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I'm a 31 year old nerd who loves to travel and go on adventures with her husband, do crossword puzzles, read books, and play boardgames. My job is teaching kids who are in mental health partial hospitalization program so they don't get behind on school credits while they're in treatment. It's my 11th year teaching and my 2nd year in the position and sometimes I still can't believe how perfect this new job is for me. I also have a wonderful 11 year old puppy.

I'm bad at being brief, I guess! To make up for it I'm including a puppy picture

I'm a 31 year old nerd who loves to travel and go on adventures with her husband, do crossword puzzles, read books, and play boardgames. My job is teaching kids who are in mental health partial hospitalization program so they don't get behind on school credits while they're in treatment. It's my 11th year teaching and my 2nd year in the position and sometimes I still can't believe how perfect this new job is for me. I also have a wonderful 11 year old puppy.

I'm bad at being brief, I guess! To make up for it I'm including a puppy picture

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My three week stall has lasted about 2.5 weeks so far, not breaking yet. This is from my NUT:
Plateaus are common even after weight loss surgery and they often will happen at points where your body has wanted to stall in the past. In the first 6 months after surgery, they are usually 1-3 weeks in length. They can last even longer than that after 6 months post-op. Have faith that you are on track! Focus on how clothes are fitting and if you are losing inches more than pounds. Know that stress and poor sleep can also influence the scale in addition to diet and exercise.

My three week stall has lasted about 2.5 weeks so far, not breaking yet. This is from my NUT:
Plateaus are common even after weight loss surgery and they often will happen at points where your body has wanted to stall in the past. In the first 6 months after surgery, they are usually 1-3 weeks in length. They can last even longer than that after 6 months post-op. Have faith that you are on track! Focus on how clothes are fitting and if you are losing inches more than pounds. Know that stress and poor sleep can also influence the scale in addition to diet and exercise.

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I don’t see my divorce as a result of my surgery. I see my surgery and, eight months out, my divorce as part of the same thing. I’d been doing a lot of reflection and self-exploration which led to the decision to have the surgery and to live my life the way I wanted without my weight holding me back. That same sense of self-exploration and wanting to live life for me on my terms is what led me to the really challenging decision to tell my husband I wanted a divorce. We are great friends, but not great partners. That was true both before and after the surgery.

Cali’flour pizza crust with pizza sauce, low-fat ricotta and mozzarella, and turkey pepperoni. Couldn’t even make it through one slice...yay for leftovers!

(Pizza crust from https://www.califlourfoods.com/)

Okay, so I'm finally on solid foods and here's my before and after:
This was a wasa (sourdough) cracker and two turkey "roll ups", each made of two thin deli slices of turkey and one slice of provolone. Ate half the cracker and one of the roll ups, even though I was starting to feel pretty full after just 2/3 of one roll up.
It changes how I'm going to pack lunches for this week, I think! I had estimated WAY too much food needed for each day...

This is 100000% me. Obsessive research fueled by my neuroses=my approach to any and everything!

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I relate to this so much. I am a Health at Every Size activist. I lost 80 lbs. on Phentermine about six years ago. All of a sudden I had a cousin I barely know writing to me about how happy she was about it because my health must have been so bad before and I had no weight-related health issues then. I was invited to family events that I hadn't been previously. People acted like it was, by far, my biggest accomplishment, nevermind that I have a law degree, etc. I told people what I thought of their bad behavior at the time.
For me, compliments are great, but when it suggests there was something seriously wrong with me before, it crosses into offensive behavior.

I totally get you on this. I had yet another person yesterday tell me that I looked fantastic after losing 80lb. I am cranky too. So obviously I didn't look ok before. This annoys me. I still care about people who are struggling with their weight. They need the same affirmation that I am getting now. Why do people hate obese people!?

Great job, Tracy. I know how hard you've worked to get that 100lbs off! The discrimination is real...
People who haven't lived it don't get it. One of the things that's helped so far is just being the person the discrimination stops with. When i encounter folks who say hurtful things or invalidate somone who's overweight I try to advocate for them.
Weve been there and we know how hard the road can be! With your knowledge and experience I know you'll continue to shine bright like the star you are!

I'm 1 year 2 months post op and have lost 115lbs which is awesome. I have more energy and can do more things with my daughter, I'm in clothing sizes I have never worn! I should be the happiest I've ever been, but I have a mindset I feel is holding me back. This may seem ungrateful, but I'm ANGRY I'm treated differently now that I've lost weight. It's like I was invisible (or worse- gross) when I weighed 286 but now people notice me just because of what I look like and it PISSES ME OFF.I was all the things that make me ME before I lost weight and now it's like a revelation that I'm worthwhile somehow. All of this positive feedback would have been awesome when my self-esteem was in the toilet from being depressed and overweight.
-My husband wants to tell me I look cute and wants to have more sex - and my 1st thought is why didn't you do this before?
-People who wouldn't give me the time of day at work tell me my ideas are great - and I think, they were good before, why didn't you speak up then?
-My family tells me nice things about myself and my clothes - I cant stop thinking about how I could have used this support BEFORE.
Has this happened to anyone else? What do I do to move past this? Should I see a therapist? I don't want to be ungrateful...

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Sounds about right...