fourmonthspreop

I really want to find a cute, white boho dress. I tried this on at target but I can't stand the way my stomach looks in it. I'm like an XXL/XL right now and I'm 6 feet tall so it's hard to find a good length..women's clothing is so small sometimes. Almost bought it but wasn't sold. Wondering where find other long white flowy dresses for big girls.

Thanks everyone...really. Your encouragement means a lot to me. I want this so bad and will put myself first. Also hi! Welcome to the community. Feel free to message me. I'm always around for a chat. [emoji16]

Yeah. It's crazy how the people close to me just don't believe in me. Most days I handle it really well but sometimes it all comes to a boiling point and I need to let it out somewhere.

Kids plates are the best, not only for portions but they're just so darn cute. The pasta is great! I tolerate Chickpeas well. It's banza shells. 13 grams of protein per serving although I can't eat a full serving it does the trick. Just make sure to rinse it after boiling so that like sticky gummy layer comes off. It honestly tastes better the next day too.

I really appreciate it everyone. I do my best to ignore but some days it gets to me. I have a therapist so we talk about it as well. I've done 10 months now of counseling and will continue throughout the whole bariatric process. I told my family last night that I didn't want to deal with my problems the same way they do. They have issues with alcohol and my brother with both food and alcohol. They've refused to get help my whole life. It annoys me even more because I went out, got a psychiatrist, psychologist, dietician, surgery etc. And im still told you might fail, what makes this any different? Like look, I'm getting help...something they REFUSE to do for their problems. I REFUSE to be just like them. I really do appreciate the kind words of encouragement from everyone. I won't let their negativity stop me. I can't wait till I'm a year post op and they shut their traps. [emoji38]

I just need to vent because im so upset about this sometimes. Does anyone deal with negative comments from family members about your surgery? It's not so much about the fact that I got surgery but moreso constant questioning of my success. Like they're always like "what's gonna stop you from just gaining it all back?" "You might just go back to your old habits." "How are things gonna be any different this time?" "You got to the point of needing weight loss surgery to lose weight so how can you be successful?" That's actually what my brother just said to me and it made me so sad and upset. I've been working so hard to do it right this time but they just discredit me like it's another half baked idea. I wish they'd just tell me I got this and not question my dedication. I put in so much work to get where I am both mentally and physically. I made a comment about making sugar free brownie dip for my birthday and my family member said "isn't that what got you to this point in the first place, wanting to eat things like that?" And it just broke me like I'm not allowed to still celebrate things with food. The all or nothing mindset is what drove my binge eating for years. All I want is to have a healthy relationship with all food and I'm finally in a place where I feel like I can, and then these comments are made. They make me feel like a failure or that I'm thinking incorrectly. I know deep down how far I've come but some days it really gets to me and tears me down. I'm sorry at this point I'm just venting. I just wish they'd recognize my successes and not constantly question my ability. Ughhhh

Turns out they sold me the wrong vitamins. There was no iron in them. I've been on the new ones for about a week yet. I don't have rushing head syndrome anymore but still fatigued. They said it might take 3 weeks for my levels to go back to normal.

Gonna avoid for now. I'm too scared. My dietician also just got back to me and said no bread products for 4 months. I froze them haha

Moderation is healthy and I dont eat meat for personal reasons. I usually eat 2oz of refried black beans for lunch. Great option! Here's my vegetarian soft food stage dinner from the other night. 1.65 oz of impossible meat balls, .85 oz of protein Chickpea pasta, a sprinkle of parmesean and about a tablespoon of suace. Went down like a charm. Total protein: 13 grams. I think it's good for such a small amount of food and doesn't upset my stomach at all. Don't mind the kids plate LOL

[emoji1787][emoji1787] you guys crack me up! That's probably true. Anyway yeah I didn't know about the 3 week stall. Answers me question. I'll try my best to keep off the scales for a bit.

Yum! Need to try this. I always have a teaspoon of hummus with my chewable vitamins to help with nausea and taste. Looks mighty good.

Definitely! We're here. There are some other great vegetarian and plant based threads on these forums. I also know some people go dairy free post op because they can't do lactose anymore. I haven't found that to be an issue yet but it happens.

Yeah! Feel free to message me if you need suggestions or recipes. I'm fairly new, 1 month post op, navigating food again but I'm learning as I go! Can always try and impart the post op vegetarian wisdom.

I dont think it'll be hard at all. I'm tolerating pea and soy protein well. Here's how I'm getting over 80 grams of protein a day in soft foods: Breakfast: Siggis simple ingredients protein yogurt (15 grams) Lunch: yellow squash and 3.5 oz of impossible meat made into a meatball (16 grams) Dinner: 2 oz of refried beans, 1 tbspn of sour cream (4 grams) Snacks: thin slice of Provolone cheese (3 grams) and the big Kahuna, a protein shake made with 2 scoops of isopure and almond milk (use soy for extra protein). (50 grams) ...total for the day= 88 grams of plant based proteins! You can switch this up too. Do an omelet, scrambled eggs, tofu scramble, stir fry tofu and other low carb vegetarian meat subs. I was scared at first to try vegetarian meat substitutes but as long as theyre not super breaded and you chew them really well, they seem to be working. My dietician approved of them too! Everyone tolerates food differently after surgery but so far so good. Best of luck. I did my gastric bypass a month ago and I still will not go back to eating meat ever again.

