Sleeved36

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Safe Journey!

This guy is an internet troll. He is baiting everyone here. I hate to say this but he is now the first person I have put on my ignore list. I have better things to do than listen to this.

To be clear though, I am a sleeve patient. There will be some differences in the amounts of food that can be eaten at one time. However, it has been proven that bypass patients can indeed lift weights successfully. The most famous example I can think of is Lyss Remaly:
http://fabulyssfitlife.com
To be fair to the OP though, the first year post op it is next to impossible to build muscle because of the lack of caloric surplus that is necessary to build new muscle. There will be atrophy and loss in size as the body breaks down muscle for the Proteins needed for it to function. If she were lifting weights currently, she would be able to stave off some loss of size, but she would also be increasing the Protein requirements thus breaking down more muscle, etcetera etc..
To the OP, give her time. 10 months is not that long. As long as she is having regular checkups with her surgeon and/or her primary physician to monitor her health, she will be fine.

I had a miscarriage between my kids and also did not appreciate people asking when I was going to have another.
WTF am I supposed to say? "I tried, but it died and had to be surgically removed. Thanks for asking"

It is hard to give people the benefit of the doubt when they are prying into your personal business.
My husband and I married young and chose to wait 10 years b4 having children. People said lots of stupid things to me over the years prying about fertility issues and my desire to have children.
Examples:
I couldn't want kids that bad since I didn't have them right away. And since I didnt want them I was going to be a bad mother.
I was getting too old and needed to have kids soon. This was said to me at 27. (had 1st at 32 and 2nd at 35, not exactly ancient)
Then the million questions about who had failing parts, was it my uterus or my husband's balls?
This got old enough that I would pretend to get emotional and tell people it was probably never going to happen for me. This definately worked, succeeded in making them think twice about asking me or anyone else.
I pick and choose who I tell about my surgery. Thankfully some of my more intrusive relatives live far away. The real bonus is none of them saw me at my high weight, so crossing my fingers that my look won't be a shock to them.
Oh, and I love my kids. Waiting to have them allowed us additional financial security and life experiences.

Thank you for posting this. It explains a lot of what has happened to me.
I was a functional alcoholic for a few years in my 20s, then a regular drinker after that. Still had extra cravings for alcohol, but I could control it just fine.
I was concerned that I might develop a problem with alcohol post op bc it seems to happen for some people.
Instead, I want alcohol even less. What a relief! We have enough to go through postop!

I found this very interesting.
It talks about Ghrelin and how it affects both food and alcohol cravings
https://www.thedailybeast.com/the-human-hunger-hormone-might-cure-alcoholism-3?via=newsletter&source=DDMorning

It is hard to give people the benefit of the doubt when they are prying into your personal business.
My husband and I married young and chose to wait 10 years b4 having children. People said lots of stupid things to me over the years prying about fertility issues and my desire to have children.
Examples:
I couldn't want kids that bad since I didn't have them right away. And since I didnt want them I was going to be a bad mother.
I was getting too old and needed to have kids soon. This was said to me at 27. (had 1st at 32 and 2nd at 35, not exactly ancient)
Then the million questions about who had failing parts, was it my uterus or my husband's balls?
This got old enough that I would pretend to get emotional and tell people it was probably never going to happen for me. This definately worked, succeeded in making them think twice about asking me or anyone else.
I pick and choose who I tell about my surgery. Thankfully some of my more intrusive relatives live far away. The real bonus is none of them saw me at my high weight, so crossing my fingers that my look won't be a shock to them.
Oh, and I love my kids. Waiting to have them allowed us additional financial security and life experiences.

It is hard to give people the benefit of the doubt when they are prying into your personal business.
My husband and I married young and chose to wait 10 years b4 having children. People said lots of stupid things to me over the years prying about fertility issues and my desire to have children.
Examples:
I couldn't want kids that bad since I didn't have them right away. And since I didnt want them I was going to be a bad mother.
I was getting too old and needed to have kids soon. This was said to me at 27. (had 1st at 32 and 2nd at 35, not exactly ancient)
Then the million questions about who had failing parts, was it my uterus or my husband's balls?
This got old enough that I would pretend to get emotional and tell people it was probably never going to happen for me. This definately worked, succeeded in making them think twice about asking me or anyone else.
I pick and choose who I tell about my surgery. Thankfully some of my more intrusive relatives live far away. The real bonus is none of them saw me at my high weight, so crossing my fingers that my look won't be a shock to them.
Oh, and I love my kids. Waiting to have them allowed us additional financial security and life experiences.

This isn’t the black and white issue that people are making it out to be. Honesty we can’t know enough about your situation.

But here are some more thoughts, take what works for you.

How long have you been together? Is this a new thing for him to notice boobs? Did you used to have boobs and he misses them after you lost weight? What’s the rest of your relationship like?

I used to have ENORMOUS boobs. Like 44G or something at my highest, I never really wore the right size. Even when I was younger and just “chubby” not morbidly obese I was like 40DDD at least. My hubby has always been a boob man.

Flash forward to post WLS I wear a size 4 and was rolling up my deflated tube sock boobs into my bra.

