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learn2cook

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    learn2cook got a reaction from countryrebel12 in 5 weeks post op and pregnant   
    Yes, this happened to two different women at my church and they both had healthy babies. Just follow orders and Vitamins. Congratulations and you can do this!
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    learn2cook got a reaction from WhispersOfAngel in havent lost in 2 1/2 months 10 months post op   
    I would really consider what your real goals are, 160 seems realistic. Many on here have said the last 10 are the hardest. I wouldn’t try anything extreme unless you’re going to do it the rest of your life to keep it off. Look closely at what you could shave off of food. Could you eat one less bite at each meal? Could you mix up your exercise routine? They body responds when we try new things. Have you met up with TOPS or WW? Do you have a group or friend to have a friendly competition? Sometimes I watch 70lbs of life on YouTube. She has an online Weightloss challenge.

    I personally just broke a stall by reintroducing rubber bands on one lifting day, leaning into Keto, and now use a noise machine for better sleep. Hopefully I’ll get your problem of the last 10 by next year. Good luck.
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    learn2cook reacted to Sleeve_Me_Alone in Bad days   
    Therapy, meds, meditation, reading, and posting & interacting with other bariatric patients all help. I also try and focus on HEALTH not weight. Weight is just a number, it has nothing to do with your worth or value as a person. Working on your health, eating well, moving your body are a form a self-care and a privilege. It means we were given another day to live. And on the REALLY bad days, I give myself grace to stay in bed, cry, drink extra coffee, whatever. Sometimes its ok to do that, too, you just can't stay there. ❤️
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    learn2cook reacted to sureshots in Why is it so hard to find a good therapist?!   
    Late post. psychologytoday.com has listed therapists (all across the US) that shows their specialities or interest areas.
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    learn2cook reacted to Elidh in Back to ER   
    I had a surgery several years ago (unrelated to bariatric) and was unable to urinate afterwards. Had to be catheterized a few days after surgery. Apparently it’s not uncommon. They removed the catheter a few days later and the plumbing worked fine.
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    learn2cook got a reaction from WhispersOfAngel in One Year With Mini Gastric Bypass: My Journey, Thoughts, and Tips!   
    Thanks @MiniBypassDude I didn’t even know what a MBP was supposed to be and I was pleasantly surprised! My favorite parts of your posts were “start loving yourself,” “forgive yourself,” and “you are worth it.” Honestly this WLS journey really really teaches those important lessons. Thank you for giving back important information and being honest. Congratulations on your healthier life!
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    learn2cook got a reaction from WhispersOfAngel in havent lost in 2 1/2 months 10 months post op   
    I would really consider what your real goals are, 160 seems realistic. Many on here have said the last 10 are the hardest. I wouldn’t try anything extreme unless you’re going to do it the rest of your life to keep it off. Look closely at what you could shave off of food. Could you eat one less bite at each meal? Could you mix up your exercise routine? They body responds when we try new things. Have you met up with TOPS or WW? Do you have a group or friend to have a friendly competition? Sometimes I watch 70lbs of life on YouTube. She has an online Weightloss challenge.

    I personally just broke a stall by reintroducing rubber bands on one lifting day, leaning into Keto, and now use a noise machine for better sleep. Hopefully I’ll get your problem of the last 10 by next year. Good luck.
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    learn2cook got a reaction from ms.sss in Bucket lists — where to begin?   
    I love kayaking, canoeing, swimming, basically anything in and on the Water that’s quiet. I’m working my balance endurance up through yoga to balance board paddling.
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    learn2cook reacted to MiniGastricBypassDude in Struggling   
    I can highly recommend an 80/20 approach. Do right 80% of the time, don't stress about being perfect.
    I've had way too much alcohol (don't worry, not daily or ever alone); I've had weeks where I didn't exercise, I've had days when I went way over my calorie goal, I stopped taking Iron months ago, I have to make sure I don't eat popsicles all day long, every day. Damn, I love those.
    And you know what? I got all the way to my goal and beyond. Because this is a long journey, and it's not about perfection. Sure, your team will tell you so-and-so, but nobody does everything right, all the time.
    So there's a choice; do everything right for a short time or do some things right for the long haul. Which do you want?
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    learn2cook got a reaction from GreenTealael in Taming Cravings   
    https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/10/well/eat/food-cravings-strategies.html?referringSource=articleShare

    I read this article and wondered what cravings people have, and what strategies you use to limit them? My weird craving has been ice cream which makes no sense because it’s cold outside and I’m lactose intolerant. I took more Calcium tablets in case my body was asking for calcium and Vitamin D. But what do you do for yourself when pie or Cookies or chips are calling your name?
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    learn2cook got a reaction from GreenTealael in Taming Cravings   
    https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/10/well/eat/food-cravings-strategies.html?referringSource=articleShare

