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Depends on what state you live in....I am self employed and pay for an individual health insurance plan. It specifically excludes WLS. In fact, once Obamacare kicked in, it is impossible to purchase an individual plan in my state that includes WLS. My new "affordable" care plan costs more and covers less than the old plan. But that's a whole other rant......
So I researched the hell out of the procedure and surgeons...both local and in Mexico. I went with the most qualified ones I found and felt the safest with, Dr. Ariel Ortiz and Dr. Martinez at OCC in TJ. I used the money I had been saving for two years for a down payment on a new truck. VSG was the best money I ever spent and I happily drive my 15 year old truck everyday.
If you really want this surgery, you should keep your options open, and make it happen.

Sounds like a jerk but here is my take. My husband met me when I was skinny/er. I have gained a crap loaed of weight 90 lbs. He still loves me, bummed but still loves me, I want this surgery for my health and to be a better more active Mom. Hey, if he walks it is HIS LOSS! He will lose you the time with the kids, If he is so selfish he needs to wake up! After all is not some of the attraction because of who a person is on the inside. Do this for you and your children....

If he leaves, you can congratulate yourself on having lost an additional 200 pounds of @ss.

I have two appointments left (endoscopy & pap smear), and I'm done!! I was told my insurance has up to 5 business days to say yes or no.
Good luck to everyone!!!

Hi, Linda here, I have done all tests , but have two more Primary care physician visits before I am 65 years old, so that means medicare, however I have Blue Cross Blue Shield of NC. Medicare Blue Advantage, which only requires 4 months of weight documentation , I have BMI of 39.9 and type two bias eyes, high blood pressure, not severe sleep apnea , so I don't use Cpap machine. Last week when my surgeon did my Endo. he told me

I'm with everyone on this one! I agree, I want this so badly that now I'm afraid that I'll get denied (is it all too good to be true???).
I'm trying to stay positive until I have that hot little approval letter in my hand.

Hi everyone!! I've met my 6 month of documented weight loss ( I have Anthem) passed my psych eval and meet once more with my surgeon this coming Friday to make the final "plans " ( I'm still undecided if a sleeve or RNY is what I want to do). Then off to insurance. I have no comorbidities but have a BMI of 52, so hoping that's enough for a YES!! I, too, have met my deductible and am hopeful I can get in before the year is up.

I wish you all luck as you wait it out. I have relatively lower BMI and few comorbids but was certainly heading toward a higher BMI and sicker life. My insurance approved within 10 days and surgery scheduled in about a month from approval. I wish and pray for your success!

I go to my last visit 10/9, I'm in the same boat. If I don't get it done before 1/1, chances are I won't be able to get it done at all. I can't afford to pay my deductible again.

I'm right there with you- I've finished everything but one more month of weigh in. My insurance will use weight watchers as a 6 month diet so October is my last month. I'm praying they approve me but I'm terrified they won't. I'm worrying they could use any excuse! So nervous

Here I am too. I have been waiting for the approval as well. Hopefully this week I will hear. Fingers crossed for you

Yes! Let's post our insurance response with the time it took for our answers!! Fingers crossed got everyone

The insurance lady submitted to my insurance for approval on Friday(9/26)...so mow the waiting begins! So scared of being denied, but have my hopes up that they will approve!!!

New here! I really gotta know...what are they looking for with the 5 year weight history? Since I have been on a diet since the day I was born (it feel like it anyway) my weight has been up and down, could never keep it off. But in 5 years I am certain some of those years are less than BMI of 40. Can anyone shed some light? I've done internet searches, and can't find anything to tell me what they are looking for. I am BMI 41, sleep apnea, and upon open enrollment in October, will have UHC, also.

Just received the good news that I'm approved:) so happy and a little nervous. So my official date is October second:) 8 days and I will be on the losers bench.

I haven't heard that the surgery is hard on the heart. My cardiologist is the doctor that wants me to get the surgery. I know all the weight I am carrying is worse for the heart. Has anyone heard differently.
I have my first appointment with a surgeon today!

You are totally right - I have to either accept it or move on. I can't force him to do what he really doesn't want to do.
And if he had treated me like this before I was ready to make the decision to take control of my weight, yeah, it would not have gone well. I would have been angry at him for trying to tell me what to do and sad that maybe he doesn't find me attractive anymore.

