Glen Dean

Amazing dude, looking great. Keep up the great work.

If you are exercising and lifting as you say, your calories are probably too low. My nutritionist had me up my calories from 900 to 1300. I usually hit it at +/- 100 calories of that daily. I go to the gym 4-5 times a week where I run and lift those days spending about 90 minutes there, on my non gym days I walk for 2-3 miles.
The nutritionist told me I need the extra calories if working out, if not the body holds on to what it can for survival. You may want to speak to a nutritionist that works with bariatric patients.

It's not called "break" it's called "Dressing" When a tailor asks you "what side you dress on", he's referring to what side your d**k falls to so they can give you a little extra room on that leg.

You'll notice this more, not because of the position of your inseam, but because the fat loss causes you to hang lower, since the penis is attached at the pubic mons with a tendon, as we get fatter, the fat in the pannis "swallows" your penis since that tendon keeps it firmly attached and prevents "growing with your gut". Think of it like a dock post, as the Water rises the dock post shrinks in visible size due to being anchored to the ocean floor. At a higher tide, the wind is going to affect the post less than at low tide. Same deal with your unit and gravity's effect on it.

I would just say suck ok n s ok me sugar free mints and brush your teeth and tongue at least three times a day.

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Ok, I'll start this. I'm about 6 1/2 months out from RNY surgery. I'm down 123.6lbs from my most recent high weight of 287lbs as of last May 5, 2017. You can see my stats in the signature panel and on the left side of each post. I love my surgery and have few problems--in fact, my pouch is named Iron Will cuz nothing bothers it except a high fat diet--then I will wish I'd died.
I'm starting IF because I had amazing results with it before a cancer dx and used it all throughout treatment. It protected my healthy cells and exposed the cancer cells to vulnerability. I am on a cancer drug that causes super-menopause--shutting down as much estrogen and progesterone as possible. So I'm terribly hormone-imbalanced and losing is harder than it should be. I also have thyroid issues that I'm dealing with as a result of life-long PCOS (metabolic disease).
I will do a bunch of gyrations with my IF--far more than most would need to do--so don't think "my plan" is the proper way to IF. I think most people don't have to jump through the extreme hoops I have to jump through in order to lose weight and stem inflammation--my ultimate goal.
I found ADF using the JUDDDD plan years ago. This doc who developed it was one of the pioneers in modern-day IF. JUDDDD stands for The Johnson Up Day Down Day Diet or ADF (Alternate Day Fasting Diet). You can get the book here. It's a very easy and effective plan and is based in part on the work of Dr. Valter Longo and his SIRT (longevity gene) research. It's based on growing telomeres to counter-balance the effects of aging. The diet also helps reduce inflammation and is very good for asthma/allergies in addition to helping a whole bunch of chronic diseases.
Here are my beginning stats. I will weigh in weekly and will add my measurements every month on the 20th. I'm beginning this IF journey on Labor Day 2018. Cuz you know...why not do something fairly hard on a national holiday lol.
My personal JUDDD plan will include alternate days of 500cals. The other alternating days will be normal eating patterns between 900-1200 cals. In addition, I will continue my low carb diet and will keep the following macros as much as I can. My plan says that being 100cals one way or the other makes little difference. So I won't sweat being a couple cals or grams over or under.
Down Days (DD) 500 cals: 60%Protein (75g); 15%Carbs (19g--total non-net); 25%Fat (14g); Fiber where I can; <10g daily natural sugars
Up Days (UD) aka Normal Days 1000 cals: 30% Protein (75g); 15%Carbs (50g--total non-net); 55%Fat (61g); 25g Fiber; <15g daily natural sugars
Intermediate Medium Day 750 cals: 40% Protine (75g); 15%Carbs (28g--total non-net); 45%Fat (38g); as much fiber as possible; <10g daily natural sugars
Alternating Schedule:
M-W-Th: DD
Sat: MD
Fri-Sun: UD
Oh, and I forgot to mention that I'm also going to be eating within a 14:10 schedule which means, 14 hours fasting (currently considered the optimal fasting/eating window for females) and 10 hours opportunity to eat scheduled meals. I eat roughly 3-4 hours between meals. So I will be available to eat between 11am-9pm keeping roughly the 3-4 hours between meals.
09.03.18 Weight:
166.4lbs
08.20.18 Measurements:
Chest 40.5
Waist 32.5
Hips 41.5
Neck 13.5
Right Thigh 22
Left Thigh 22
Right Arm 11
Left Arm (Lymphedema from cancer) 12.5

On board! For anyone interested the link below is what piqued my interest
https://youtu.be/tIuj-oMN-Fk
Then I started considering the benefits of a hydration focused lifestyle on fat loss because of the link below
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4901052/
I prepped by using a Water reminder
Ive done 20:4(strict) 18:6 &16:8(modified) fasting, I also have a 24hr true fast coming up. I will update my progress here regularly

Hey y'all! Anyone and everyone is welcome to jump in and join us.
This is the Intermittent Fasting DAily Menu/Results/Accountability Thread. It's where a few of us (or many) are going to log in and encourage each other while we experiment with our own IF plans. You can list or talk about anything--not just your food. I look forward to adding in HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) and core exercises to my walking plan while practicing IF. So expect to hear about that too. hehe I expect some of us will talk about the known IF side-effects like insomnia, circadian rhythm disturbance, etc. It's all good! Let's hack this IF mofo! mkay?
There is not any 1 specific IF plan--there are so many to choose from, so this is a BYOIFP (bring-your-own-IF-plan) and join the fun! This is the thread where we'll post our daily menus and maybe some piccys at times! We can discuss progress, issues we might notice, look at how we may want to refine our own personal plans. I do think you should be healed from surgery and have your doctor's and RD's blessings to try something like this and you should do a ton of research and reading about Intermittent Fasting.
IF isn't only about weight loss, it's about taking specific measures to limit either quantities, calories, macros, or sometimes only consciously altering eating windows/schedules in order to effect metabolic change and reduce inflammation and improve health markers.
Ok, let's do this thang!!!

