for me to actually believe that what he is saying is genuine. I am still working through my own feelings for him and how I feel about his feelings for me...so I am atloss to know what will happen their...but it got me thinking... here is a little something I wrote earlier...about my fears about this very thing. ""Resist the temptation" they say. Well, I live on the corner of temptation right between carrot cake boulevard and ice cream parade…as Oscar Wilde so aptly puts it “The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it…I can resist everything but temptation.” So they call me a slob, they say that I have no will power, that I lack discipline, that I don’t WANT it enough, even, that I am weak person. Don’t they know that apart from the fact that food, and resisting the urge to indulge, is one of the most difficult addictions to recover from next to smoking and drugs. For us 'fat' sufferers there is no ‘fatotine’ Patches, no replacement drugs available to bring us down gradually from the euphoric affect food has on our well being. Dieting is rough. Especially when you have lived the better part of your life as a fat person. Overcoming the mind barriers and resisting the, ever constant, urge to ‘sabotage’ your progress is hard work. There are deeper forces at play. The fear of the unknown: what will life bring on the other side of large… How will I relate to people when I don’t have my weight to hide behind. Will they accept me, will they think I am beautiful, and will men be attracted to me. At the moment, I have an excuse to explain away all of the above. 'They don’t except me, because I am fat.' 'They don’t think I am beautiful, because I am fat.' 'They are not attracted to me, because I am fat.' But once my weight goes so does my excuse. Once the weight is gone, I will be vulnerable, naked, exposed. You see, not only do I have to resist the temptation, but I also have to constantly fight my mindsets, my fears, my insecurities. I have to break through the barriers to come to the point where I can confidently say 'I deserve to be slim', 'I deserve to be noticed', 'I deserve to be admired' even 'I deserve to be loved'. Its so much more than just resisting the temptation. Its much more than just being disciplined. It’s about allowing myself the opportunity to be who I was meant to be and rid myself of the ‘safe’ façade (my weight) behind which I have found a comfort zone." I am still battling through those emotional scars... I know I am getting more beautiful every day with every pound lost but do I deserve to be admired, loved... etc do I deserve the attention that this wonderful fella is giving me at present...It just seems too hard to accept. I still view myself as unloveable...that it blows my mind that someone else (a man) could actually care about me in that way! I just don't know. becky

Laurend...I totally get you..it is hard! I am starting a Finding Flabuless blog site...for me to rant and vent about the issues of weightloss etc...I think you might appreciate what I have to say in the introduction go to http://www.snugglesnkuddles.com/intro/intro.html becky

About 20lbs for me to drop a dress size...like you lianna I seem to carry more weight on my stomach, hips, thighs though my waiste is actually quite trim..so the trouble I find is finding clothes that fit around my hips and thighs usually hang dreadfully around my waiste... hehehe

hi Meli...great idea hehehe! I am working on it after reading about this very problem months ago. The software for an online clothing swap for dieters is still being worked on but it will be available soon...I promise.

He He He I hear the chorus beckoning me to HURRY UP... an online Clothes swap is still in the works still just finalising software issues but it will be here soon...I promise. :girl_hug: becky

Hi again guys...I really wanted to resurrect this thread cause there are so many new people now and I am so curious to know whats behind their name so keep it coming aye? :girl_hug: becky

Welcome to LBT KoobiesMum Best wishes on your investigations...I look forward to getting to know you more. :girl_hug: becky