So. I had my first appointment with the surgeon this past week. We have agreed on a sleeve gastrectomy. He said the surgery would happen in about 1 month since I'm self-pay. I have an appointment with the dietician next week and with the psychologist the week after. I'm nervous and excited. It's all I can think about. It's all I want to talk about but I'm trying not to drive my husband crazy. I thought this might be the place to talk. Anyone else out there in the same boat that wants to gab it up. I keep perusing these forums and reading all of the posts. I want to engage.

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Welcome! I have chosen not to tell anyone in my life (aside from medical professionals) about my surgery, so it's nice to have somewhere to discuss something that is a big part of my life right now.

FYI, in case you don't know how to update your stats, you can click on your username at the top of the screen, then select "My Surgery" under Settings. The info on the "Surgery Information" and "Progress" screens is nice to be able to see when you post (but of course it's all optional and you don't have to enter anything you don't want to share).

Congratulations, self payer here too! I had my surgery about two weeks ago, time flies right by.

Make sure to take plenty of before pictures, weigh yourself, and try to measure everything. I'm down about 22 pounds and I can actually see the results at this point. [emoji4]

I'm so excited for you!

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Welcome! I have chosen not to tell anyone in my life (aside from medical professionals) about my surgery, so it's nice to have somewhere to discuss something that is a big part of my life right now.
FYI, in case you don't know how to update your stats, you can click on your username at the top of the screen, then select "My Surgery" under Settings. The info on the "Surgery Information" and "Progress" screens is nice to be able to see when you post (but of course it's all optional and you don't have to enter anything you don't want to share).

Thank you. I've seen people with stats posted and others asking about them but wasn't sure how to do it. I've updated my info with what I know for now. I'll be sure to keep it up to date.

I planned to keep my surgery plan a secret. But apparently I have an insane need to share. Probably because I'm so excited. I kind of wish I had kept my mouth shut. No one has made any negative comments though so far.

My husband is supporting me but doesn't understand why I can't just make the associated diet changes to lose the weight I need to. Same for his mother. They worry I'll be hurt or unhappy. Despite not understanding, they are being supportive about the surgery. They just worry about my happiness with the lifestyle changes. It makes me feel like I can't really express my own concerns though because I worry they'll try to talk me out of it based on them. I really am anxious to just get it over with so they can see I'm fine.

If you don't mind me asking, is there a reason you're not telling anyone? No judgement, just curiosity. Honestly I wish I had found this forum and got involved before I started talking. Maybe I wouldn't have felt the need.

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Congratulations, self payer here too! I had my surgery about two weeks ago, time flies right by.

Make sure to take plenty of before pictures, weigh yourself, and try to measure everything. I'm down about 22 pounds and I can actually see the results at this point. [emoji4]

I'm so excited for you!

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Congrats! How did the surgery go for you? I'm eager to have mine done but a little anxious about possible pain. I'm allergic to pain meds. As for pictures when I updated my profile I looked for a couple pics to post. It was sad to see how few photos of myself I have. And they're all of just my face. For so long I've hated my body and the way I look. When I was young and thing I was so very photogenic. I wonder if I can get back to that. As hard as it will be though I do plan to photodocument my journey for something to look back on and potentially share.

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Thank you. I've seen people with stats posted and others asking about them but wasn't sure how to do it. I've updated my info with what I know for now. I'll be sure to keep it up to date.

I planned to keep my surgery plan a secret. But apparently I have an insane need to share. Probably because I'm so excited. I kind of wish I had kept my mouth shut. No one has made any negative comments though so far.

My husband is supporting me but doesn't understand why I can't just make the associated diet changes to lose the weight I need to. Same for his mother. They worry I'll be hurt or unhappy. Despite not understanding, they are being supportive about the surgery. They just worry about my happiness with the lifestyle changes. It makes me feel like I can't really express my own concerns though because I worry they'll try to talk me out of it based on them. I really am anxious to just get it over with so they can see I'm fine.

If you don't mind me asking, is there a reason you're not telling anyone? No judgement, just curiosity. Honestly I wish I had found this forum and got involved before I started talking. Maybe I wouldn't have felt the need.

