BayouTiger

There is nothing that my family won’t use as a butt of jokes, so I’m not sharing any information about this. My weight isn’t a joke to me, and I don’t trust them to be appropriate with the information so forget it. I haven’t seen any of them since before Covid, so when I eventually see them I’m sure some will guess but that’s not my problem.

In general people react very negatively to others weight loss because they don’t like the status quo being changed (skinny people who enjoyed being “better” than us) or feeling like their own weight is being called into question for those who are overweight.

I am only nice when I feel like it, so the one person who made a “joking” negative comment about my weight loss I just told them that was a very hateful statement and that I felt sorry for them that they are the type of person who thinks things like that. They immediately said it was just a joke and I told them if they think that’s a funny joke they need to examine their sense of humor.

But I’m a jerk who doesn’t care about being nice to people sooooo... 😬

Mischa, you and I are surgery buddies. I was sleeved the same day you were. I want to reiterate what Jaelzion said. Until yesterday I could not get more than 38 ounces of Fluid and 20 grams of Protein. I called my program and spoke to my nutritionist and she told me to aim for 50oz Water, mix it with some Gatorade zero or some kind of supplement with electrolytes and just fight it out until . I have, by the grace of God been able to avoid needing IV fluids; but these last 2 days have been hard on my actual body. I was getting 5000 steps a day (their goal for me til week 4) and today I couldn’t get out of bed. The weakness has been overwhelming today!!! Just keep sticking with it. It gets easier as your swelling goes down. I’m now able to take 2-3 small sips every 15 minutes. 2 days ago I couldn’t even get 20 oz of fluid. Keep trucking!! I’m just a stranger but I believe in you!!!

however, today I tried my first Protein Shake since sx and out of my old “chugging habit” I took a GIANT gulp. I had to sit straight up for 2 hours until it went down. So please just go at your own pace. I’ve notice you’ve struggled too, although in different ways than I have. If you need anything please DM me, as we are on the same track and will be going through the same stages at the same time. Some of us need support and if you need it, I’m here! Keep fighting, it will be worth it!
Goodluck!!
Gäbrielle

Congrats on your impending surgery!! It’s a life changer for sure, and I’m just at the beginning.
I have a 75 lb pitbull mix who things shes a Yorkie and loves laying on me, and a chiweenie. I ended up boarding them for the first 8 days, so I gave myself enough time to get though the initial post op pain (couple days max), and where I felt I could safely hold a leash and handle the dogs without ripping up my newly created digestive system.
As far as taking care of yourself post-op, I just set up my side table with my fluids and any medicine that I might need so it was within my reach and I didn’t have to go too far. By day 6 I was up and walking every 45-90 minutes, and I had a lot of issues post op and was in the hospital for 4 days. Then one day (day 9) I woke up and it was like I turned a corner and feel normal again. It’s rough until that happens,
And finally, about losing the support system, it’s not easy. But this site and the vets have been an absolutely invaluable resource to me and there is SO much great info on here! It’s pretty amazing that strangers from all over the world come together to help eachother!!
Goodluck, youve made an amazing decision for yourself, someone told me recently “if they aren’t with you, they’re against you.” That’s helped me realize who deserves to be on this journey with me and who doesn’t. You can do it!! It will change your life in just a short time!!!
-G

I went from 44H to 38B. I don’t miss them at all 😂

I’m only 3 months into the program and 2 weeks out of surgery, but today when I took my 2 week progress photos I noticed a big difference in my chest. So I put on my old 48 DDD and my boobs didn’t even fill it half way and the band was gaping in places. I’m not gonna lie I kinda freaked out lol I had a lift and a reduction prior to me gaining the 130+ lbs. So I went digging and found a really old bra and the C cups fit me for the first time since I was a freshman in college (2009). To say it’s bittersweet is an understatement lol
I think my first set of Plastics is probably going to have to be my chest. My reduction and lift is basically worthless now and even at my HW, they were one of my few liked assets!!
Hahaha I’m so glad you said this, the constant adjusting throughout the night had gotten real old. Being a stomach sleeper with big boobies is not easy!

I always wanted to sleep fully on my tummy but couldn’t cause ... well you understand. I trained myself to sleep with a twist: on my side at my shoulders & then twist my body so my hips & tummy are almost flat on the bed. Mind you I have to twist more to get my tummy to the bed now. 😆

i was happy to lose my boobs 😂😂😂😂 or should i say moobs.

First get it all out of your house. If you don’t have any junk food in your cupboards, you can’t eat it. Secondly, don’t buy it or get anyone to buy it for you. Thirdly, find a good therapist to support you with your anxiety & food issues. And finally, if you want the surgery to help you, pick yourself up & start back on your program. It’s up to you to make this work but never be afraid to ask for help.

I'm a little over 3 years out from the sleeve. I remember my surgeon, nutritionist, and primary care all telling me to focus on hydration first. Keep a water bottle with you all the time and just take small sips every chance you get. Then focus on the Protein. You will be ok.

Isn't it weird how our own family members are non supportive? You would think they would be happy for us that we are doing something positive for ourselves. It goes to show that they are insecure about something. That is my take on it anyway. It sucks because I don't really have friends, so I look towards my family for support. My parents have been wonderful. My mom is my best friend, and cheerleader during this whole thing. She cried when she saw me for the 1st time, after I had lost 40 lbs. She is so relived that I am not diabetic anymore. I was really bad.

I haven’t had surgery yet, but as someone who has endured 3 c-sections with vertical incisions, I think it might be best to board the dog if he’s at all jumpy or be prepared to crate him. The dogs are my number one concern in terms of managing after surgery. I’m sorry your parents are not being as supportive as they once were. Perhaps they are scared for you to go under anesthesia? If your work schedule works out so that April is best, I can’t imagine why you should postpone it to a time when it might be less convenient.