Miss Fisheyes,
You were venting here, and that's your right. Good to get it off your chest.
But if you're open to some advice, here's mine: You're in the middle of a lot of things right now. You need the backup and support of a counselor / psychologist / psychiatrist to start processing all this stuff. And it needs to be processed. It doesn't need to be ACTED ON IMMEDIATELY just because you've got big feelings roiling around.
These are big decisions you're considering. Fair enough. All the more reason to process the information and feelings you're having.
You're a smart girl. You've read a lot of information here and elsewhere about what an emotional rollercoaster this is. You've read about how people who go through this (and who are contemplating it) go through many changes -- and how their family members go through stuff, too.
I will nit-pick with only one thing you said: "I am wondering if he will want a divorce and if I will have to move out of the house." Maybe the "acreage" is a family farm he inherited. But if it's not, chances are if he's the one who wants a divorce, please know that you are not AUTOMATICALLY elected as the one who has to find new digs.
In other words, my dear, if you're thinking like this you're not thinking clearly. That's why it's not a good time to be making big decisions.
There are feelings. And then there are decisions. That's what counsel (of all kinds) is good for -- helping you process all your options.
Very, very best wishes for you.

I think this is a tough situation. The fact is that you can't control his life to that degree. It's not fair and it doesn't work anyway.
You have to accept him being a smoker until he is ready to quit. That's really it. You don't have to like it, and you have made him aware of your feelings on the matter.
Unless this is just a symptom of something else wrong with the relationship, I think you need to apologize to him and move on. I also wonder how you would feel if he "went off" on you about your eating in a similar manner. Probably not good.
I am married to a smoker too (I am a former smoker) and it's hard to watch but when you love someone you love the whole person as they are, for who they are and not how you would want them to be. I am sure you know this.
Is there any chance that this is really about something between you two other than smoking?

Howdy from Texas!
45 year old male here who has been battling obesity for several years. The straw that broke the camels back was realizing that bad ankles, knees and hips along with diabetes and high blood pressure are going to kill me. I got tired in looking in the mirror and seeing that reflection of what I had become through laziness, bad self esteem, and poor choices. I decided it was time to get serious...and get serious now!
So, now I have started my 2 week pre-op liquid diet, and I am scheduled for surgery two weeks from today. I know it's a long road to achieve my goal, but I am beyond ready. I'm not nervous, which concerns me a little, but I am very anxious to get this procedure done and start seeing the effects. I can't wait to get my energy back, pain relief, and hopefully throwing my meds in the trash!
I'm glad I found this site. It is a wealth of information and I hope to establish a few new friendships as well.

All these heart test make me nervous....ok I know I sound neurotic....really I am not. I did have to do a EKG but that is it (well, the Psy test and 6 mo diet) have you guys heard that this surgery is hard on the heart?

Hi,
I am new too. I have gone through all but the Psy. exam which will be the 30th of this month. I am 5'9 and 265 with a bmi of 39. I am afraid I won't get approved but I do have sleep apnea and high Cholesterol so I hope that goes in my favor. People have also told me I carry my weight well which is nice I guess but I don't feel that way. I look like Buddha and my knees and Hips kill me. I have NO energy at all and I can't keep up with my kids. It has taken me a long time to get to the point where I have given up on my own ability to lose the fat on my own. I now feel there is a light at the end of this very long, self hating tunnel and I can barely wait. I won't deny I am TERRIFIED that I will be the one who dies on the table leaving my kids and giving my husband the final "I told you so". I just want my life back and be a better Mom and wife with more energy and confidence and looking cute in jeans can't hurt either...

All these heart test make me nervous....ok I know I sound neurotic....really I am not. I did have to do a EKG but that is it (well, the Psy test and 6 mo diet) have you guys heard that this surgery is hard on the heart?

Hi,
I am new too. I have gone through all but the Psy. exam which will be the 30th of this month. I am 5'9 and 265 with a bmi of 39. I am afraid I won't get approved but I do have sleep apnea and high Cholesterol so I hope that goes in my favor. People have also told me I carry my weight well which is nice I guess but I don't feel that way. I look like Buddha and my knees and Hips kill me. I have NO energy at all and I can't keep up with my kids. It has taken me a long time to get to the point where I have given up on my own ability to lose the fat on my own. I now feel there is a light at the end of this very long, self hating tunnel and I can barely wait. I won't deny I am TERRIFIED that I will be the one who dies on the table leaving my kids and giving my husband the final "I told you so". I just want my life back and be a better Mom and wife with more energy and confidence and looking cute in jeans can't hurt either...