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I had a few reasons for not telling anyone about my surgery. I didn't tell my family because I first looked into this surgery about 15 years ago, and my mom played a big role in talking me out of it because she thought it was dangerous and that I was going to die or have horrible complications. This time around, I did my own research and made my own decision and didn't want to give my mom or anyone else a chance to talk me out of it. I have three siblings who have always been thin, so I have a feeling they would be judgmental about it. People who have never struggled with their weight don't understand why it's not that easy for everyone to just eat less and exercise more.

I didn't tell anyone at work because I have heard negative comments about weight loss surgery from coworkers. Something that has stuck with me for years is a former coworker who complained about his wife's health insurance costs going up because she worked at a small company and two employees had weight loss surgery in one year. This guy was on his wife's health insurance instead of our company's because it used to cost less, and he complained that it was now more expensive than ours because these two ladies were "too lazy to just go on a diet." I have several current coworkers who are really into diet and fitness to the point that they make me uncomfortable, and although I've never heard any comments from them specifically about weight loss surgery, I have a feeling they would be judgmental.

Finally, I am a very private person in general and I am careful about what information I share about my life. I wouldn't tell my coworkers if I were having, say, gallbladder surgery or a hysterectomy, either. People might figure it out on their own if I lose enough weight, but I'm not going out of my way to tell anyone about it.

Absolutely I had my first visit as well and I’m currently doing my clearances now and meeting with nutrition and psych soon it’s literally all I can think about as well

Absolutely I had my first visit as well and I’m currently doing my clearances now and meeting with nutrition and psych soon it’s literally all I can think about as well

Are you self pay as well or do you have to jump through insurance hoops?


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I had a few reasons for not telling anyone about my surgery. I didn't tell my family because I first looked into this surgery about 15 years ago, and my mom played a big role in talking me out of it because she thought it was dangerous and that I was going to die or have horrible complications. This time around, I did my own research and made my own decision and didn't want to give my mom or anyone else a chance to talk me out of it. I have three siblings who have always been thin, so I have a feeling they would be judgmental about it. People who have never struggled with their weight don't understand why it's not that easy for everyone to just eat less and exercise more.
I didn't tell anyone at work because I have heard negative comments about weight loss surgery from coworkers. Something that has stuck with me for years is a former coworker who complained about his wife's health insurance costs going up because she worked at a small company and two employees had weight loss surgery in one year. This guy was on his wife's health insurance instead of our company's because it used to cost less, and he complained that it was now more expensive than ours because these two ladies were "too lazy to just go on a diet." I have several current coworkers who are really into diet and fitness to the point that they make me uncomfortable, and although I've never heard any comments from them specifically about weight loss surgery, I have a feeling they would be judgmental.
Finally, I am a very private person in general and I am careful about what information I share about my life. I wouldn't tell my coworkers if I were having, say, gallbladder surgery or a hysterectomy, either. People might figure it out on their own if I lose enough weight, but I'm not going out of my way to tell anyone about it.

Given that, I probably wouldn't have told anyone either. I'm glad we have this forum so you won't be alone.

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I just called today to schedule my consultation appointment! I'm not concerned about qualifying since my BMI is 44 and I have high blood pressure and cholesterol. I will have to jump through insurance hoops, but they're checking into all that before I actually schedule my appointment.
The only person I've told is my partner, and he is very supportive of me no matter my choices. He's happy with me the way I am (and I truly believe him), but he understands the positive impact it will have on both my physical and mental health. I don't plan on telling anyone else until everything is set and scheduled, and even then it will just be my kids and my parents.
I'm so happy you posted this because I'm sure he'll be happy I've found other people to constantly talk about this with lol. Im sure I'm driving him nuts!

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I just called today to schedule my consultation appointment! I'm not concerned about qualifying since my BMI is 44 and I have high blood pressure and cholesterol. I will have to jump through insurance hoops, but they're checking into all that before I actually schedule my appointment.
The only person I've told is my partner, and he is very supportive of me no matter my choices. He's happy with me the way I am (and I truly believe him), but he understands the positive impact it will have on both my physical and mental health. I don't plan on telling anyone else until everything is set and scheduled, and even then it will just be my kids and my parents.
I'm so happy you posted this because I'm sure he'll be happy I've found other people to constantly talk about this with lol. Im sure I'm driving him nuts!

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Anytime you want to talk about it feel free to message me. I'm just trying not to drive people crazy lol

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