My sister is the one giving me crap about my surgery. She has always been skinny, and I was always chubby.
When she saw me at Christmas time, I had lost about 60-65 lbs. She never said one word about my weight loss. Finally, my mom asked her how did she think I looked. Her response, though she barely looked at me, was "Oh maybe I will have to give her all my clothes that are too big for me now". She said in a very sarcastic way.
Then she said, "I guess its easy to lose weight when you can just have a simple surgery, and cheat your way out of it." Then she continued to talk crap about how most people can just go on a diet, not eat so much food, and lose weight if they really had to.
OMG, now I was getting mad! She knew I had to have the surgery due to being a severe diabetic. The weight loss was a bonus.
When it came time to eat dinner, all I could eat was a little bit of food, and then she made a wise ass comment about that. We have never been close, but this was a slap in the face. I haven't talked to her since, and don't really want to.

Congrats on your impending surgery!! It’s a life changer for sure, and I’m just at the beginning.
I have a 75 lb pitbull mix who things shes a Yorkie and loves laying on me, and a chiweenie. I ended up boarding them for the first 8 days, so I gave myself enough time to get though the initial post op pain (couple days max), and where I felt I could safely hold a leash and handle the dogs without ripping up my newly created digestive system.
As far as taking care of yourself post-op, I just set up my side table with my fluids and any medicine that I might need so it was within my reach and I didn’t have to go too far. By day 6 I was up and walking every 45-90 minutes, and I had a lot of issues post op and was in the hospital for 4 days. Then one day (day 9) I woke up and it was like I turned a corner and feel normal again. It’s rough until that happens,
And finally, about losing the support system, it’s not easy. But this site and the vets have been an absolutely invaluable resource to me and there is SO much great info on here! It’s pretty amazing that strangers from all over the world come together to help eachother!!
Goodluck, youve made an amazing decision for yourself, someone told me recently “if they aren’t with you, they’re against you.” That’s helped me realize who deserves to be on this journey with me and who doesn’t. You can do it!! It will change your life in just a short time!!!
-G

Whoa. With friends like these, I'd hate to be in a dark alley with your enemies.
A lot of what I had to say about your "friends" is already wisely expressed above.
I'm glad you have access to a therapist, that is always a good thing.
In the meantime, you probably need a healthy dose of kindred spirits, and you will find an almost endless stream of them here.
You are doing awesome ❤️

sounds like you need some new friends. I'd have no problem dumping people like that. They are being horrible!!

Hi all,

I’m new to this community and this my first post. I have a tentative VSG date of April 12, 2021. Currently awaiting approval from insurance.

Here is my problem: I am a single 40 year-old woman who lives alone with her dog. My parents who are in their early 70s and healthy have agreed to come help out 1-2 weeks post surgery.

As the surgery date gets closer, my parents, specifically my mother are starting to become less and less supportive. She’s unsure if they will be able to help post-op, she thinks I should wait until summer, she’s worried about post-surgical pain, she thinks I should board the dog so they don’t have to take care of her, etc.

I’ve officially been meeting with doctors and checking things off since October of 2020. I’ve been open and planning with my family for this for years. I’m frustrated with the lack of support from my parents and don’t want to wait until summer for surgery. I am able to take time off of work, and work from home when I get surgery in April.

I have been hesitant to share this news or even my surgery plans even with my close friends. It’s too personal and too painful and I don’t really want to depend on them for help. I don’t have a partner or any siblings close enough to help out.

Has anyone struggled with a similar issue? How terrible and painful and unmanageable is the first two weeks after surgery? I don’t want to do it alone, but I’m afraid my parents are not in a good space to move in for 1-2 weeks nd help me directly after. In fact, they seem downright unsupportive at times.

Any advice, recommendations, or experiences are welcome. Thanks in advance.

I went from a 54DDD to a 38C. That's a big loss for me... has been really strange to get used to...

LOL, don't get me wrong, I am very happy with my new perky ones (post breast lift), I just do miss the old ones sometimes...we were so close.

I have gone from a 44D to a 36C. Maybe that is why hubby keeps asking me about halter tops....LOL

don't miss mine at all (well, once I had plastic surgery to lift 'em up, that is - they look way smaller than before! (from before everything - before they deflated due to weight loss, from before I had WLS, and from before I became morbidly obese!)

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to mourn the loss of The Girls.
While having the excess weight pass on was a welcome event, sadly, many had to pay the price in Boobies.
Sigh.
Today is the 10 year wedding anniversary of a pal o' mine. She is holding a zoom party tonite to commemorate the day and made a special request for the groomsmen & bridesmaids to wear the outfits we wore that day. I put mine on, and yes, it's way too big, and so I went looking for a pic of me wearing it back then and found this.
So yeah, R.I.P Boobs.
P.S. And the pic from 2011 is even AFTER I had a boob reduction in 2005
P.P.S Feel free to post pics of your loved ones as well....lolololzzzzzzz

Its been over a year since I bought a bra (eff you Covid)....I just took my measurements and according to those, I should be wearing a 30C. At my biggest, I was a 38DDD.
Collectively we all could have pooled our lost boob fat and opened up a soap store.

I drank hydralite for about the first three months for the same reason - energy boost & the electrolytes. Helped a lot. But definitely call your medical team.
Good luck.

Im well over 2 months out. Get urself some sos sachets and mix it with Water and get them down you, they helped me alot inthe early days. You're most likley low in potassium and dehydrated thats why you're feeling weak. They can be purchased on Amazon.

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It is very likely dehydration. I experienced that as well shortly after surgery because I was not getting enough Water.
Check your blood pressure if you can. You might need to get IV fluids if it is dangerously low. My surgeon told me I should go to the emergency room if my systolic number (the top one) got below 90.