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I reached my goal & was happy, so I started to increase my intake to find my maintenance point. But I kept losing. More & more slowly of course. By the time I did stabilise I was a good 11kg less than my goal. I was eating three meals a day & 4-5 Snacks. I settled around that quite happily for about a year. But with a medication & a dietary change I gained 2kgs & have been there for 9 months. I eat around 1300-1400 calories a day. Still have to snack a few times a day to reach those calories (& get in the extra Protein I need) but not as many as initially. I think this is about the weight my body is happy at too - my body’s set point.
Maintaining at that lower weight wasn’t/isn’t an issue. How I eat doesn’t impact how I want to live & enjoy my life & doesn't require me to run miles or spend hours in the gym (a big positive to me - LOL!). And I guess they’re the real factors to consider. Are you happy at the weight you reach & does maintaining it allow you to live & enjoy your life as you want without feeling you are missing out or making sacrifices? And is it sustainable? I say this a lot but it is what is working for me.

Certainly no experience here since I just had surgery, but I'll provide my perspective. 😁
For me, I could care less what the number is on the scale. I did this to feel healthy again and not be ashamed of my weight. I don't want to travel and see the disappointment and disgust on my seat-mates when they see the fat guy is sitting next to them. I want kids to be proud of me, not ashamed. I want my wife to get her "knight in shining armor" back that she had all those years ago. I want to feel "normal" in public, (whatever that is), instead of like a pariah. I want to be able to go to places I always wanted to go but couldn't because of my lack of physical fitness. I want to feel strong and powerful again.
I probably could go on and on, but my point is I'll know I'm "done" when I look and feel healthy again. Whether that's at 220, 170, or somewhere inbetween, it really does not matter.

I’m dealing with the nausea and just past 2 weeks post op. Just wondering if this eventually resolved for you. Right now I’m miserable and hoping I get over it soon

Just a tip from an ex-stylist. Thin hair looks better and will have more volume when it's shorter. And darker hair will look even thinner due to scalp contrast.
So If you ever wanted to go lighter, its a good time to try it out!

Please don't take this the wrong way, but if there's one thing you'll here on this site perhaps more than any other it's this: don't compare yourself to others. There's nothing good that can come of it.
Even if you found someone that was your exact same starting weight, height, and even had surgery the same day, there are still way too many other variables that could impact your progression. Just some examples: age, physical fitness, %body fat, basal metabolism, diet, bougie size, surgical complications, etc.
Honestly, it sounds like you're doing fine. If you're not happy with your loss so far, talk with your bariatric team. They may have suggestions for you such as increasing the amount and type of exercise and/or changes to your diet.
Best of luck!

Baking is like therapy for me, but I have never enjoyed eating it too much. So I still do bake for my family and office. It only was annoying once, but I ate a sugar free pudding while smelling the delicious Cookies and moved on. I kept telling myself it's not worth getting sick over.

I totally understand. Being able to buy clothes from the regular section of the department store and not having to pay extra for large sizes. That feels awesome. A holiday is great too.

CLOTHES !!!! what a wonderful feeling it is to go clothes shopping and the assistant say on your tiny.........who me ?? ( I dont consider myself tiny at a size 12 but hey way better than 22.
A holiday would be awesome too, I had planned to go to Canada with some girlfriends but they had to bring the trip forward and I couldn't get time off work

I like that. I got myself a mountain bike after losing 40 kg and as soon as I was confident I could ride one. Good luck with the surgery and achieving your goals.

Clothes. I wouldn’t consider clothes to be a good investment as I was losing but I wanted to love the skin I was in through all the sizes. I didn’t buy a ton but I made sure I had a few cute outfits in every size. The new iPhone sounds like a great idea. Could also do a weekend getaway or a spa day.

Thanks not a ton of activities because i work so much. But on my days off i like to go bike riding. I am off tomorrow and plan on going. Hoping to ride around 20 miles or so. as for the diet i mainly eat meats, eggs, and for sweets i enjoy the Quest Peanut Butter cups. They taste like reeses.

So before surgery i was 317lb and i am 5'4 so i am a short guy and so i was very wide. My old pants size 54 which i could never find anywhere. No store carried them unless i went to a special big and tall store. So i normally wore elastic shorts. It was very frustrating when i needed to buy dressy clothes or even anything to go out in. Now i am at 230lb and my pants size is now 42. Which i can easily find everywhere. I went shopping today and bought some new stuff and was excited when i went to the fitting room and the size 42 fit perfect and my shirt size which was almost 4XL. I was 3XL but stretching it because no one sold 4XL. and now XL shirts fit me.
Today i am going to see my best friend who i have not seen since before surgery so she can see the difference lol.

Coming up on 4 yrs post op and i have learned that carbs are not the devil lol.
Over the past 2 years I have slowly re-incorporated them into my diet to the point that i dont even actively avoid them anymore. I eat all kinds of them to the point of “toleration”…which i guess luckily, isnt very much for me.
And surprise surprise I am maintaining my weight just fine (with the added bonus of not looking so gaunt in my face…but do look less defined in my bod…but i’ve accepted that…small price to pay to enjoy a maki roll once in a while!)

With the exception of no added sugar, I try not to exclude foods because I don’t want to feel deprived (which could lead to obsession over something I can’t have, and possibly binging).
I have a small amount of oatmeal each morning, one serving of wheat crackers a few days a week, and misc. carbs if they look appealing. But overall they are not a huge draw.