Left to my own devices when I got my plastics I would have embraced a B/C cup. But after 22+ years of marriage i knew his preference matters to me. So I got implants with my lift. Would I have done it if I hadn’t already been getting surgery? Honestly probably yes. Would I have gotten them if I hated the idea just for him, no.

But like all things in a long term relationship, it’s about give and take, compromise, love, etc. Thats one that mattered to him more than it did to me, so it was my gift to him.

So yeah, I won’t keep cheezits in the House for him, but I will get implants. Ha! That is marriage for you.

Won't be a win win if breast implants are not something you'd want for yourself, something you feel pressure to do because of your own insecurities.
What would be a win win is if you worked on developing assertiveness (would cost a lot less than breast implants) and started commmunicating assertively and honestly with your husband, and he with you.

Does he know this bothers you? Why is he mentioning this in front of you in the first place? I think it’s inappropriate and a deliberate way to undermine your self esteem, especially if you have lost weight and are feeling better about yourself he may be becoming more insecure in the relationship.
If you mentioned how sexually attractive other men were because they had larger units, or were not going bald, or didn’t have chicken legs, or whatever his flaws are, I’m sure he wouldn’t enjoy it. I’d just start with letting him know to keep his hurtful comments to himself. If he doesn’t care if he is hurting your feelings, he’s not that great a husband anyways.
I would certainly never consider having breast augmentation to please someone else. All that matters is that YOU are happy with your body.

This is a very dangerous road to go down, but only you know if you are willing to do it. Making physical changes for someone else when you are not comfortable doing it is not a very good idea and can lead to more problems than resolutions. But i will say this strong and lasting marriages are not usually made or broken on bra size.

About six months at goal. That’s why most plastic surgeons want your weight stable for that long before they do surgery.

@ChaosUnlimited My problem isn't so much keeping it down or not being able to get in more at any one time, I just have no interest in eating. Appetite zero. That's not necessarily a bad thing, I suppose, especially for people who are at the opposite end of the spectrum: intense hunger. It does; however, interfere with the Protein intake my body needs to do the high-intensity exercise you mentioned. I wonder if it's even possible to do high-intensity exercise without using one's legs or feet.
It's always comforting to hear kind words from others. Isn't it strange how we always seem to know how to be understanding and patient with others, but rarely with ourselves? How many times on this forum have I cheered on someone else, yet when it comes to myself, I'm harsh and overly-judgmental.

I had a miscarriage between my kids and also did not appreciate people asking when I was going to have another.
WTF am I supposed to say? "I tried, but it died and had to be surgically removed. Thanks for asking"

An even more disturbing realization is that no wls surgery will fix this type of problem.

I've known for many years that I have a problem with food (obviously, I mean you don't become obese without having issues) but I recently came to the realization that I prefer food to pretty much everything. I would choose food over spending time with friends, a concert, shopping, a great movie, a good night's sleep, a vacation, nice clothes, anything. It satisfies me more than anything else. I knew I had a problem but this made me realize that my problem was just as serious of a compulsion as a drug or alcohol addiction. I hope I can defeat this and become healthy, not just physically, but mentally.

My husband is fairly skinny. He eats better now as a result of me cooking and shopping better, but still indulges in his junk food. Even though he doesn't need to lose weight, he's commented about how he hates to eat in front of me because it makes him feel like a "pig" (his words not mine). I've found that he doesn't get up for seconds at dinner time, rather he warms up those seconds after I go to bed. It's like he is ashamed or something. I've tried to reassure him, but I know it will take time for him to adjust, just like it has taken time for me.

Mine started around 3 month mark. I was really starting to get worried about the Hair loss. I mean, my hair is already fine and thin. I really can't stand to lose too much without it being kind of noticeable. In the last couple of days, I've noticed less and less coming out after I wash. I'm hoping I've seen the worst of it, I can kind of see my scalp!

No Hair loss here. I still rock a tight Fro!

I can't get over how little heat affects me now. I'd heard a lot about "I'm always cold post-surgery!" and that hasn't really happened, but I have certainly noticed that I am WAY more comfortable in heat than I ever was before. Around 65 degrees used to be my sweet spot, and above 75 filled me with dread. I'd be two steps out of the office door and sweat would start soaking my scalp, no exertion needed.
But now? Now I can leave the client site still wearing a fleece and not bother unzipping it until I'm in the car. The car itself has been baking in the sun all day and is likely over 100 degrees inside, and I don't have to leave it to air out, I can just start driving. I'm bone-dry the whole time and can shrug off the heat no problem.
I still don't LIKE heat, but it was actually making my life significantly more horrible pre-surgery. The fact that it's a nonissue now is crazy to me. This is how other people lived this whole time!?

The biggest NSV ever is gaining those precious pounds
Congrats @abe

Yes, he arrived on July 8. Here is a picture of us from this morning:

I did it!
According to the Livestrong BMI calculator, my BMI is 24.85. (I'm a NORMAL weight!)
So, yippee, for normal!!! (The Husb calls me "Screwballski" for a reason and it's NOT because I'm normal. Trust me.)