janesays

everyone has a different preference. playboy only adheres to a certain audience, just like in women's magazines their "hot guys" are all shirtless and muscular. i have dated both big and small, and i have to say i am muchhhh more attracted to bigger guys. i always tell my friends who try to set me up that the guy must be "atleast bigger than me" but just because he's less attractive to some doesn't make him any less of a Jerky guy. one of the nicest guys ive dated was 6'4" 290ish? and one of the most egotistical and immature guys i've dated was 5'10 280ish. ive also dated two guys that are about 5'11 210? (totally guessing on all these weights but they were of average size-- pants around 34)... well one i'm pretty sure now is gay.... or atleast, in my mind he is haha. the other is not very social and i found that to be unattractive. just like girls, guys are a mystery, and you never know what you will get until you give them a chance! im sure you are a catch and any guy would be lucky to call you his girlfriend! you just have to put yourself out there. i haven't dated any guys the last year, and i put that on not projecting myself like i want to date anyone.... because i really didn't.

a good excuse while out to eat on a date: my thin roommates can neverrrr eat on a first or second date (or until they are comfortable) because they get so nervous they get sick. now i have (obviously.. haha) never had that problem, and im always a very confident girl, but i plan on using it. it could come by as a compliment.... you know, "when i'm first around a guy i really like but i'm nervous, i can hardly eat. so please excuse me, i would love to eat but i just cant... unless you want to hold my hair back! i promise when i get more comfortable with you we can go out to dinner!"

good luck froggi!!!! i know you will do magnificently! whenever you feel up to it, you can go ahead and update my current weight to 234! (but... by the time you get back in the swing of things, hopefully i will be down even more!) we'll be thinking of you. let us know how everything goes :laugh:

thought i would update this! my official pre-op starting weight was 249, my surgery was 241, and I am currently at 237!

I completely agree! The desire to eat has completely left my body for the moment. I know it will come back when the swelling goes down before my first fill, but for now it is blowing my mind! For the first time in my life I am worried I am not getting in ENOUGH calories! Not a bad problem to have, in my opinion....

omg, that is soooo funny! sorry if this is too much info, but I had a dream last night that I finally went to the bathroom! I've been a little constipated, clearly....

hey guys! I just wanted to update everyone. I had my surgery yesterday morning, and my doctor said it was a surgery by the books-- so easy and everything went smoothly! Sorry for the long post ahead, but if you are interested in what I've done the past 2 days this is a break-down: My doc is an expert in laparoscopic surgeries (the majority of his surgeries are colonoscopies, hernia repairs, etc through a laparoscope)... so I am really interested to see how good my incisions will look. From what I hear he is very good at that. He also took pictures inside of me and gave me a copy on a CD! He was going over them with me in the recovery room, and my mom was so grossed out it was hilarious. He pointed to my liver and told me how skinny it looked, and praised me on a job well done on the pre-op diet! (I think I did pretty well-- I lost 7 pounds in 10 days!) My surgery was at 7am, I woke up as I was going to the recovery room around 8:30 and the only thing I remember was how incredibly cold and thirsty I was. I must have had about ten blankets on top of me, and all you could see was my head! I slept for a little bit, and my mom kept feeding me ice chips. A nurse walked me around the hallways about noon, and then I got dressed and left at around 1pm! All in all a very short hospital stay. I'm staying with my mom at the hotel she's at in town, even though I have my own apartment here, since it's where I go to school. I definitely picked the right place. The hotel is practically empty so the staff is bored and waiting on me hand and foot! There are three chefs at the restaurant, and they have been busy making up homemade broths and all sorts of fancy presentations. Yesterday a chef spent 3 hours making this chicken broth that was divine! Except I could only put down about 1 or 2 spoonfuls. My back is really achey.... it kind of feels like when you sleep the wrong way. My stomach is sore only when I move up and down, so I am trying to limit that. My mom kind of feels like I've become her baby again, as she is "burping me" by rubbing my back and hitting it a little so I can get the gas out. It feels sooooo goooood though! My goals for today so far are to get down a cup of sf pudding with my Protein supplement in it, and to shower. We'll see how the last one goes!

Clearly I'm a little bit apprehensive too... it's 12:17 in the morning and I have my surgery at 6 a.m.... I need to go to sleep! But to be honest, I haven't really felt nervous at all lately... in fact, some days I act like I already have the band in me! I know that seems a little weird, but I think it's because I've been on this journey so long.... it feels like a part of me already. I'm in a hotel room with my (sleeping) mom right now, and she is a nervous wreck.. so I think I lost any fear I might have had because I know she is worrying about it all for me. Maybe find someone who can help ease the anxiety by being anxious with you? And don't worry! The last month went by reallllly fast for me, and it should for you too! I am sooo happy for you that you will be getting your surgery soon! When will you know your exact date?

so excited for this-- for all of us! talk to you in the morning when we are all in bandland!

