Hello my name is Nicole, and I am new to the group. I am in the earlier stages of the sleeve process. I have my psychologist appointment tomorrow and overall I am really excited to go through this process. However, my husband says he is on board, and will be supportive, but in the next breath he says he wishes I could loose weight the "conventional" way. Like I haven't been trying to loose weight most of my life, like he hasn't been there though all the multiple diets I have attempted and failed. He says that he sees the surgery as me giving up on myself. I see it as fighting for my future. I have seen some success with dieting, but the weight always comes back. I feel like the surgery is a way for me to start my future, and become the person that I know is underneath all this weight. I'm not sure how to explain to him how beneficial this surgery will be for me overall.
Also I am feeling ashamed of telling people. So far besides my husband I haven't told anyone else because I am afraid they will feel the same as my husband. I fear that I will be judged and really I am just looking for support.