This surgery to me is about getting away from unhealthy diet culture & finding balance, fuel and nutrients. So, Yes, I eat carbs & am happy to not be afraid to put a carb in my mouth. The carbs I eat are high quality and mostly unprocessed. They provide important nutrients and I need them to stay satisfied. I worry about surgery centers pushing no carb as a way to get faster results, but not as a way to finding long term success. As always, everyone is different but this is my humble experience & opinion.

Yep, this sounds to me like a Vitamin deficiency, most likely Biotin. In other words, this is most likely related to what you're eating, not how you style or treat your hair.

First thought is are you meeting all your Protein goals still? Is there anything lacking in your blood tests? How old are you? How long is your hair?
Anaesthetic can be hard on your hair making it dry & changing the texture. If your hair is long you could still have hair that was affected growing out.
I started losing hair again when they discovered I wasn’t absorbing protein after my gall was removed. It took a few months to sort this out (diet & meds) & it’s okay again.
I asked your age because, thinning hair &/or changed texture, can be a side effect of menopause & peri menopause. My hair isn’t as thick as it was when I was younger & it’s not as coarse in its texture. When I started peri menopause some of my hair became wavy. Not all of it just the back half. Weird but true. It’s straight everywhere again now. If you’re too young for this, still maybe get your hormone levels checked.

Somewhat shallow post ☺️

I am frustrated with my hair. It’s been about a year and a half since surgery. It has been thin, and different textures/thicknesses. I got the wispy ends cut off, but it all looks dry and weird. Like a wig, or cotton candy, or something made of straw. Not like life before surgery. (I am so happy I had the surgery and would do it again.).

I tried hot oil, different conditioners, blowing it dry differently, styling differently. Dermatologist said I could try Rogaine, but not sure I want to risk more Hair loss.< br />
Any suggestions from those of you who experienced something similar? I usually go to a discount salon for trims, but feel like I may need further assistance. Do I call a salon and ask for someone who works with post-surgery hair?

That is a tough one with work events coming up, and surgery soon after. I wonder if you could find something on clearance, end of season? Or at a thrift shop?
I had saved a lot of clothes over the years and was able to get through the weight loss stages without buying too much. I really started to build my wardrobe again about seven months after surgery. Since then, I have lost maybe 12 more pounds.
A tip if you are female: dresses are more forgiving in changing sizes, than pants. For example, I have a short-sleeve size 2X dress with an elastic waist, that has fit me nicely with probably an 80 pound difference. I did have to stitch the arm holes tighter because they were too wide. Whereas pants will fall off if they are a size or two too big.

That is a tough one with work events coming up, and surgery soon after. I wonder if you could find something on clearance, end of season? Or at a thrift shop?
I had saved a lot of clothes over the years and was able to get through the weight loss stages without buying too much. I really started to build my wardrobe again about seven months after surgery. Since then, I have lost maybe 12 more pounds.
A tip if you are female: dresses are more forgiving in changing sizes, than pants. For example, I have a short-sleeve size 2X dress with an elastic waist, that has fit me nicely with probably an 80 pound difference. I did have to stitch the arm holes tighter because they were too wide. Whereas pants will fall off if they are a size or two too big.

It’s wonderful, and so strange! The first time I walked into a regular clothing store, I felt that everyone was staring at me because I didn’t belong there. It was shocking not even to wear the largest size in the store. Sometimes, I still see clothes hanging in my closet and think about how tiny they are. Yet, they fit.

We are the same basic people on the inside, and yet our exteriors change greatly. It is strange how many people in society see us differently, and treat us differently.

Wow, I never would have made this connection!

How about people mind their own business when it comes to healthcare!

That is a tough one with work events coming up, and surgery soon after. I wonder if you could find something on clearance, end of season? Or at a thrift shop?
I had saved a lot of clothes over the years and was able to get through the weight loss stages without buying too much. I really started to build my wardrobe again about seven months after surgery. Since then, I have lost maybe 12 more pounds.
A tip if you are female: dresses are more forgiving in changing sizes, than pants. For example, I have a short-sleeve size 2X dress with an elastic waist, that has fit me nicely with probably an 80 pound difference. I did have to stitch the arm holes tighter because they were too wide. Whereas pants will fall off if they are a size or two too big.

It’s wonderful, and so strange! The first time I walked into a regular clothing store, I felt that everyone was staring at me because I didn’t belong there. It was shocking not even to wear the largest size in the store. Sometimes, I still see clothes hanging in my closet and think about how tiny they are. Yet, they fit.

We are the same basic people on the inside, and yet our exteriors change greatly. It is strange how many people in society see us differently, and treat us differently.

That is a tough one with work events coming up, and surgery soon after. I wonder if you could find something on clearance, end of season? Or at a thrift shop?
I had saved a lot of clothes over the years and was able to get through the weight loss stages without buying too much. I really started to build my wardrobe again about seven months after surgery. Since then, I have lost maybe 12 more pounds.
A tip if you are female: dresses are more forgiving in changing sizes, than pants. For example, I have a short-sleeve size 2X dress with an elastic waist, that has fit me nicely with probably an 80 pound difference. I did have to stitch the arm holes tighter because they were too wide. Whereas pants will fall off if they are a size or two too big.