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8 days for me. You better start taking some stool softener today. When I finally did have a BM it was like delivering a couple of large rocks...TWINS! Not fun.

Something my doctor has said to me repeatedly - if you need help, ask for it. Don't do it alone. In the clinic I had my surgery, we had a therapy session with a psychologist who begged us to ask for help when it's needed. You're losing weight which is wonderful, but if you feel like something isn't right - ask for help. You've came so far it would be silly to let it go and not continue on your wonderful journey. You can do it, I can do it. Ups and downs, through it all, know that you are on a journey to a better life and better health. Sending hugs and love ❤️

How do you know that you've "stretched your stomach"? Because most likely you didn't. You got used to larger portions and that's normal up to a certain degree. Dr. Matthew Weiner has interesting videos on this on YouTube.
But you did go to the planned appointments?
What "lies" did you tell yourself and why do you feel that you "didn't earn" your weight loss? Weight loss after surgery is nothing that needs to be "earned". WLS is a surgical therapy that is supposed to work for the patient like coronary bypass surgery is supposed to work for the patient. You don't need to earn anything here!
Having WLS is like learning to swim. You can read everything about swimming that's available, you can get lessons on how to learn the best technique, you can talk to people who have learnt to swim until you're blue in the face - but you know what? Most of this stuff means diddly squat the moment you hit the Water for the first time!
I'm curious about the title. Tell us!
There are people who lost weight without exercising. Yes, there are many benefits to exercising like cardiovascular health, bone strength, uplifting your mood etc but if you hate it - you don't need to.
Stop acting like a sinner that needs to do penance, it's so damn destructive and will get you nowhere in the end. There's nothing to confess. We all screwed up with quite a few things in life.
Be kind to yourself, as hard as it might be right now.

When my kid's turned 18 !
Just trying to brighten things up a little bit. Hope you don't mind.

If you are new with your CPAP I would speak with your sleep doctor. If you take this mask off at night, I would recommend trying a different one as there are many and some didn't work for me or my wife when we first started. I did find it difficult at first because it does force air into face and that can be a difficult feeling.

You can't afford your liver to be too large for the surgery. You can't cheat on this. If you're cheating now on the pre-op, what are you going to do post-op and for the rest of your life? Think about that. I'm not being mean, I'm just asking you to think about the long-term.

^^^^ this.

I am not accountable with electronic journal. I forget to do them for days. Handwritten is best for me.

Still looking for someone to help keep me going.

It's interesting that you mention the "re-settling" part, because my friend who had RNY 3 years ago, she talks about this all the time. She had surgery in October. She said by that following summer she was at her goal weight. However, she said by the next summer, she was the same exact weight, but she looked completely different. I saw pictures and she is completely right, she does look different. Her weight "re-settled" and she looks smaller to say the least.

One more pound is so frustrating but that is do-able. You've got this!

One more pound is so frustrating but that is do-able. You've got this!

@CaribeRidge She has me take my socks and shows off and then I took my cover up off as well, ya know just in case. Then she weighed me, when she told me my weight I was like dang it. So can I take my pants off and we can try this again lol, she chuckled and we sat down and started the rest of the appointment. I wasn't kidding though haha

Nobody gas ever accused me of being normal let alone average, but if I can become the bestest slimmest healthiest Frustr8 possible, I will be satisfied with whatever occurs. Of cours3 if I make it down to less than 200lbs let alone the 175lb I truly desire, you will hear me shouting and singing to the farthest reaches of the Universe!

LOLOL! I’m not sure which one is the sweetest. They are all pretty sweet. Luckily my boxers aren’t droolers, but my sister has English Mastiffs and they drool A LOT!! My husband and I have had boxers forever. There were three before these four. They are a wonderful breed. Henry is our first white boxer and also the largest boxer we’ve ever had. They are all professional snugglers and hopelessly devoted to our family. ♥️

So, here's a topic I know may anger some, but is there anyone else who can't stand when someone just assumes you're religious and offers to pray for you? As an atheist, I never presume to guess what anyone else's beliefs are and I don't go around telling random people there is no god, especially in a time of turmoil or crisis. So when I tell someone I'm having surgery, or about any other significant event, whether in person or online, how about a little common courtesy and not just assuming I believe as you do and leaving your religion out of it?
I'm not looking to debate the existence of god here, I'm just trying to get people to realize that other people believe differently than they do and to not make assumptions.

Biotin will not do anything for Telogen Effluvium, I have confirmed this with a dermatologist and Bariatric surgeon. It helps regrow hair but cannot prevent  the shedding phase. Minoxidil will only prolong the prevention of the shedding phase but eventually you will shed once you discontinue use (so I just didn't bother, I have long term commitment issues) I searched scholarly journals and med research heavily prior to surgery because this was my one vain concern and deciding factor on which surgery I would have (I had VSG) Also RNY tends to shed more due to malabsorption and DS even more. But in the end not everyone will and genetics plays a role in that.