Hey! I'm about one month post op (gastric bypass feb 14). I've only lost about 23 lbs post op. I was at 309 when I went in for surgery. I think my weight was like 314 right after surgery because of all the fluids though. Anyway I'm getting annoyed because I've been in between 287 and 286 for the last 2 weeks. I am eating more calories now but not nearly enough to gain or even stall. I have about 700-800 calories a day right now. Is this normal to stall out so early? I try incorporating exercise in my daily routine but I'm still dealing with a lot of fatigue and lightheadedness from anemia so I feel terrible whenever I really exert myself. Any advice or tips? Thanks!

True that. My surgeon gave me the bypass because I already had issues with GERD pre op. He said if there's certain foods that give you acid pre op like coffee, tomatoes, citrus the sleeve is going to make it worse...at least the chances are incredibly high.

What’s one thing you wish someone had told you before you had surgery? -ultimately it doesn't matter your weight or bmi so long as you qualify. It mostly matters where your heads at, how important weight loss is to you, and how ready you feel for the drastic measure. -I also wish my team made it clear that the first few weeks are depressing, no sugar coating it. You feel bad and unhappy. -I also wish my team was clear about how long it takes to feel like yourself again. I'm 1 month post op and am just starting to feel a little bit normal but the exhaustion and fatigue is real . I feel the most out of shape in my life. Pre op I was training for a half marathon able to take 2 hours to walk 11 miles. Now i feel winded and dizzy after 1 mile. I've lost 47 lbs total now and don't feel physically good most days. I don't like when people ask me how happy I must be. I won't be truly happy until I feel healthy but I know it happens. I just wish my team was more honest about how difficult the first couple of months can be post op. But ultimately, I decided to do it because I'm losing my 20s to obesity. I'm sick of battling against myself to do the right thing. I was tired of always feeling hungry. My knees are messed up from my weight and I lost and gained in huge amounts for years. So yes, to me, it's worth it but IT'S NOT EASY.

Thanks!

I know the struggle... trust me. I almost went to the ER because the amount of blood but turns out it was from the hard stool. So long as the blood is fresh - it's likely just from the straining/hardness. This is def TMI but I reached the point of slapping on a pair of gloves and taking it out myself. Sadly this intense constipation is common after weight loss surgery. You'll need to find a supplement and or medication routine that helps you pass things better. Try asking your care team for advice. I have in my arsenal right now senna (smooth move) tea, milk of magnesia, psyllium husk and prune juice. I also try to each some veggies with my protein, whatever I can stand. Make sure to drink a lot of water and try switching up your protein shakes. My ensures were causing a lot of the constipation initially. Good luck. I really know the pain. It will get better eventually.

The weird part is my protein shakes are dairy free because the milk ones ruin my digestion. I feel like it was the water chestnuts and maybe some vegetable skins? Either way staying away from that. Just meal prepped a bunch of pureed stuff too so I don't reach for something like that again. [emoji28]

Hey! I am currently still getting use to eating food and a lot of things are new for me. I'll be cleared for all foods on March 28th. I was curious did anyone eat low carb wraps or tortillas 2 months out and how did they make you feel? My family bought me these loven fresh Low carb protein wraps today. While I appreciate the gesture, I won't eat them until later this month and im a bit spooked to try "bread" again. Wondering if they'll sit okay in my stomach? And in general how do you do with Low carb wraps?

Oh just found out water chestnuts have a good amount of carbohydrates in them....maybe that was the culprit?

Ugh that sounds terrible everyone I'm sorry that happened to you all. I guess it's bound to happen one of these days being so new. The weird part is I had no carbohydrates. There mightve been a little sugar in the sauce the veggies came with but no clue why besides that I got such bad nausea and rapid heartbeat. I had one vegetarian meatball today and a protein yogurt. So far so good but now I'm terrified to drink my protein shake because that's where it seemed to go downhill yesterday. Ughhh when will this fear go away?

I made sure to chew really well but maybe it was the skins on the Zuchinni? It could've def been a bit more cooked. I just find it weird it happened like 4 hours later. Not sure what that was about.

Hey! I'm one month post op and on soft foods. I was having really bad issues with lightheadedness. My doc ordered blood tests and it turns out I was anemic. My vitamins didn't have iron in them so I changed over and sure nuff it went away. Maybe try having your levels checked. How are you doing with hydration? Do you have Low blood sugar? Best thing to do is tell your care team if you're feeling that way. Side note, laughing cow lite cheese, hummus and tomato sauce with pureed yellow squash and ricotta are all excellent pureed food meals.