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Yep, it’s happening to me as well. I’m no longer as invisible. It’s not that I’m happier or holding myself more confidently, I was prior to weight loss.
It’s a thing, and it sucks. Don’t let it mess around in your head too much. People are weird. And no, it’s not right that we are suddenly treated nicer due to our appearance. Everyone has value, and should be treated as such.
Im starting therapy next week, and this will be one of the things we discuss, for sure.

There are of course 2 sides to this.
I am sure that if you had put in all this effort and lost all this weight and people didn’t comment or tell you how great you look you would be more teed off. I know it frustrates me when no one says anything.
Also whilst some people are attracted to obese people the majority of people aren’t. So whilst who you are hasn’t changed the way you look is probably a lot more pleasing now. Ask yourself if you thought you looked great when you were carrying all that excess weight, I know personally I think I look awful .

You may be right about the therapist. Although why is it assumed that because you're overweight that you're some how unhappy?

THIS. people are like "you look so great now!" what did i look like before, a bridge troll?!! 🙄

I totally get you on this. I had yet another person yesterday tell me that I looked fantastic after losing 80lb. I am cranky too. So obviously I didn't look ok before. This annoys me. I still care about people who are struggling with their weight. They need the same affirmation that I am getting now. Why do people hate obese people!?

Great job, Tracy. I know how hard you've worked to get that 100lbs off! The discrimination is real...
People who haven't lived it don't get it. One of the things that's helped so far is just being the person the discrimination stops with. When i encounter folks who say hurtful things or invalidate somone who's overweight I try to advocate for them.
Weve been there and we know how hard the road can be! With your knowledge and experience I know you'll continue to shine bright like the star you are!

I am just beginning my journey but down a total of 100 lbs from last year and 52 lbs of that has been since April after receiving the surgey. I am frustrated as i have always been discriminated against. I have been doing my job for 29 years. I have a great reputation and am very knowledgeable. However I always get passed up for promotions and advancement. Tired of it. So am hoping that what happened to you happens to me. Although at 57 YOA may have to deal with age discrimination next. People don't know how to treat you if you are different in anyway. Anyway at 240 so still have a long way to go but getting there.

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way, I think you would benefit greatly if you saw a therapist.
Some people are treated differently when they lose what but I don't think its all about the way they look, I think some of it is the way they present a different attitude, more confidence, happier, etc etc.

I'm 1 year 2 months post op and have lost 115lbs which is awesome. I have more energy and can do more things with my daughter, I'm in clothing sizes I have never worn! I should be the happiest I've ever been, but I have a mindset I feel is holding me back. This may seem ungrateful, but I'm ANGRY I'm treated differently now that I've lost weight. It's like I was invisible (or worse- gross) when I weighed 286 but now people notice me just because of what I look like and it PISSES ME OFF.I was all the things that make me ME before I lost weight and now it's like a revelation that I'm worthwhile somehow. All of this positive feedback would have been awesome when my self-esteem was in the toilet from being depressed and overweight.
-My husband wants to tell me I look cute and wants to have more sex - and my 1st thought is why didn't you do this before?
-People who wouldn't give me the time of day at work tell me my ideas are great - and I think, they were good before, why didn't you speak up then?
-My family tells me nice things about myself and my clothes - I cant stop thinking about how I could have used this support BEFORE.
Has this happened to anyone else? What do I do to move past this? Should I see a therapist? I don't want to be ungrateful...

It’s hard to look at these. I can’t wait until I’m onto real food again! I’ve been dreaming of chicken salad.. and of getting to the stage where I can do ricotta bakes.. and maybe even rice-less burrito bowls...

My kind of yogurt, looks amazing!

That looks delicious. I love the Dannon light and fit and eat it at least once a day. They do not have a whole lot of flavors at my grocery stores so these little add ins would be very welcome!

Container dannon light and fit Greek yogurt with 1 tsp slivered almonds, 1 tsp unsweetened coconut and 1/2 tsp cocoa nibs. Sometimes I get full 2/3 of the way through. This morning I ate the whole thing.

Looking good!

Pre and Post...I eat the same omelette just 1/2. Three eggs, two slices cooked uncured bacon, fresh organic spinach and baby bella mushrooms, a sprinkle of shredded cheese cooked in about 1 teaspoon butter.

 

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Wow such a difference

I love chicken pad Thai so much, but I haven't had it in months. I used to eat a full order in a sitting at least once a week. Last night i asked if they could replace the rice noodles with bean sprouts and ate 1/4th of an order (about 1 cup). My husband's full order is included for comparison. It was amazing!

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Congrats!

I did that same thing! I still have that picture...though I need to get back to it. And I will. But it's a great thing, sight and feeling: that first reentry into Onederland!!!

Are you actually "eating" the first week out; as in, actual food--solid or even semi-soft food?
Stretching is one thing. But at just one week post-surgery, the primary concern is complications to the stomach's incision line. As one said above, leaks; or even particulate (small) matter--food--getting into your incision line, etc. That would NOT be good.
**The particulate food particles can get stuck in the incision line, cause poor healing; and in turn, increase a chance of leaks due to the food particles interfering with the approximation of the cut edges. Also there's a risk of intraabdominal infection, etc. You want/need that incision line to close/heal completely, without 'contamination' by food particles.
Did your doctor permit actual food--solid food--or by "eating," do you mean your liquids? For many (myself included), I had a hard time [for weeks] getting my Water in because I felt full so quickly [Alas, that's not the same now, and I actually gained back some weight {very depressing and mad at myself}]. But check with the plan per your physician and make sure you're not ingesting too firm a food and not taking in too much.

Yesterday was a beautiful Sabbath day, which also marked 2 of my goals! I was able to jog 5 full laps around the track without stopping, and entered the wonderful land of Onederland!!! I kept stepping on & off the scale to make sure the numbers were accurate! I became so elated that I began crying while doing so...I haven’t been below 200 in probably 24 years! When I came out of my room, I started to tell my children, and began crying again...it’s surreal, but, wow, what a feeling!!!

Yesterday was a beautiful Sabbath day, which also marked 2 of my goals! I was able to jog 5 full laps around the track without stopping, and entered the wonderful land of Onederland!!! I kept stepping on & off the scale to make sure the numbers were accurate! I became so elated that I began crying while doing so...I haven’t been below 200 in probably 24 years! When I came out of my room, I started to tell my children, and began crying again...it’s surreal, but, wow, what a feeling!!!

Second one

Ok I need to play !!!

My new favorite go to thread! Thanks!