DwGirl

Sounds like your husband might be scared of the coming changes that he has no control over. Have you said to him something like, " I understand that you can't feel happy about this, but I would like your support. It is going to happen with or without it, and I would rather not be resentful that you didn't support me during this time." Then tell him how to support you, specifically. Most men I know do very well with specific instructions. They just are not very intuitive!😏
The man in my life has had NO reaction to all of this. Neither positive or negative. When I asked what he thought about all of this, he kind of shrugged his shoulders and said, "Do you" and "I hope it's worth it". That was it. My surgery is scheduled for September 2nd, and he is still like, "Doo-dee-doo-dee-doh".🙄

My surgery is scheduled for September 4th I am so happy... and the count down has already began in my head.

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Everything is submitted and I am just waiting on Insurance approval and a surgery date, I cant believe I finished all the pre-op requirements, and I am almost to the finish line
( kinda ). I keep watching videos of people on surgery day dreaming that one day soon that will be me. I wonder how long I will have to wait for an answer I have United Healthcare Community in Maryland. I promise I will put my entire process on here for others because I have not seen anyone on here from Maryland going thru my hospital AAMC Annapolis or with my type of insurance.

Let me start by saying I really love this man , But..... since deciding to have WLS every time I bring up the surgery or things concerning it he is always being shady or condescending. I really wanted him to be happy and to support me but I see that its just not gonna happen. He keeps saying all of this is just happening too fast, and the kids are starting school.
LISTEN DEAR, I have been everything to everyone for many years and now its time for me, you can handle 1 weekend without me step your game up man.
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Let me start by saying I really love this man , But..... since deciding to have WLS every time I bring up the surgery or things concerning it he is always being shady or condescending. I really wanted him to be happy and to support me but I see that its just not gonna happen. He keeps saying all of this is just happening too fast, and the kids are starting school.
LISTEN DEAR, I have been everything to everyone for many years and now its time for me, you can handle 1 weekend without me step your game up man.
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Let me start by saying I really love this man , But..... since deciding to have WLS every time I bring up the surgery or things concerning it he is always being shady or condescending. I really wanted him to be happy and to support me but I see that its just not gonna happen. He keeps saying all of this is just happening too fast, and the kids are starting school.
LISTEN DEAR, I have been everything to everyone for many years and now its time for me, you can handle 1 weekend without me step your game up man.
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Don't it irks you when a former big person become a shamer? I have a coworker and she did not have a WLS but she had liposuction and a Tummy Tuck. And she always makes comments about bigger people (she's still sorta big just more shapely now). I went with her to get something to eat and she made a comment about every big person in line. Things like: "she know she needs a salad, I know that plate gotta weigh a ton" And when I called her out, she stated she was just teasing. I've worked with her for a while and I never heard her talk about people like that until she had her surgery. Now, she hasn't said anything about me to my face because she knows I will cuss her out. It just irks me. I decided not to go to lunch with her anymore because her energy is toxic. She finds joy in stepping on people which is kinda weird to me.

Started my pre-op diet its not as restrictive as I thought it would be. I attached a copy of it.
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Today I start my 2 week pre-op diet! I’m super lucky in that I get to have 1 serving of fruit at lunch & a small high protein/low carb meal for dinner along with 3 shakes a day. I know 14 days will come quick but right now it seems a million years away!

Congratulations, self payer here too! I had my surgery about two weeks ago, time flies right by.

Make sure to take plenty of before pictures, weigh yourself, and try to measure everything. I'm down about 22 pounds and I can actually see the results at this point. [emoji4]

I'm so excited for you!

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Nice you made it through oh glad cranberry is acceptable

I didn’t have a drain tube but I did have surgery last week. It’s normally to be nervous but it will be worth it in the end. You got this.

The same thing happened to me but she said it is most of the time removed before leaving hospital. Mine is supposed to be aug 28

Is/was anyone else just worn down & exhausted before your surgery? It’s not from expending too much energy because I don’t have much to spend. It just feels like my body is done with the strain of carrying this extra weight around for two decades. (I’m 40) I’ve had my pre-op tests so if it’s actually something medical, it would hopefully show up. It really doesn’t feel like symptoms from a disease or anything. It just feels like my body has had enough.

I was soooooo sick for the first 18ish hours. I was really glad my husband didn't have to see me like that. There are pros to every bad situation. Lol.

Good luck, I totally understand your nervousness I am also very nervous.

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I just wanted to update for those who are headed to surgery soon. I am one week and a day since sleeve surgery and I’m pretty much feeling 100%. I didn’t really ever have pain from the wounds. I did experience gas, I wouldn’t call it pain but it was very uncomfortable. It lasted about 24 hours and got better with walking. I had minor pain when I left the hospital but Im a single mom with a one year old and it was hard not to pick him up. I had to lift him onto the changing table, give him baths, etc you know regular mom stuff. That pain subsided pretty quickly too and I didn’t have to use pain meds much. Being on liquids again for another 2 weeks is the worst part but it’s not unbearable. It was difficult for me to get a Protein Shake down this first week. They just felt heavy and sweet and weren’t setting right but I kept trying different ones and found ones that I could tolerate. Protein Water has been a life saver. I found some sipping Soups yesterday that have been helping me feel more satisfied. I also talked to my surgeon’s office and they told me I could try some Greek yogurt and that went well today. I went back to work day 6. I’m a teacher and all my student are virtual for now so I’m basically just sitting in front of a computer all day. I was feeling really tired like I needed a nap midday and then super exhausted when I got home from work but not today. Today I felt great. You feel better every day. I’m just so excited to start seeing results. I have lost 11 lbs since surgery.

I had my bypass alone on 6/29. I was fine, my nurses took terrific care of me, and I could manage alone at home after I was discharged.

Congrats on getting your surgery date. You’ll be fine. My surgery was way before covid but I was alone most of the time. A friend dropped me off at the hospital & picked me up three days after surgery. I live alone & managed well at home. Have to admit I was pretty tired & didn’t really want visitors so my friends & family txt & phoned regularly to make sure I was ok.
I did make sure I had all my meds, shakes, Soups, broths, etc. I’d need before I went to hospital.
Good luck.

My big butt knocking down things as I walk by.

Omg....I am currently doing the exact same thing I have been waiting and waiting for some news from my doctors office my paper work was submitted to insurance Friday and I know its only been a few days but it's like my new life is waiting.
Please keep us/me posted if you receive any good news Good luck

CONGRATS!!!!! Happy for you!

Congratulations! It’s a great feeling when you get the news.

How wonderful!!!!

I am actually so happy right now to find out my surgery was approved and I am going to get surgery finally this is the best news ever Surgery date Sept 29th. ( but hopefully I can get a closer date ) alright the countdown has just begun
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