Sheribear68

Your transformation is awe-inspiring.

Beautiful lady, beautiful clothes. 💕💕💕💕

Ok, so NOT the outfit i was planning on wearing for Valentine's..... Most everything i pull out sexy is too big now. This was still too big, but i made it work. This was a side by side.... July 2018 (my 50th birthday) and this valentine's day.

In Honor of Black History Month

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

Great job Angie!
I totally forgot to weigh last week, which may sound weird, but it’s the honest-to-goodness truth.

Anyway, after our group meeting last night I set a reminder on my phone to weigh myself.
I didn’t SS the results, but I’m at 137.4, which is very close to my lowest weight.
So I did meet with my NUT last week and thankfully she’s reassured me that I won’t die if I eat under 1,000 calories daily, 🤣🤣🤣

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

It gets easier, but it’s still rough sometimes.
On the upside, hubs and I rarely go out to eat anymore bc of this, therefore it’s great for our budget.
On the downside,I’ve had to learn to tell myself repeatedly that IDGAS what the servers or restaurant staff think of me when I I order an appetizer as a meal (honestly it’s so tedious sometimes to explain that I want it brought when everyone’s meal arrives because IT IS MY MEAL) or when hubs and I share an app and I take small bites off of his plate and ask for an extra smaller plate.
You would think with more and more bari brothers and sisters out there that this would be so common, but it’s still hard for people to understand.
It’s like our society exists to stuff our faces with as much crap as we can when we go out rather than enjoy the experience of going out.

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

Oh and here’s a pic from yesterday.
Feeling strong and accomplished and I refuse to feel one bit apologetic or guilty about it.

Oh and here’s a pic from yesterday.
Feeling strong and accomplished and I refuse to feel one bit apologetic or guilty about it.

Strange indeed.
I am now the skinniest girl at work, my circle of friends, and my family and it’s a bit mind-blowing.

Now when I go out in public, nobody knows that I’m actually a fat girl trapped in a skinny girls body.
They can’t understand that I know their pain, their shame, their mental battles. It’s kind of like once I got >2 years out of chemo and I didn’t look like a cancer patient anymore.
I will always be a cancer patient, but I no longer look the part so people dealing with cancer of their own tell me as a health-care provider “well you can’t understand what I’m going through...”.
Um...yes. Yes I most definitely can.

It’s the same now, and honestly it’s even weirder for me bc I was MO for most of the last 22 years and it was so much part of my identity that there are aspects I probably won’t live long enough to get over.

I’m sensing in your post here, AZhiker that you’re feeling a bit “lost” as to which group you can relate to. Our previous acquaintances can’t relate to us like they did before and new people we meet never knew our previous struggles.
I can relate completely to this feeling of “where do I belong now?” And this is why forums like this and support groups are absolutely vital for our continued growth and mental health.

Of of y’all in this February group are near and dear to me as we were all starting about the same time and went through this together. I will be forever grateful for the last years worth of humor,frustration,fears,setbacks and triumphs that we’ve shared.
As we move into year 2, there will be new challenges and I’m looking forward to navigating those together.

Okay so I had a moment like this today at the Pilates studio.
An instructor I hadn’t had in awhile was back at our location and she made a comment to me after class about how fantastic I looked and how strong I had become.
Another gal in class piped up saying she was noticing the same thing about me and then it turned into a discussion on how much I’d lost since joining the studio last March.
So I told them all that I’ve lost 120+ pounds since January 2019, and there was a part of me that wanted to add, “but it was bc of WLS, so please don’t look at me with awe and admiration,”

Then I mentally took a step back and realized that
1. I didn’t owe anyone an explanation of how each of those pounds came off, and
2. I am amazing and awesome for sticking to my program like I’ve done for the last year.
I could’ve “settled” for losing 50,60,70, etc pounds, but at the end of the day I pushed myself beyond anything I ever thought I could’ve.
And you know what? I am actually very strong and dedicated to this lifestyle.

Yes the compliments sometimes can make us feel guilty and awkward, but I challenge each and every one of you guys to give yourself credit for the incredibly brave and wise decision to have WLS in the first place.
This choice isn’t the easy way out. There’s so much involved in it that will be with us forever and we chose forever altering our digestive tracts to get back our health. There are many people out there who will -for a multitude of reasons-never make our very difficult choice.

My suggestion is to save a clothing item. I saved one pair of jean shorts. Three years out there are days when I realize I’m wearing a size medium but look in the mirror and still feel “fat” Every so often I will pull them out just to put on and remind myself how far I’ve come. It’s hard to change your mindset.

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

Lol, my first non-exercise gear OOTD in awhile.
This is from yesterday morning as I was heading off to work

Our Valentines Day Date Outfits lol

This is a great bit of head work that you’ve done though and you’ll be so much better for having “been there, done that”

Okay, so my big desire and focus in life is travel.
I don’t even mean big travel— I get Uber psyched and excited to plan a single-night getaway 90 miles away.
I find myself planning the next trip as soon as I get back from the current one.

We are taking a beach vacay in June and I’ve finally narrowed my search down to 5 places, lol.
Oh it will be so much fun to finish planning that.

I also love home projects.
Even if it’s something silly like finding a vase at a consignment store and then making up a floral arrangement, I love it

Very soon we will be doing some remodeling around the house and I’ll be in heaven for months planning it and designing everything to the most particular detail.

Poor hubs.... all of my free time will be spent poring over home design websites and dragging him to stores.

This is a great bit of head work that you’ve done though and you’ll be so much better for having “been there, done that”

Okay, so my big desire and focus in life is travel.
I don’t even mean big travel— I get Uber psyched and excited to plan a single-night getaway 90 miles away.
I find myself planning the next trip as soon as I get back from the current one.

We are taking a beach vacay in June and I’ve finally narrowed my search down to 5 places, lol.
Oh it will be so much fun to finish planning that.

I also love home projects.
Even if it’s something silly like finding a vase at a consignment store and then making up a floral arrangement, I love it

Very soon we will be doing some remodeling around the house and I’ll be in heaven for months planning it and designing everything to the most particular detail.

Poor hubs.... all of my free time will be spent poring over home design websites and dragging him to stores.

Yes!

Lol, I LOVE that I no longer have boobs to speak of, but I think curves and boobs are very sexy.
Weird, right?

😂😂
I’m in-between.
I’ve got a handful of the $30 Amazon finds, but dozens of things <$30 from the high- end consignment store.
Okay, I do plan on shopping some more boutiques, but need to see where I settle in and I’m firmly waiting til after 3 yrs PO/after plastics before I start to build my “forever wardrobe”

For now, I’ll hit the consignment store once a month, and shop Amazon when I need something specific (like a red dress for valentines day) and be happy with the balance

This is a great bit of head work that you’ve done though and you’ll be so much better for having “been there, done that”

Okay, so my big desire and focus in life is travel.
I don’t even mean big travel— I get Uber psyched and excited to plan a single-night getaway 90 miles away.
I find myself planning the next trip as soon as I get back from the current one.

We are taking a beach vacay in June and I’ve finally narrowed my search down to 5 places, lol.
Oh it will be so much fun to finish planning that.

I also love home projects.
Even if it’s something silly like finding a vase at a consignment store and then making up a floral arrangement, I love it

Very soon we will be doing some remodeling around the house and I’ll be in heaven for months planning it and designing everything to the most particular detail.

Poor hubs.... all of my free time will be spent poring over home design websites and dragging him to stores.