    I read this article and wondered what cravings people have, and what strategies you use to limit them? My weird craving has been ice cream which makes no sense because it’s cold outside and I’m lactose intolerant. I took more Calcium tablets in case my body was asking for calcium and Vitamin D. But what do you do for yourself when pie or Cookies or chips are calling your name?
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    learn2cook reacted to itami o in I feel like I have no familial support for my surgery.   
    Thank you all for the responses. To answer some of the questions I've received: I'm not a minor, I'm in my twenties. I originally didn't want to tell anyone I was getting this procedure done because I had a sinking feeling this would become the result and I was right. I went against my better judgment and listened to someone who suggested that it would be best to tell them. However, I feel so much better about the whole situation now that I've posted the struggles I've been having. I'm glad I have support here. I also now have support from my siblings and it's been extremely helpful. I truly questioned my sanity and now I've found solace within my conviction.
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    learn2cook reacted to JacquelineC in I feel like I have no familial support for my surgery.   
    How old are you?
    you have to do what is best for you. You will always have judgy and negative people in your life. You have to either ignore them or cut them out of your life. It is the only way I have stayed sane with my family members.
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    learn2cook reacted to Prestonandme in 1 Year Post OP and I think I am alcoholic   
    I had battled alcohol problems long before WLS also due to PTSD and physical ailments. After WLS I gave up alcohol for a year and a half, but due to a series of crises this year, I began to "drink-medicate" again -- just to escape the terrible feelings of stress, anxiety, fear, and sadness. "It's only a couple of glasses," I'd reason wrongly.
    But I had two binge drinking episodes after sudden crises that finally provoked me to give up alcohol altogether. The first caused me to end up in urgent care, with elevated liver enzymes. The second caused me to fall and get a gash across my forehead.
    Because I am an atheist, I wouldn't consider AA. But I was directed to an amazing book called "Alcohol Explained: Understand Why You Drink and How to Stop" by William Porter. All I can say is it is absolutely incredible and since I finished the book, I haven't touched alcohol and don't intend to again.
    Porter explains what really happens when we drink: the wonderful calming and relief from worries... followed hours later by an increase in anxiety, depression, and hangovers as our brains readjust to the alcohol (which is a toxin). So the vicious cycle begins -- drink to stop the bad feelings... the bad feelings get worse after the drink effects go away... requiring us to drink again... etc. And there's so much more to it, too.
    Porter does not believe that alcoholism is a disease (the AA model does) but it is a behavior that can be changed through learning, reframing, and changing behaviors. I can't recommend this book enough.
    Lastly, something I should have been thinking about all this time...
    Before WLS, my surgeon told me he had only had one patient die after the surgery. The man binge-drank a few times over a three month period and succumbed from alcohol poisoning. His new body couldn't handle the volume of alcohol he used to drink prior to the surgery.
    We never think such a thing could happen to us but... now I know.
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    learn2cook reacted to ms.sss in 1 Year Post OP and I think I am alcoholic   
    So the family has been bugging me about my alcohol consumption since Covid started. Full disclosure, prior to the new year, I was drinking as least 2 (sometimes 3, on rare occasions 4) drinks A DAY. Either an espresso martini or red wine.
    So to get them off my back, and prove to myself I could do it, I agreed to cut down to no more than one one a day for a month.
    I thought this would be a piece of cake, but lol and behold, I ended up non-compliant the first 2 days. Mostly because I “forget” that I am on a mission. So on day 3, I put a sticky note on the vodka bottle when I have a drink to remind me I already had a drink that day….and I tell Mr. so he can remind me at dinner if I absently reach for the wine. Since doing this the past 3 days, it’s been working.
    When I quit smoking (again) last year (I had quit for 10+ years, went on a vacay in 2019 where I accepted an offered cigarette, and just like that, I was smoking again). And my quitting attempts last spring was also thwarted by me “forgetting “ that I was trying to quit. So I tossed all my lighters, got rid of my outdoor ashtrays and told EVERYONE I was trying to quit, and asked to remind me if I forget , but not to enforce me (cuz I know that will just piss me off), as I want to make the decisions myself.
    I’ve mostly stopped since about April 2021, but I admit I’ve had maybe 10-15 in the past 9-ish months….which is a heck of a lot better than 10-15 A DAY.
    Final examples: I log everything I eat. Having a running total of my calories, has a bit of influence on my food choices at the end of the day. I weigh myself every day…so I am aware if my weight starts to move from its happy place. Just a couple other “reminders” for me to keep myself in check.
    This approach may not work for everyone, but I seem to have moderate success with it.
    Anyway…this was my long winded attempt to suggest you try to find what it is that works for you and what doesn’t (either on your own or with the help of a therapist), and make efforts to implement this knowledge to achieve your goal(s). You may not be perfect, and that’s ok, small changes for the better are better than non at all.
    Good Luck! ❤️
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    learn2cook reacted to David_L in 1 Year Post OP and I think I am alcoholic   