I didn't have to for my surgeon, but he did lift up my shirt to see my stomach, so that he could see if I had any scars and so that he could point out to me where to expect my new scars. I did have to change into a (backless!) gown for the nurse when I had my EKG and chest scan. She opened up the gown to put the sensors on me but tried to make me as covered as possible, but she walked me down a busy hallway to the x-ray, and I was scrambling to hold the back of the gown together! Remember, every doc is different so I don't know how it will work for you. I guess just prepare like you would need to in order to be comfortable. But.. as my roommate (who is a nurse) always says: they REAAAAALLLY don't care what we look like. They see far worse... and I'm guessing since you are 26 that you are not the bottom of the pile. Good luck with everything!

hi all! i start my pre-op diet tomorrow.... surgery on the 20th! yay! this entire weekend was a bit of a "last supper" ... i didn't gain any weight though, thankfully! friday my roomie and i cooked mexican food, we had a tailgate with hamburgers on saturday, and tons of leftovers for today. but i am so ready to start this pre-op diet. i want to prove to my doctor and to myself that i AM capable of a little self-control.... it's only ten days, right? hopefully i don't give in to temptation. my mom, who won't be in the same city as me until next tuesday, is putting herself on a similar diet for moral support. i'm so lucky she's willing to suffer with me!

i'm having surgery on the 20th too! I don't have kids... 20 years old and still in college. But I do have three roommates who do not know about the surgery. I've told my close family and my best friend, but I just do not trust my roommates enough to not tell the whole world, even though I know they would want the best for me. My mom is flying up to be with me for 2 weeks and it is the Thursday before our week off for Thanksgiving break, so my roommates won't even notice, as I will just want to stay in the hotel room with my mom the first few days anyways.. and they will be at home for 9-10 days with their families. I can't imagine having this surgery with so many kids around! I'm sure we will all do great, even with our different lives. We will have a wonderful and secret friend inside of us, helping us out. It will probably be difficult the first week or so being with your kids, but just think of how much easier it will be to be with them once you've gotten to a healthier weight. good luck to both of you!

looks beautiful! i'll be sure to speak up if i notice any bugs

gentylwind and angie angel-- i'm originally from plano! that's so close to me that my ex-boyfriend from high school is from allen, and my brother dated a girl who lived in allen too. seems like you have all the eligible bachelors and bachelorettes... haha! only one week until i officially start my pre-op diet...

thinking of you guys! good luck tomorrow cobrien! keep us updated on your status please

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hey! i don't live in ny now, but a lot of my family does. I will be moving there in August and will definitely be needing some supportive friends! keep in touch!

good luck notorious novembers!

cappy: so great "meeting" you too! I haven't had as much of a problem with sweets as I have trying to reduce the sodium/carbs. Also, I definitely think my biggest problem is not drinking with meals! I have had some success cutting a lot of things out of my diet, but that is one thing I have no idea how to do.. angieangel: another nov. 20! it will be sooner than we think! i am self pay too, but my doctor has me on a ten day pre-op diet like the rest of his patients. I am nervous about it, but I am kind of looking at it as my last chance to prove to myself that I have *some* will-power. I can handle 10 days..... hopefully! p.s.... love the texas flag picture! I too am a misplaced Texan (I live in Missouri right now, and that is where I will have my surgery). Where in TX are you from?

I totally understand what you are going through. I'd say about 99% of my friends are of a healthy weight, some of them even too skinny in my opinion! However, I have only told one of my friends -- my best friend -- and I am so glad I did. She is supporting me 100% but it is hard because we no longer live in the same town. I of course also told my mom, my stepdad, and my brother, and there are a few others because of them that know (hair dresser included -- she was banded 5 years ago), but ultimately, it was the toughest decision for me to NOT tell my other close friends. Sometimes we realize that it is just better to keep some things to ourselves. I did, however, promise myself that I would never lie to my close friends about it, so in the meantime I plan on telling them that I am simply eating less or watching what I eat-- no breads and such. When the moment is right, or if I feel that I really need their support, I will confide in them. If they inquire about WLS or perhaps one day even decide they need it for themselves, I will of course fess up. Otherwise, I have found all the support I need on this very website! Another thing I found helpful was going to my hospital's support group meeting for patients with the lapband. You should really look into seeing if your hospital has one. It was a totally different experience talking one on one with people who have the same problems, and people who are a few months ahead of me in the process! On the plus side, they are also nearby, so a couple of new friends are possible too. Good luck!

I have my surgery Nov. 20, so I don't start my pre-op diet until Nov. 10. In the last few months though, I have just been "practicing"... aka chewing more, trying not to drink with meals, eating more protein, and getting in lots of water. i'm not nervous... yet! but i am definitely excited!

hey! I was born and raised in dallas-- went to high school in plano. I get banded next month, but that will happen where I live now, which is columbia MO (where I go to college). I go back to plano over breaks though. congrats on all of your success! we have pretty much the same starting and goal weight!

Hey guys! I don't know if you have heard about Caitlin Van Zandt... she is 23 and an actress on Guiding Light. I never watch soap operas, but I heard about her a few months ago in the news. She had been overweight while on the show and in her personal life decided to have lap band surgery. Since they couldn't exactly hide her losing weight on the show, the writers decided to write the surgery into the script. Today I saw a news story that showed her progress... thought I would share! She has lost over 70 pounds in about 7 months! A little bit of inspiration, to say the least. Viewers will be able to watch her shrink on the show as her surgery was aired sometime over the summer. kdka.com - Guiding Light Actress Sheds Pounds After Lap Band Surgery anyways, enjoy!

well, we missed you on here! let us know what your surgery date ends up being and if we're close to the same day.

good to see you back on here! and good job on losing that much weight so far-- i bet it is really rewarding. my surgery date is nov. 20, so that I can get back in the swing of things over thanksgiving break. looks like we will both get the band about the same time. keep posting and updating on here!