livinhealthy72

Letting go of your home is hard, my ex and I are going through the process now. We listed our house about a month ago with the understanding we would be taking a loss. We got very lucky and found buyers within a week of the listing. We have requested a short sale from our lender and are waiting to hear back. I'm not sure of your situation but can tell you it is a huge relief to be out from under that kind of financial stress. It is so not worth the deterioration of your relationship with your partner which is what happened in our situation. Starting over is very hard but ultimately the price we paid emotionally was by far worse than the financial impact. We should have let the house go a lot sooner and not let it take such a toll on us.

Here I am Friday night it's after midnight so technically it's early Saturday morning I guess and, I'm alone. I spent my evening watching all of Season 1 of "Sex and the City". Watching these old episodes brings to light that I possess a lot of the same qualities of these women. I am a neurotic over-thinker like Carrie, a cynic like Miranda, being in my mid-30s at my sexual peak brings on Samantha like cravings and, like Charlotte still manage to have that starry-eyed hope that Mr. Right is going to sweep me off my feet and yada yada yada....happily ever after. I have spent the past month trying to figure out how I'm supposed to be, I don't even remember who I was prior to my ex. How is it that we change so much without even realizing it is happening? The initial qualities and interests that attract us and bring us together somehow get stepped over, lost somewhere along the way or perhaps just seem unimportant. Then one day we wake up two completely different people and wonder what in the hell happened? How did I get here? The truth is I still have no idea who I am right now. It is so hard to learn how to separate yourself and just be an individual again. It's hard to remember there is no more "we" it is just single, no more plural. How is it I find myself longing for what I chose to leave behind? It has been SO much harder than I ever realized it would be. I still just hurt, and being alone sucks.

Here I am Friday night it's after midnight so technically it's early Saturday morning I guess and, I'm alone. I spent my evening watching all of Season 1 of "Sex and the City". Watching these old episodes brings to light that I possess a lot of the same qualities of these women. I am a neurotic over-thinker like Carrie, a cynic like Miranda, being in my mid-30s at my sexual peak brings on Samantha like cravings and, like Charlotte still manage to have that starry-eyed hope that Mr. Right is going to sweep me off my feet and yada yada yada....happily ever after. I have spent the past month trying to figure out how I'm supposed to be, I don't even remember who I was prior to my ex. How is it that we change so much without even realizing it is happening? The initial qualities and interests that attract us and bring us together somehow get stepped over, lost somewhere along the way or perhaps just seem unimportant. Then one day we wake up two completely different people and wonder what in the hell happened? How did I get here? The truth is I still have no idea who I am right now. It is so hard to learn how to separate yourself and just be an individual again. It's hard to remember there is no more "we" it is just single, no more plural. How is it I find myself longing for what I chose to leave behind? It has been SO much harder than I ever realized it would be. I still just hurt, and being alone sucks.

Thank you, need all the help I can get!

So here I am, on my way to gettin' "sexy back" and my relationship with BF of four years comes to a screechingly painful halt. I figure it was doomed to happen because it is Murphy's Law after all when one thing in your life starts to look up another falls in the shitter. I moved out of our gorgeous historic home into a two bedroom duplex that has no architectural detail whatsoever. I had to leave my English Mastiff behind because as a now "rentor" most places around here frown at 150 pounds of slobbering dog. I miss him terribly!!! It has been a full 30-days now and I made it through the 1st holiday with just a few tears. It is so hard to pick up and start a new life when you feel like half a person all of the sudden. It is more difficult than I remember and have dedicated 2009 as the "getting a handle on my life" year.

So here I am, on my way to gettin' "sexy back" and my relationship with BF of four years comes to a screechingly painful halt. I figure it was doomed to happen because it is Murphy's Law after all when one thing in your life starts to look up another falls in the shitter. I moved out of our gorgeous historic home into a two bedroom duplex that has no architectural detail whatsoever. I had to leave my English Mastiff behind because as a now "rentor" most places around here frown at 150 pounds of slobbering dog. I miss him terribly!!! It has been a full 30-days now and I made it through the 1st holiday with just a few tears. It is so hard to pick up and start a new life when you feel like half a person all of the sudden. It is more difficult than I remember and have dedicated 2009 as the "getting a handle on my life" year.

I understand your feelings are hurt but you have to understand most men are very good about separating what is real vs what is fantasy. Men are very visual and are going to look at other women, no matter how fabulous and hot you look. Do NOT take this personally, they are men.....they like looking.....they can't help themselves! Addiction to porn can cause devastation to a relationship that is true. But honestly it sounds to me like he just likes to look. I would gauge it by this; does he spend money joining porn sites, does he spend money on 900 numbers, does he go into porn type chat rooms? If the answer is no to all, I wouldn't sweat it. My advice is to relax and talk with him Don't force him to hide it from you. The fact he has to hide it and lie about it makes it a deceptive act when in fact it probably isn't. You may feel differently if you open up and try to enjoy porn with him on occassion both online and video. Rent some sexy movies together, drink some wine, get frisky and have fun!

Ok, so my weigh in at my 2nd fill only displayed a 6oz weight reduction but since Thursday I am down 5 pounds!!! Woohoo! I definatley feel the difference with the 2nd fill opposed to the 1st. Shew!

Ok, so my weigh in at my 2nd fill only displayed a 6oz weight reduction but since Thursday I am down 5 pounds!!! Woohoo! I definatley feel the difference with the 2nd fill opposed to the 1st. Shew!

I am still in awe of you. I can only hope your proceedure goes as smoothly and painlessly as mine did and that your recovery is as quick! God speed, and look forward to more posts.

