Baxette

🤪kindness police Dont stalk other posters

@Zinthis you could have gotten your point across in a kinder way. @ Addicted is correct. Most new people are gracious.

Posts like these are unnecessary and not helpful.

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@Zinthis, It is against forum guidelines to shame people for their choice of surgery.

@Zinthis you could have gotten your point across in a kinder way. @ Addicted is correct. Most new people are gracious.

Catwoman see my private message.

New&Improved is back under new name!

that was my first thought when I saw this. He's B-A-A-A-C-K! And ruder than ever!

I don't think it is helpful to lecture someone when they have trusted professionals to guide them in their best interests and that trust was broken. In my opinion It is not our place to reprimand only to listen and support. We can't change the decisions we have made to this point but we can learn from them. If someone needs to vent then it seems this is the place to do it. I hear depression and it can be pushed much deeper by blame and shame. Yes, I am new here but have been trained in trauma counseling so I have seen the damage that can be done. From what I hear, It took courage to admit the mistake and not applauding that courage, heightens the chance that the courage won't be found again. I hope you will not shoot the messenger.

I wish I knew of a resource that I could point you towards. Hopefully some of the links that others provided will yield some assistance!
I am very sorry that you went through so much of what you did. While you can say that the surgery failed for you, the truth of the matter is that your surgeon failed you in a horrible egregious manner. To refuse to provide you with any follow-up is beyond the pale and boggles my mind. I would suggest possibly seeking out a hospital based weight management program in your area that is NOT affiliated with your prior surgeon. They should be able to provide you with the guidance that your previous surgeon apparently couldn't be bothered to provide.
I'm also sorry that you ran afoul of this forum's resident *******. No one deserves having to listen to him.

I think you need compassion.

Folks, do the site and this thread a favor and click the "Report Post" link in the upper right hand corner of New&Improved post.

Unfortunately not every surgery ends all rosy, there are some surgery complications and some people do have issues in the medium to long term. If you don't want to see anything that you perceive to be discouraging, negative and anxiety inducing you will need to give a lot of threads a miss or not be on social media at all.
The OP came for support and encouragement too and should be able to tell there story.

I'm sorry you didn't find my post helpful, but if there were more posts like this I wouldn't be in the spot I am in. If you don't want to hear negative comments then looking at a topic called REGRETS.
I have had several responses that show I am the exception not the rule, but I deserve to be able to express myself as well.
I wish you luck and good health.

Well he has said he doesn’t have much luck with the ladies. The problem is that he thinks it was because he was fat, when in reality it’s because he has a terrible personality.

No you're not, not one little bit. You love that you've been super successful and now you've forgotten what it was like the hundreds of times you tried to lose weight and failed pre WLS. You forget too easily that you had to have an entire organ bypassed from your digestive tract to get you where you are today. Don't forget, have compassion and empathy.

brag and seeking attention. ALL.THE.TIME.

It's just ridiculous. This need to brag almost continuously also comes across quite pathetic.

This WHOLE ENTIRE POST IRKS ME. Funny how, a person who has been Obese, has the audacity to get on WLS Forum to ridicule people on their journey. You are still in your honeymoon phase of your surgery and Good For You, that you lost your excess weight, and Good For You that you had the "mental stamina" to achieve your goals and Good For You that you are "healthy and skinny". But without your WLS surgery, would you be able to stand on your high horse and scream down to the people who were once in the same boat about their struggles? This Forum, from what I know, is to help people on their journey; good, bad or indifferent. I personally, like the authenticity of posts, where people are brave enough to admit their struggles and downfalls. At least, they are willing to admit their faults and seek help. You never know what post can help somebody with the same issue. Everyone that has gone through a WLS are well aware that this road is NOT easy. This community already receives, judgement, criticisms and ridicule from other people. It's just a hard pill to swallow when its one of our "own".

You will be fine!! My insurance expired 12/31 (b/c my employer was changing plans) and I had my surgery on 12/18, and had no problems getting it approved. It would be considered "bad faith" to deny someone who is on COBRA, etc. Best of luck to you!!

Congratulations ! Wishing you the best!

Well guys I just wanted to report that yesterday's sleeve party was a success! I am back at home trying to sip; sip, sip, as much I can.
I was in by 7 and out by 6:15. I would like to thank all of you for support!
It's MY time!

I have left relationships that have lasted longer for less. Please don't let the amount of time spent with someone be a deciding factor in what you should or shouldn't be doing. If someone isn't actively adding to your life, then they aren't worth being there in the first place. He sounds like he is insecure with you losing weight and gaining confidence, hence his reactions and belittling of you. There are plenty of men out there who would adore you and support your journey, so please don't let some a*****e ruin it for you. ♥

Hah! Before the stay at home order I was struggling to justify all the time I was spending being a couch potato. Now I don't need an excuse--it has been mandated by my Governor- I'm just being a good citizen! 🤣