Mommie....I feel you. I had decided not to tell anyone about my decision to have surgery. My body, my business, my decision. I went through all the information sessions, pre-op testing and insurance drama by myself. Was gonna tell everyone (including hubby) that I had to have a hernia repaired. I debated long and hard, then I prayed about that thing girl. My hubby is and has been my best friend for almsot 20 years, he's been there for me when I wasn't even there fo myself. Could I really keep something this life altering to myself? I decided I would share my decision with him, listen to his opinions (I knew he would be against it) then continue to do what I had already decided to do.
So ...I told him, he was very upset and very much against it. He felt it was dangerous and not worth it. He loves me just the way I am and yada yada yada.....I stuck to my guns and made an appt. with my Dr. so he could have his questions answered. Well the Dr. answered all his questions and broke everything down to him like I never could have and he finally got it.
Just consider all your options carefully and make the best decision for you and your family.
Peace and continued blessings.