Pearldrop

Ok - I'm going to steal the idea from @sdcheesehead's group and tweak it a bit for our group. Her program awards silver forks in recognition of getting a surgery date. So I would like to award those that have completed their surgery with golden flatware. I found this image of flatware made to look like vintage keys. I felt that was very fitting for our journey.
So I will award these at the beginning of each month for those that had surgery in the prior month. I'll come back to do a new post awarding those that had surgery back in May. Hope you all like this idea!

Congrats on your weight loss - it is a great achievement! Stay strong.
Perhaps you should go out for coffee together and have a heart-to-heart with the husband. Remind him of how respectful you were when he was newly sleeved and how it helped him, and now that it is your turn you NEED the same (need not want). If he can't recommit, suggest counseling. If he won't go to counseling, go by yourself.
At the VERY least he should eat that crap outside the home, and not bring it around you. Don't let him make you buy it with the weekly groceries. Hang in there because you ultimately cannot control another person.

My husband was sleeved last year in September and is down about 80 lbs. I was sleeved the end of January and am down 52. He eats pretty much whatever he wants but at a small portion. He is not eating very healthy and is bringing junk home. I am trying to eat healthy but it is hard when junk food is in the house. That is why we are where we are at is because we ate junk. I am frustrated because I want this to be a great experience and be a healthier family. I believe it is affecting my weight loss and want to continue to lose.

Wow pearldrop you're doing great with Water. I am really jealous of your daily coffee. I can have Decaf in 3 days. It's starting to be a long time, especially because I feel so low energy.

I am on semi-liquid now so I am allowed soft rice crispies in milk for breakfast. I have 1/2 cup of Protein Shake for snack or yogurt and Soup for lunch or dinner. I also like frozen shakes for dessert or snack.

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5 days post op and I went for info session 6 years ago! My husband was totally against surgery! So I waited. Now I'm 62, have diabetic neuropathy in my feet, can barely do more than two things in a day - like laundry and grocery shopping. Desk job made it even worse. Got turned down for long term care insurance and am taking care of my 90 year old parents! I finally said, enough! I would rather have this surgery - my very last resort- than have toes amputated. My Dad had open heart surgery in April 2017 and I spent a lot of time in the hospital. I saw it all and knew I didn't want to end up with major problems! I didn't want to be the person that it took 5 people to get me into an ambulance ! I didn't want to keep asking for seat belt extenders on a plane. I wanted to play with my grandkids. I couldn't do anything for anyone else until I took care of me!! You have to do this!! No matter what!

I’m on the other side now. Everything went well and I’m feeling pretty good

I Had heartburn prior to my sleeve, it was getting to the stage where it was pretty much constant. As part of my sleeve procedure my dr checked and then fixed my hernia. I’ve had zero heartburn since. Please note I’m only one week post op. Only time will tell if it is permanently gone.

You are not alone. I feel like I’m reading g my story. I’m on week 3. Was ok until a couple days ago. Nothing... I mean nothing goes down. I ate a half of spoon of baby Cereal and that started the ball rolling. It feels stuck. My stomach is foaming like a rabid dog and I am throwing up foam like crazy. I haven’t eaten in a few days and I can’t even drink. I am all Foam. It’s disgusting. I’m calling the dr today. Let’s stay in touch bcus I’m feel scared and alone. I really wish they would tell you what might happen so when it do so we are not freaking out!

I really didn't expect my weight loss to go so fast.
I also did not expect to be this successful.
I figured I'd be one of the very typical middle of the road average sleeve patients who lose 65% of their excess weight. I figured I'd stall out at 205...and that sounded great to me. 205 is a hell of a lot healthier than 270!
Six months out, and I'm losing slow and steady. Made it into the 170's. Seems crazy to me, and really wonderful.
I'd rather go slower and give my skin time to catch up. No hurry here at all.

Thank you for sharing that. That's really helpful. I don't have my surgery date yet but I'm in the last leg of my approval process and i know my process will be a long road too. When i attended the class for the RNY surgery i felt uncomfortable just because i felt others were wondering why are you here. I am a revision patient due to GERD and the damage it's caused internally. I need to lose at least 90lbs and to me that's a significant amount. But to others not so much. So i fully understand that we all have different journeys. I guess the important thing is to know your journey, don't get discourage when others lose weight at a faster pace than us and Celebrate each accomplishment.

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I have struggled with perspective myself. I alternate between being logical, this is the fastest weight I've ever lost and being impatient, like during the stall I'm in right now.
What's the hurry, one poster asked? Well for me, it's plastics. I have a very tight work travel schedule. I have a window I have carved out near the end of the year, so I can have and recover from plastic surgery. I HAVE to be at or very near goal at that time, or else I'm not sure when I will be able to afford the time to have the surgery.
One thing that has helped me keep perspective recently, is how the weight is coming off of my body. I'm feeling more confident in my clothes than I have in a very long time. If I do say so myself, my butt looks fantastic in a pair of jeans!

Sometimes I hate to comment because I feel like there are folks out there who just want to say, “STFU!” But, I know my road is going to be long. I have relatively little to lose but it feels like a mountain to climb for me. When I read how quickly others are losing, I truly have to remind myself their journey is not mine and many would likely rather be in my shoes. It doesn’t make my journey any easier. That said, I do appreciate everyone here. You are kind and compassionate. And, you understand that three weeks post op, sitting on only 12lbs lost is just as frustrating for me at 168lbs as a 20 pound loss would be for someone who started out substantially higher in weight on sleeve day.

