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Hi Ellie, i totally understand where you are at, I was the same if not worse. I spent my first 8 weeks curled up on my sisters couch feeling like my life was over. I cried everyday for the first 4 months i was miserable and deeply regretted the surgery. But it does get better i still have my moments but on the whole i am feeling much better. Feel free to reach out to me in pm if you want to vent chat or ask questions.
Ps i did get councilling that might be a good option for you too.

At 5 weeks you're still healing! 17 pounds down is excellent. Your surgeon shouldn't be so hard on you. Do you have a dietician you talk to? See if they have any suggestions. I drink Bone Broth for Protein (I hate the shakes too but I force one down a day - I'm 5.5 months out so I can handle it but at first I had to find alternatives because like you I'd spit them out when I tried the first few weeks). You can also drink Fairlife skim milk. It's not sweet or thick and goes down easy. Protein Water and Gatorade are good, too. I drink those on occasion when I fall short on protein. Hang in there! It'll get better.

You lost 17 pounds in 5 weeks and the surgeon is disappointed?!? Also, it's normal to gain weight right after surgery because you are pumped full of fluids that cause Water retention.
If you can't stomach sweet Protein Shakes, consider broth/soup with unflavored Protein Powder added (just follow the direction on the powder because if you microwave it, it's totally clumpy and gross!).
I can understand the surgeon's concern with the sugar in the drinks. Light and Fit makes a sugar free Protein Shake. It's pretty small, so maybe you can drink that?
Also, make sure you are getting enough liquid. If plain water doesn't taste good (I don't like it now), try flavoring packets like crystal light, or tea or coffee (decaf if necessary).
Like @Kaguragetshealthy_87, you should be gentle with yourself. You just had major surgery! Beating yourself up won't help your progress.
Good luck!

Hello everyone, I am 6 weeks post op and I'm a bit discouraged by the amount of weight I have lost and my surgeons reactions. The first week after surgery I could not get anything but 12 oz of apple juice and Water down. I experienced Protein aversion and would spit out any Protein Drink or shake that I tried to take. To my surprise, at my 1 week visit I gained 2 pounds (I was also experiencing my first bout of Constipation post op). For reference Surgery day: 317; Week 1: 319. After that I moved to the puree stage and found that I can only eat a limited amount of food varieties without feeling sick, and for the most part that will only last for a few days. The only thing I can consistently eat is yogurt or a yogurt drink (8-12 oz per day) for Breakfast and water. Most days I force myself to eat different low fat pureed things like burrito-less burritos, buffalo chicken dip, tuna, chicken salad, crust-less quiche ect. I tend to make them in cupcake or muffin molds so it's easy to pack for work. Usually, I can only eat one at lunch and have half of something else for dinner. Last week I had my 1 month visit with a different surgeon (mine was out for personal reasons) and I lost 17 pounds since surgery day, but the surgeon seemed disappointed that it wasn't more. They asked what I was eating, and then I was chastised for the amount of sugar in the yogurt drinks. I tried explaining that most things make me feel sick or that I have to force myself to eat.
I guess my question is how do you no feel discouraged by the speed you are losing weight? Or the expectation of your medical team?

It's normal to have "buyers' remorse" after surgery. It took me 3.5 months to finally feel comfortable enough that I didn't regret my surgery.
It's definitely not the easy way out. I had lost 100 lbs a few years ago "on my own," and this is definitely harder. There is so much to adapt to. But I gained that 100lbs back and there's a good chance I will not gain the weight back after surgery.
I too have had tiny pieces of cakes and other sweets. I have to be careful though, because these foods "slide" right down even if I'm full.

WLS is NOT the lazy easy way out. Get that out of your head. It's not a miracle cure. It's only a tool. You still have to do all the hard work. Second, it's only been a week. The surgery released hormones in your body and you're second-guessing what you did. You're healing. Life is changing. It's all normal to feel this way. Talk to the counselor at your surgeon's office and deal with some of these issues.

Hi, im one week post op today, and the moments of wondering wth have I done to myself and my body is getting worse daily and so worried I will never be able to live even a semi normal life again.
I do have a food addiction issue, and had a hernia, fatty liver, high bp and was pre- diabetic, so knew i needed to do something drastic, but all those rational thoughts just make me think i took the lazy, easy way out and must have been out of my mind to not sort myself out and resort to something this irreversibly drastic.
I know im responsible for this, but really Just wondering if anyone else has these fears and what you do to get over it…? tia

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Definitely call your surgeon's office and let them know so they can guide you.

