I have decided to be fairly open about my process (surgery countdown on T-4 days). So far I have gotten nothing but support with just a little bit of concern that goes along with any surgical procedure.
I have to say that I have the advantage of being a man. I know it is a harder decision for women because they are judged harsher. I wish it weren't the case but it sure seems to be.
I decided to be open for a couple of reasons. For me, it has been a long slow decline into obesity and I have been in denial for a long time. My first step was admitting that I had a problem and needed help. I wasn't ready to really make a change until I had broken through enough to admit it openly.
Second, I have a feeling that my weight loss is going to be quick. People will either guess that I had surgery or think that I am dying. Personally, I would rather them talk about the reality than conjecture.
Third, if I can be an example to other people, I will gladly take the scrutiny that comes with it. I fully expect to coach additional people through this process in the future. I have already gotten a few curious inquiries.
In the end, it is a personal decision for everyone to share what they are comfortable with. On one hand, there is no reason to talk over private medical matters with others. On the other hand, there is no shame in taking positive control over your life and doing something that will make you healthier.
Best of luck and let us know how it goes no matter what you decide.