    I walked away from cigarettes November of 2016 then booze a few months later. I was already over 300 lbs and I knew I had to start somewhere. I've been reading up on addiction transfer and it's real.
    This is not specific to the subject but might help get you started:
    https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/19033853-the-emotional-first-aid-kit?from_search=true&from_srp=true&qid=Ubhhurkvj4&rank=2
    I'm also still fighting with what I call the "munchie monster" and I'm still working through my childhood traumas.
    I'm also re-reading Atomic Habits by James Clear and trying to incorporate little changes in my daily routine to ensure these habits and/or rituals become second nature.
    Alcohol destroyed my dad as it has many others. I hope you can find away to address what's really going on and start walking down a healthier path.
    I'm here to vent to or talk to if you need .
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    learn2cook reacted to lizonaplane in Reverse gastric bypass   
    I feel your struggle. I had sleeve but even 4 months out I struggle with nausea. I've found that if I eat more slowly, it's better. Although the Multivitamin still makes me nauseous.
    I was tired for a while after surgery too. Make sure you're getting your Vitamins and fluids in, as that will help with the tiredness and maybe the dizziness (I still struggle with dizziness, but I have always had low blood pressure). If you are taking blood pressure medication you might talk to your doctor to see if your BP is no longer elevated and they might suggest a lower dose.
    Don't give up!
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    learn2cook reacted to loridee11 in Body dysphoria   
    I agree this is pretty common. I actually think I had it before surgery --- I didn't realize I was as big as I was. Looking back on pictures now (there aren't a lot of them) I'm surprised how big I was.
    Having lost over 170 lbs, I still feel like the biggest person in the room a lot. I know I am not in my head --- at 5'10 and wearing small tops and size 10 pants I'm probably thinner than most, but I just don't see it. I'm not sure if eventually my brain will catch up or I'll have this issue ongoing...
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    learn2cook reacted to lizonaplane in Body dysphoria   
    I am down to a large from a 3X. If I catch a glance at myself in a mirror, I'm happy with how I look, but when I go to put on size large clothes, I'm sure they won't fit.
    It's very common, but I agree that working with a therapist can be helpful.
    Also, I read in a book on bariatric surgery that you can look at those around you and try to guess their size, then you'll be surprised when you realize that you're actually smaller than them.
    I also would recommend getting clothes that fit. I don't see how much weight I've lost when I put on bigger clothes. When I see my body in clothes that fit, it's more obvious.
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    learn2cook got a reaction from ms.sss in Bucket lists — where to begin?   
    I love kayaking, canoeing, swimming, basically anything in and on the Water that’s quiet. I’m working my balance endurance up through yoga to balance board paddling.
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    learn2cook reacted to huskymama in Bucket lists — where to begin?   
    ms sss love it! I wouldn’t mind a pool at a nice resort in a warm area for sure!! My sons, age 17 and 19, are going with me. I may not be able to hike the entire AT trail but I’m gonna try as long as I can then I’ll really need that R and R by the pool lol
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    learn2cook reacted to loridee11 in Tendonitis, Rotator Cuffs, and Changed Physiology   
    I have recently had issues with my shoulder, seemingly out of nowhere - not sure if it's weight loss related or just hitting the age when things start to fall apart 🤣 I've been seeing a physical therapist, but Yoga is what has helped the most.
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    learn2cook reacted to GradyCat in 6 Almost 6 months out and have lost   
    Keep in mind that you can't compare yourself to others who may have started at a higher or lower BMI or weight and have different bodies or may or may not be exercising more or less than you are.
    That being said, it sounds like you're doing GREAT! Way to go! Good job! Keep up the good work!
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    learn2cook reacted to lizonaplane in Need Help!! Feeling my weight loss has slowed down...stopped.   
    I agree with throwing out the JUNK and tracking and distracting yourself.

    Can you go two hours without snacking? What about a day without sweets?
    I like distracting myself with solitaire on my phone or calling my mom or drinking hot tea. What about a hobby that keeps your hands busy? Crafting, knitting, cleaning, etc. Or get up and take a walk or do a youtube exercise video when you want to eat.
    You've got this!
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    learn2cook reacted to ms.sss in Average calories   
    One thing that is oft overlooked in terms of weight loss/weight maintenance is muscle mass. Generally speaking, the higher the muscle mass, the more efficient one’s metabolism becomes.
    From a very un-scientific study of a sample of one (i.e., me, lol) when my body fat percentage was at like 12-15%, I was able to maintain a weight of approx 115 lbs while consuming well over 2300+ cals a day. These days, I am at about 23-26% body fat (119 lbs today) and maintain at around 1800 cals a day. Of course there are other factors at play: I eat way more carbs now than then, and I exercise about 60-70% of the the amount I used to.
    I think weight loss and maintenance is/will be a forever ongoing series of checks and balances that require monitoring and adjustments and resetting of expectations as needed. I came to terms long ago that this is not a “set it and forget it” type of thing. If I want to stay this way, i have to make some effort to do so…and, if I am unwilling, then I will have to change what I want.
    Good Luck! ❤️

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