"Does being 'stuck' feel the same as when you get something stuck in your esophagus...you know, when the Dorito goes down sideways, whole (sorry, I'm a visual person)? Or is it worse? -BG" LOL!!! Feels very similar but it doesn't seem to want to move and it just "sits" there. The first time it happened I started to panic because my thought was my God I'm going to choke to death and die right here on my fat keester! One of two things happen a) it finally finally goes down, or :scared2: your body "dumps" it out, the good ol' yack it up scenario. I am the type of person who will do about anything to not vomit so option b for me is the worst.

Hi, and welcome aboard! Hope everything is going well, think you will find this site is excellent for answering any question imaginable.

I had my 1st fill on 1/29 and all went great. I had 2.5 in the band already and had another 2.5 added making the total 5cc. I can definately tell the difference, finally feeling that restriction everyone has been talking about and it takes me a bit longer to get hungry (every 3 hours instead of 2) so we are getting there. I was relieved to see I hadn't gained any weight that week prior, hadn't lost any either but at least no gain. Right now am down 3 more pounds so far this week, but will capture Feb week one results on Saturday. My goal is 10 pounds each month, so I'm off to a decent start so far. Am learning chewing very well and taking my time is key. Funny, no matter how much everyone stresses this, until you have your first "not good" experience you don't really "get it". :iamwithstupid:I have to say, that feeling you get is one of the most uncomfortable feelings I've ever experienced.

I had my 1st fill on 1/29 and all went great. I had 2.5 in the band already and had another 2.5 added making the total 5cc. I can definately tell the difference, finally feeling that restriction everyone has been talking about and it takes me a bit longer to get hungry (every 3 hours instead of 2) so we are getting there. I was relieved to see I hadn't gained any weight that week prior, hadn't lost any either but at least no gain. Right now am down 3 more pounds so far this week, but will capture Feb week one results on Saturday. My goal is 10 pounds each month, so I'm off to a decent start so far. Am learning chewing very well and taking my time is key. Funny, no matter how much everyone stresses this, until you have your first "not good" experience you don't really "get it". :iamwithstupid:I have to say, that feeling you get is one of the most uncomfortable feelings I've ever experienced.

I feel exactly the same way, and just started a new thread about it prior to reading this....that's what I get for letting frustration get the better of me! I am hungry every 2 hours and very discouraged. Please let me know how you feel a few days after your fill.

Hi, I was banded on the 31st, I felt great, dropped 19 pounds quickly and now am stuck. I am getting hungry 2 hours after eating and craving things I shouldn't have. I quit soda and alcohol altogether, I wait 30 minutes after I eat to drink Water. I feel like I was doing everything right, making healthy eating choices etc, so how come I'm so hungry and craving stuff? Thankfully I get my first fill this Thursday, is anyone else experiencing any of the same things?:cursing:

I'm not sure how many fills or how many cc's of saline until they find your sweet spot. I think everyone is a little different. I have read plenty of blog entries where folks don't even need a fill, the band itself is fine. I'm not one of those lucky folks. The PA in my surgeons office is the one who performs most of the fills. I have talked to several folks who won't have anyone else do them because he is so good. His reputation is 2 fills usually does the trick. Fingers crossed!

I was banded on 12/31, it was great no issues at all. I didn't really get hungry until this past week, now I'm hungry 2 hours after I eat and craving things I shouldn't have. I am eating semi-soft foods, nothing crunchy or fibrous yet. I don't drink while eating, and wait 30 minutes after I eat. I quit soda all together, drinking no cal water instead and have even given up alcohol. I was doing so well to start off, now I'm getting depressed and losing motivation. I am scheduled for my first fill on 1/29 and just pray that helps.

I was banded on 12/31, it was great no issues at all. I didn't really get hungry until this past week, now I'm hungry 2 hours after I eat and craving things I shouldn't have. I am eating semi-soft foods, nothing crunchy or fibrous yet. I don't drink while eating, and wait 30 minutes after I eat. I quit soda all together, drinking no cal water instead and have even given up alcohol. I was doing so well to start off, now I'm getting depressed and losing motivation. I am scheduled for my first fill on 1/29 and just pray that helps.

I have not had this feeling of peace yet, and fear it won't come and all this was for not. I was banded on 12/31. I get my first fill on 1/29 and am hoping that will keep me from getting hungry so quickly. Have you gotten a fill yet?

I haven't started working out yet, walk about 4 times a week which I know isn't enough. I am still in the mushy stage of the diet, but I have been testing the waters with solid foods, and no issues yet with exception to bread. I am trying to stick to 3 meals and 1 snack daily. I need to start incorporating a Protein smoothie for my evening snack because am worried not getting enough protein. I haven't started counting calories yet, that will start after my fill on 2/3. Thanks for your help! We can do it! Deanna:wink:

I hope you went through with it. I just got banded on 12/31 and have had NO issues at all with exception to gas right after surgery. I have already lost 19 pounds since, please do this....you are worth it!

Hi, thanks for the reply....does this mean you are willing to put up with me and be my "o' wise one" :thumbup:? Sounds like you have done very well since March! What does your diet and excercise program consist of? Thanks

"In your post, please share information about yourself such as age, gender, marital status, occupation, geographical location, amount of weight lost, amount of weight to lose, etc." HI! I was banded 12/31/08 and have my first fill 2/03/09. I have lost 19 pounds of my 129 pound goal. I am 36, female in a long term relationship. I live in MO and work as an analyst in the finance industry. I think that answers all the questions above. I am looking for a female mentor in her 30's who's weight loss goal was over 100 pounds similar to mine. Someone who has been there and done that and kicked butt! THANKS!

LOL!!! I just have to tell you that I enjoyed this entry so much! This is why I only told my BF, parents, MIL and only 1 friend that I was banded 12/31. I didn't want everyone elses "expert" opinion. If everyone is such an expert on weight loss and being healthy why are 61% of Americans obese?