I’m a bypass patient and my loss is pretty slow. I’m at 100 pounds lost in 6 months and I’ve seen people at my starting weight lose 100 pounds in three months. I do get discouraged. Statistically speaking it’s tough to read things like only 20 percent of patients that started at my weight make it to goal.
My family is so proud of me right now though. And I try to think of where I was this time last year, how miserable and hopeless things seemed, and you know what. I don’t care if it takes me two years to lose this weight. I don’t care if I lose weight slower than any other bypass patient. The bottom line is will it be the fastest I’ve ever lost 190 pounds? And the answer to that is yes.

What's the rush?
I took the opportunity to learn about nutrition and exercise along the way in order to actually KEEP the weight I lost off, which over 50% of us will fail to do. That is far more important than how quickly it comes off.

Perspective is important.

Rapid weight loss definitely has a lot of drawbacks. I have had a lot of health issues from my body being in shock. Feeling dizzy and light headed. I had psoriasis flare ups (in addition to a range of complications from my auto-immune disease).
I didn't mention this before, but it's very strange, psychologically speaking to lose 100 plus pounds in less than six months. It's very disorienting. You feel like a stranger in your own body. It's uncomfortable. You don't recognise yourself. I had a bit of depression (which may have been related to the illnesses), but it also was in part because I was really freaked out by all the changes. How do you stay mindful and centred, when you're dropping 6 dress sizes in 6 months? There's no time to adjust!
I am not complaining. I underwent this surgery as an investment in my future health and happiness. And frankly, I wouldn't mind some of that magic rapid weight loss again. However, losing slowly does have some benefits.

I had a high starting weight and I'm tall. Also, unlike Americans, I didn't have to do any pre-surgery program to get my insurance to pay. So I was eating whatever I wanted (till the 2 week shrink the liver diet). Anyway, I think all of these factors contributed to me losing very fast immediately after the surgery. I think it was too fast, my body went into shock, and my autoimmune disease kept flaring up. I lost a lot of hair. So much hair. My loose skin isn't great to look at either, but I do think as months pass by, it's getting a little better. The thing about rapid weight loss is that it keeps you motivated. When I was losing so fast, it was easy to stay super strict with my diet because I was seeing insane results on the scale every morning.
However, my weight loss has slowed the hell down now. I have less weight to lose. The honeymoon is over. My weight loss has been particularly slow in recent months because I've had to deal with arthritis and being on prednisone (which is the devil, a steroid medication that makes you eat, eat, eat). Losing weight slowly is frustrating. I would LOVE to lose 20 more pounds (10 kg), which doesn't sound like much (at one point, I was losing that in about a fortnight). I miss rapid weight loss. I find it hard to stay motivated now too. I don't know if it's because the rate of loss is slower, or if I'm just sick of #bariatriclife.
So there, that's my perspective on both!!

I think I had unrealistic expectations. I kept hearing about people who lost 90 lbs in 3 months sort of thing, but I forgot that they were starting from a place with much more to lose, which helps it fall off faster. I'm evidently going to have to be content with ~4lbs per week.

Wondering if people wanted to share their experience / success stories / frustrations with losing weight at their personal pace.
Some days i find it hard to not trivialize my success and i think its is because I am losing slowly, which can be VERY frustrating but i did not have any complications, a definitive goal set up yet or loose skin so i should learn to count my blessings. How do you maintain perspective?

I suffer from major depressive disorder , therefore antidepressants will always be a part of my life , I have an upcoming appointment with my Psych as well as with the surgeon , I will address these things with them , thanks for your advice😃

Thank you everyone, I was worried I would get dehydrated. I’m trying to sip every waking minute lol. I also don’t wait 30 after 30 before, I just alternate when I finish a bottled Water I start right up with Protein Shake. Doctors told me water, Protein, walk, so I’m really trying hard to follow everything to a T! I don’t want to have ANY complications. Thanks again!!

Small NSV: I have never been able to wear this tank that I got as a gift from my boyfriend, because my belly was too big. It doesn’t fit perfectly yet, but I will be able to wear it to the gym by football season!

Hello I’m a June 18 sleever, you are all doing great. I was wondering if any of you are able to share your hair pics? and any other information you are willing to share.
I have very fine hair now, and not a lot of it, so I’m expecting to loose my hair. I’m going to invest in a wig, maybe 2 for the fall out/grow back stage.

Hello, So I got sleeved May 29, 2018. Im almost 2 weeks post op. I was out on a Clear liquid diet for 2 days and then started my Full liquid diet afterwards (June 1st) it’s Day 13 of my New journey and so far I’ve had no struggles with my liquids. In fact I’m a little nervous because I had a few Soups that had little pieces of vegetables and chicken. I should have blended it and instead I didn’t. I ate about 5-8oz, is this too much? I haven’t had any full restrictions yet. My worry is that I’m eating too much. I plan on just drinking the broth until my full 2 week full liquid plan is over. (Thursday) I’ve been able to get 64+ oz a day. I usually drink 2 Premier Protein shakes, have 8oz of Soup, about 5oz of farina, and the rest Water. Again I haven’t been full yet I just stop because I feel like it’s the right thing to do. There’s been days when it’s about a few minutes later and I’m hungry all over again. Like really hungry to where I start to feel a bit light headed. Then once I drink a Protein Shake or eat a bit more soup I feel better again. I’m really worried that I’m taken in too much. It’ll be 2 weeks and I’ve only lost 8lbs. I’m not sure if that’s good or not? Also I take all of my Vitamins. I don’t see my surgeon until the 18th. Please Help!

I can't believe it's here. I'm so excited!

I'm at 299.8 and still have a long way to go but I'm thrilled to be under 300.
I started at 369 (at the beginning of my 6 month program in September) and was at 347 the day I had surgery.
Just wanted to share my happiness.