Lily2024

NickelChip that's a great point, any time I restart exercise I start with ten minutes at a time and slowly increase when I feel like I want to do more.

I'm sorry you're facing such difficulties. It sounds like you have a lot on your mind and it gets harder to plan and care for yourself the way you want to when you're trying to manage so much. Honestly, it's very possible that letting yourself have a good cry/scream, loud music (whatever helps you feel some release of tension) can help get you back on track. Finding another way to comfort yourself, like a warm bath, comfy blanket, hot tea, etc could replace the food.

I keep trying to eat in the morning because it's supposed to be better to spread the meals out over the day but I keep getting reminded why that doesn't work for me. I usually end up hungry again in 2 hours then need a nap, doesn't matter what I eat. I figure as long as I have the energy I need to fuel my day and continue losing weight, then I'm doing fine. I have gastroparesis and my stomach doesn't play nice in the morning and I usually have milk in my decaf coffee but no solid food until after I do my work out. I think if you feel good and have the energy to do what you normally do then you're doing it right for you.

Well done for keeping your cool, that would have been very difficult for me also. I'm hoping everything goes smoothly for you from here on out.

I would totally cry, but you'll get through it, it's only a few weeks. At scheduling it was already 3 months out for me and now it's only 4 weeks. The time went by pretty quickly, I've been keeping myself occupied with crosswords, books, tv shows, music, and little projects around the house. Getting ready for Christmas can be a focus?

Oh no, that's awful, to not have any information about it either makes it even more difficult. Hopefully you'll get answers and a satisfactory plan going forward.

Ouch, I'm sorry to hear you're so miserable and dealing with financial consequences on top of the physical and mental impact. I sincerely hope you get to feeling better, that will make all of it easier to bear. Virtual hugs......Just because you are a badass doesn't mean it doesn't suck, please try to find ways to comfort yourself, maybe body lotion, favorite pajamas, candles, water sounds, anything that feels good.

I'm up on January 3rd! Also excited, nervous, scared of what I'll feel like, scared I'll have the surgery and do everything right and still stay stuck at my current weight.

I just want to add that it's okay to feel good and bad about a single decision. This is one of those things that has good and bad aspects to it and just because it was a "choice" doesn't equal no feelings about the stress of it. I think it's going to feel like dropping myself into a foreign country where I don't know the culture anymore and I'm prepared to give myself grace with it. I think it's a good idea to share here and just get hugs from the people around you who care but don't know how to help right now? I hope you heal quickly.

Congratulations, so well done. Your resilience is epic, I hope you know that.

My surgeon is booking 3 months out. I guess it just depends on how busy the surgeon is?

I'm scheduled for RNY January 3rd. My concern right now is that I'm able to work out pretty good every day, and getting stronger, more lung capacity for swimming. I'm worried that the 2 week liquid diet and the following months of low calorie will really interfere with this progress. Any advice on how to manage it in a practical manner? I was thinking possibly higher weights, lesser cardio? Right now I'm walking with handweights and swimming laps for an hour.

I'm doing a 2 week liquid only diet, and clears at that. My BMI is lower too, but the program just has everyone do it, across the board. I don't really mind except that my liquid diet starts December 20th. Actually, that might be fantastic, no temptation for Christmas and New Year's treats. Limiting myself to one cookie is not my forte. If I don't eat any at all, it's much easier to watch other's eat it and not feel sorry for myself.

Meeeeee!!! January 3rd!

Sugar free cocoa mix with fat free milk, sugar free chocolate pudding, sugar free fudge pops.......I can't eat chocolate anymore because of several issues with my GI system, but these I can tolerate and enjoy.

I'm pretty sure I've read in several places that it is expected that you will lose slower after 6 months, and that you can expect to lose the same amount again but over the next year. So if you lost 80 pounds in the first 6 months, then it's possible you'll lose another 80 pounds but over the next 12 months. Even if it is already 70% of what you want to lose, then you're likely still going to lose a decent amount more.

Oh no!! That's awful, feeling sick and missing vacation, all of it. Hope you feel better soon and can reschedule your trip.

It looks like you've lost 30 pounds since your revision about 3 months ago. So the scale is moving, just slowly? I feel for you, wish I could give you a hug and tell you to your face what a badass you are.

Thank you for sharing this, it helps.

Music is my go-to to manage all different kinds of emotions. I have playlists that I have for times when I'm sad and want to sing along and cry it out, angry music when I feel frustrated and want to scream it out, soothing when I'm anxious, etc. Some people write it out, walk it out, clean it out, talk it out.....