I feel your pain! I keep my hair up but my hairline and temples look really thin. The worst part is I’m going to look crazy when it starts to grow back, it will be short, super frizzy baby hairs.
Here’s a pic of Hair loss from one shower in the beginning.

My guess is Willie. He looks like a sweetheart

That's hilarious! I had an Irish Setter that was much more direct. If her food bowl was empty, she picked it up and threw it at you. No communication problem at all

I wouldn't go whole hog on a liquid diet if you don't required to - they are unnecessary for the liver shrinking thing as you only need a low carb, calorie restricted diet get whatever benefit there is to obtain. The purely liquid aspect that some doctors impose is usually done to get their patients used to an overly long post-op liquid diet. The docs in a couple of practices that I have worked with specifically don't want their patients fasting for weeks before surgery, but want them as strong as possible going into the procedure.
These liquid pre-op diets appear to be more common than they really are through a concept known as "adverse selection" which is common to many internet forums. It is simply a skewed perception due to the fact that most of those who have something to complain about (like having to be on an unnecessary liquid diet) will complain online about it, while those who have nothing to complain about are pretty quiet. If one were to survey the general bariatric population, one would find a relative minority have to do a liquid pre-op diet, while most have some kind of calorie/carb restricted diet, or none at all.

Then, walk as best you can. Assuming your procedure was laparoscopic, it takes a good week to get rid of the gas and walking makes a difference. Getting in your Water or whatever other liquids you are allowed is important, too. I'm sorry I had an easy recovery. I'm sorry you are having a rough time. It does get better. Do what you can, as you can. I didn't have a choice about getting better - I had to go back to work the Monday after surgery because if I don't work, I don't get paid. I don't get sick time, disability time or vacation time.

Not much you can do for sagging skin working out helps but the skin will still be there. I work out at home using weights ranging from 5lbs and up and I also do body weight exercises. Squats push ups, burpee, mountain climbers etc. I do cardio, jogging, as well. Its not always easy but once you push through and form a habit you won't be able to do without it. Consistency is key, over time you will see some toning and you will definitely feel the change in how clothing fits due to loss of inches. I am 15 years post op and continue to be a work in progress! Hope this helps and keep up the good work!

I have 2/3rds of your co-morbilities, substitute Severe GERD for diabetes. BMI almost identical but bear with me a second on MY story. You have been obese most of your adult life? I was born at the end of WW2 to parents who had just lived through the American Depression so what my mother's doctor told them didn't seem unreasonable. My mother nursed me, although at that time breast-feeding had largely fallen out of favor, after every nursing and yes I nursed well she was told to feed me a full 8 oz of Carnation Milk Formula. I started out my extra uterine life at 7of 12 oz, at 1 year I was 35 inches tall and weighed 36 lb. Yes the size of the average American 2 and half year old, I had fat cells set down in my body before I could walk. And I walked or lurched around on my own 2 feet before I turned 1. No wonder I have 2 arificial knees, I started wearing them out early. Although I looked in semi-average size until. puberty my flesh was always soft, never muscled up, how could I? My muscles were naturally fat sheathed. So I guess I have been lipid-challenged my entire existance.
Fast forwarding many years, I will soon be receiving a RnY bypass at 72, yeah my blubber should have done me in before 72, and it dud try! Received isn't perhaps a strong enough word, I have been active to semi-actively seeking Bariatric surgery since August 2015. If I don't get it pretty soon I have lined up a box cutter, 50 pound test fishing line, hair clips , a Swingline stapler, a 3 way mirror , some surgical manuals . I am redheaded, stubborn , at least medically semi-literate and like my pen name Frustr8-ed, do you honestly think I couldn't wreak havoc? Oh and I am also high-functioning autistic, we can center on one subject to the exclusion of everything else. And my box cutter has a nice clean blade in it, a leftover from working at Wally World and they kept my work equipment sharp and up to date. When we parted company I didn't happen to generating,it so they never got it back!👉🐵👈

A little Masonic,maybe some Tums, but most important a resolve that this kind of sin against yourself, and did you notice. those onions rings and ice cream isn't suffering, but you are?
Say KCGirl WE ARE NOT GOING THERE AGAIN and hold yourself to the promise. This proves your stomach was willing to stay "in training" even if your mind was weak. You(and me also) have come so far,neither of us wants to turn back to blimpdom-Forward to the finish! Do you agree? Good because I'm marching right along side and we can be strong together! Surgery Ho the Wagons!🙆& 🙆

Preop here guys. I’ve made a huge mistake. I had my last weigh in, got my surgery date and insurance approved it. Then I went a little nuts this week. I’ve had onion rings, greasy sandwiches, hot dogs, chips, sugary cocktails, root beer, pizza, chicken strips, ice cream..... and right now I’m paying for it. My stomach hurts. My body is saying “WTF are you doing?! Why would you stop eating this crap for 6 months only to turn around and binge on it?”

I hope I remember how this feels a week, a month, a year from now. That crap food and sugar was not worth it.