If I lost weight, they would think that I took the easy way out. If I didn’t lose weight, they would think that I am a hopeless glutton, that even WLS wouldn’t work.
this gave me a giggle only because its so true we cant win either way

maybe just say to her that when you went to see about your "hernia" WLS was suggested and you are seriously thinking about/decided to do it. that way its doesn't looked like you have lied. I know I know some of you are going to say but that's covering up a lie, well yes it is but you are telling the truth about the surgery in the end. There is no way you are going to get away with "I Had a hernia repair" after the surgery.

If you are post surgery it could be your hormones going wacky on you. Mine did a bit and I just didn’t want to do anything for a couple of weeks but then it leveled out. How long Have you been seeing this therapist? Do you like them? Sometimes it is good to be reminded that we have good stuff going on in our lives too but I hope that is not really all your therapist is offering you in terms of help. Are you upset about something specific or just feeling down? If you are having a hard time with the loss of food like lizonaplane mentioned, the bariatric therapist may be better equipped to help you through that. If you do not feel that your therapist is helping you then try someone else. I went through several until I found the right fit.

Don't worry about getting it perfect, just do the best you can at most of it, like MiniDude said 80%. I never got three meals in a day. I'm not that kind of a girl. I'll get two meals in and two Snacks but not an actual third meal. The exercise is beneficial for your mental health as well as physical health, but if you had to slack on one, this one would be the best to slack on. Protein is easy to get in with Protein Shakes, Protein Bars, and protein-heavy foods. The 64 oz of Water a day takes some getting used to, but once you reach that level it's easy to maintain. Just sip, sip, sip all day long, constantly and consistently. And stuff like broth and sugar free popsicles counts as water/liquids. You can do it, it just takes practice. None of us did it magically overnight.

Turns out I have gallbladder sludge? Gross. Next up is a HIDA scan to see how my gallbladder is doing.
It's been over 3 weeks with constant pain from this, so I want some resolution but also... I really don't want another surgery! So far my attempt to return back to work isn't going so well because I feel so sick all the time.
Thank god I'm working from home so no one can see me with my heating heating pads hunched over typing. 😅

maybe just say to her that when you went to see about your "hernia" WLS was suggested and you are seriously thinking about/decided to do it. that way its doesn't looked like you have lied. I know I know some of you are going to say but that's covering up a lie, well yes it is but you are telling the truth about the surgery in the end. There is no way you are going to get away with "I Had a hernia repair" after the surgery.

You are doing really well it took me months to start feeling better.

If they say anything.. you should just say: "You are eating ALL OF THAT?! Wow, good for you! that lot's of unhealthy calories!"

Lizonaplane went through this. She ruled out all the other causes and it was true hunger. There are many things it could be disguised as hunger though. Hopefully she will respond but one thing I remember she said helped satisfy the hunger was warm beverages such as tea.

Ty. I never thought about that [emoji848] [emoji173]
I'll definitely try it.

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Now that I have mentioned her I think she will get a notification. Im sure if so she will respond, but if not maybe you can look for some of her posts about hunger all the time.

No. I get my recommended macs in almost daily. Maybe one or 2 days a week I fall behind
I'm going to try the warm tea and drink more and let yall know how it goes.
Also try to get out of my head and walk more
I don't think it's boredom or depression but I'm willing to try almost anything lol

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I do everything I'm told by the doctor.
He said I'm doing fine and it's probably head hunger. I don't think so when my stomach is gurgling but I'm going to try a few of these suggestions and see how it goes. Ty for responding

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Ty. I'll try to drink more. It's hard to drink 60 plus oz a day with not being able to eat 30 minutes before or after [emoji26][emoji173] but I'll definitely try.

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The my fitness app works it all put for you

Drink more water/ fluids. I had this right from the start it an empty gnawing hungry even straight after i ate. I found drinking 15 minutes before a meal not a lot maybe a small glass and a small drink about 30 mins after helped. I also find if i havent drunk much during the day i get really hungry.....which is probably thirst

If I lost weight, they would think that I took the easy way out. If I didn’t lose weight, they would think that I am a hopeless glutton, that even WLS wouldn’t work.
this gave me a giggle only because its so true we cant win either way