I agree with Matt.. Totally normal, but you will have to still eat and drink in your case drink because you are on liquids most likely. The key will be to stay hydrated so you don't end back up in the hospital.

If you don't have a fever or severe pain that isn't tolerable with meds, then yes. Swelling, bloating, etc will happen during healing. If they gave you an incentive spirometer, be sure you are using it every hour! It does help!

Totally normal feelings. I had zero desire for anything for awhile. You just have to focus on meeting liquid and Protein goals.

the 3-5 days post op is when all the swelling and actually surgery is in full effect. That swelling inside will go down in a couple of days just make sure you are taking your meds and drinking your Water. If you don't have a fever then you should feel much better in a day or 2. Good luck the first couple of weeks it can make you question your choice to have had it done but you will get through it. and be glad you did

I can only speak to my experience,,, most alcoholic drinks and beer,,, will be off limits,,, for at least a few months after WLS... I know my doc said wine would be a good thing to start back with if you wanted,,, beer has lots of carbonation,,, sounds painful,,, just thinking about it,,, im 4 yrs post op,,, any way,,, I decided after ,,, to forgo,, so Ive been sober for 4 years,,, BEST decision of my life,,, please take this endeavor seriously,,, this is not a cure all,,, if you dont change your habits you will go back,,, and re gain the weight,,, I decided to take this GIFT and use it to its fullest,,, sounds kind of fruity,,, but im dead serious,,, 4 years of maintained weight goal,,,, lots of gym / great nutrition , exercise and SOBRIETY I doubt I will ever go back,,, you can and will fall into old / BAD habits,,, I wish you luck,,, WLS is just a head start,,, but ya gotta change your eating / drinking / active habits !! best of luck

Don't discount the fact that they may simply be more attracted to you now and are using transference to stay ahead of guilt.

Thanks... it's ok. Overall it's just that, "not everyone is the same" sorta thing is all. Sorry you had a bad interaction, but as they say "don't let 1 spoiled apple ruin the bunch".

IT is also possible he is using your interaction as a bragging point to whomever is listening. Doesn't matter the age, the male ego is a silly thing and he may be using these obviously mundane conversations as examples of the attention he brags about to the men in his group.
Or it could just be that he isn't very good at dealing with the opposite sex.

Never let an interaction with 1, affect your interaction with all. I can't even dance around all the things I'd like to say because it will *ALL* come out wrong in this wonderfully PC world we live in. But, not all men think that, not all men act this way, etc etc etc etc stereotypes are bad no matter who we are taking about, etc etc etc.

Take each interaction as it's own. Not sure what this guy is "bringing to the table" in your interaction (meaning his thoughts, feelings, history, moral compass, etc etc etc). I've got a friend that has no idea when girls *ARE* hitting on him... even when it's beyond obvious that it's happening. So... that's my 2 cents.

So I've reached my first goal. I didn't really have a number on the scale in mind, but a jeans size in mind. I want to be at a size 8 and can finally now fit in them. I'm only 4 months out and hope to still lose some weight because of the statistics of people who regain a little. I want to lose more so I when my weight settles, it settles at the weight I'm at now and not 10lbs and a jean size higher. I love my new body and vow to take better care of it from now on so I don't go back!
 

Matt your awesome, thanks for the tip. I really do appreciate you.

I will give the intermittent fasting a go.

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In all seriousness, check into Intermittent Fasting. When I stalled out hard around 230... it was Intermittent Fasting that allowed me to get down to 206, I'm fighting getting lower, but 25ish extra lbs from fighting at 230... I'll take it. I'm doing a "light" IF, I pretty much only eat between 8am and 6pm. Check into it, there are a few threads around here, it really REALLY did help out with getting me down to where am I now, it might help you out as well.

Congratulations! I’m jealous but excited for you!

@Frustr8 - I don't want to hijack this thread or take away from @Glen Dean's accomplishments.
No one should be put down for offering insight or advice and I'm sorry that happened to you. I hope it does not deter you from offering support in the future.
I would also like to thank you for trying to respect the boundaries. However, and with respect, I can't help myself from mentioning that you are making this statement from inside the boundaries you are trying to respect. This is still the Guys room.
Just my .02,
JC

@jconforti, I was looking for a location to find you. Your point on "Am I the only one" is well-taken and well-stated. May I share what,happened to me once? Often if I feel I have an insight, I do post. Thought that was fine until one day I answered a query,only to be put down because I was pre-surgical, apparently this person felt only post-surgical persons should be permitted to answer. My response had been gauged on life experiences which I had felt had equal validity. Didn't post for awhile, my "newbie" feelings were wounded, and until she went,inactive I never posted again where she was at. Just wanted to share this with you, and until I upgraded to Beta app, my "trendings" never told what forum things originated from so once or twice I did post way back in the GuysRoom by accident, but not anymore. I respect the boundaries now.

Fantastic!

Hello,
Your feelings are certainly understandable given what you have been through. However, you have taken a huge first step by getting out of an unhealthy relationship. Now its time to start taking care of yourself by doing the things that will help you heal and get healthy. For me that meant resuming relationships with friends and family, working with a trainer and doing some volunteer work. It takes time but believe it or not you are already on the road to a healthier, happier you. Best of luck.
Shalom.

Your life may have been different but it’s not possible to go back and change the past. What you can do though is change your future. Take back control, focus on your goals and start working towards them.

You can do it