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1. Sure, but do you really want to? The sleeve is easily defeated, and once you realize you can tolerate the things you shouldn't... it makes it that much harder to avoid them. Not saying that's what's going to happen with you, but, it's a risk anytime you go back to eating the foods you really shouldn't be eating.

2. Eh... should you. Yes, but we should be chewing to puree even without WLS. Will you benefit from it, sure. Will not doing so cause "issues", it could. But this is also another individual situation. Try to keep up the practice but if you don't do it always... you should be fine.

3. Totally normal to not feel fluids at all. Even with my bypass, thin fluids do very little to nothing to induce "full" feelings.

4. You actually want this to be a "no". The whole idea of the restriction is to prevent you from eating the same amounts as before. If you can eat anywhere near what you could before, you've effectively reversed your surgery.

5. Totally! The calories we actually need verses what we typically consume, are greatly different. If you haven't, look into your BMR (Basal Metabolic Rate) it's the amount of calories your body needs just to exist. Think in a coma, alive, but not moving, that's your BMR. BMR decreases with age and with weight. So the older and thinner you are, the less calories you require. For example. When I was 32, 5 foot 9 and 370 lbs, my BMR was 3029.8 to 2609 (depending on which BMR Calculator you use). Today, at 39, still 5 foot 9, but only 248 lbs, my BMR is 2222.14-2020. So, as we lose weight, we actually require less calories per day.

Ok, thanks for this:
top photo, 169lbs and near-goal, close to normal and dressed in colour (a new thing),
versus bottom picture, at 210lbs - somber suit to hide fat arms, chin (and I cut out my idolised prime minister who I was chaperoning on this trip, she too slim so shame made me cut her out!)
I Celebrate the change from shame to ‘I don’t think people are staring in shops’

Yessss, atleast 5 days a week. Now I’ve lost 267 total. I lost 100 pounds post surgery

Here ya go [emoji5]

Extra skin, stretch marks and cellulite. But I’m down 267 pounds, 267! I don’t regret a thing.

Post surgery is the worst..but it could happen again..only go a day..I take miralax..a serving and a half..as much Water as possible..I had rny gastric so I have malabsorption going anyway.. haven't had a problem since I started doing that...im 6 months in..lost 112 lbs

I am interested but not in what dating currently is, i was born either 50 years too early or 50 years too late. i have antiquated ideas about relationships. I refuse the hook up culture.
SO...
Im single AF...

Interested in hearing if dating is easier, better or different after surgery and weight loss? Have you met a new boo? I'm all ears! 🤔

Yesterday I took off my shirt, left on my jeans and belt and stepped in front of the mirror half naked for the first time in a long time. Although I've come across quite a few women that haven't scarred, my incisions are a dark brown, darker than my skin. I can see them without my glasses. All of the places where my stomach was full and round have started to ripple where the fat is gone and skin is there. I stared at my grandmother's breasts when I was younger, thinking thank god that isn't me. My breasts are slack in their cups. My arms don't look like they have floaty devices on under my shirt, but if I hold my arms out I hear Bette Midler singing Wind Beneath My Wings. For some reason, I thought I'd feel different.
I thought I'd have loose skin, but not like this. I thought I might lose hair, but not this thin up top. I thought I'd go down clothing sizes, but not mismatched (shirt size down, waist down, Buns and thighs and golden girdle stagnate). For some reason, I thought I'd be the person in the videos or online forums or tv and when I wasn't (which was yesterday) I was dreadfully sad.
I looked at my body and saw all of the same things that I saw before, if not worse. But what magnified it was having interactions with friends I hadn't seen in a long time. Specifically, old flames. To them I have done a drastic change, I am literally the same weight now that I was in high school, only the weight isn't focused in my midsection so I am more curvaceous. And it's a mixed bag of nuts when it comes to compliments or being asked out, because for some psycho crazy reason I find compliments or being asked out as an insult. Every week I go outside I am hit on. Before the surgery my male admires were as numbered as fruit stands in the middle of the salt flats. I literally say no to men (even if I find them attractive) out of some weird vindictive thing. Then I get home and eat Peanut Butter (then feel bad about eating Peanut Butter and then start counting the calories, breaking out a calculator and making sure I don't go over my fat for the day). Next thing I know, I'm at home watching Bridget Jones Diary, jealous that Bridget at least had a fling. Also kind of jealous because she could drink vodka without dying.
Then it dawned on me. I had reverted entirely to my old way of living. Being ashamed of my body, not exercising, not feeling like I was good enough for men, feeling sorry for myself, and getting stuck in a resentment for a life that has already gone by. Not focusing on the life that is still moving forward. So, I called my old male friend and we met up.
I know men shouldn't validate me...but men do validate me. And when he saw me and I saw him and he gave me that look, it made me feel a certain kind of way. And I told him everything, literally down to the wind beneath my wings, and he listened. And he said, "So."
And I was confused. I asked him so what.
He said, "So. Who cares?"
I thought that was awfully mean.
Then he added, "No one cares about what you see when you see yourself in the mirror. All that matters is what they see on the outside. I don't even mean just your body though. I mean, like, people can see what kind of person you are. You know the reason why I wanted to be your friend?"
I thought it was because I was funny and nerdy and he was too (which now he is hot).
He said he wanted to be my friend because he thought I was attractive but was too afraid to ask me out. So, he approached me as a friend. And he said what made him like me the most was how I was with other people. When he was around me, he said that everything else would disappear when I laughed. He said my voice was soft. The way I touched his arm all playful made him mush in the knees. He said he knew I was overweight, knew I was frumpy, but for some reason none of that bothered him because it didn't matter. He says attraction is attraction just as confidence is confidence. He says some people just have it and I have it, I just choose to ignore it because I listen to everyone else but myself (as I listened to him).
And I thought about it...I must've had confidence. Enough confidence to have half my stomach chopped off. I must've had enough confidence to take off my shirt and look in the mirror. I must've had confidence to know when to put the peanut butter down. I was confident enough to turn someone down, confident that I didn't need to be validated by a man (even though, I repeat, this is still a contradiction). I'm confident enough to learn to be more confident?
I just wanted to say confidence one more time. Such a confident word, that is.
I'm not perfect. I shouldn't strive to be imperfect. I should work towards being confident and not content. I'm still working on these things, you know.
Anyone else struggling?

Everyone’s experience with Hair loss is different.. my surgeon told me the same thing about getting my Protein and I never take in less than 100g a day and my hair has been falling out for the last 2 months now. I have been taking Biotin everyday as well.. nothing can prevent it from happening.. it’s part of the process... at first I cried every single day, at this point I have learned to accept it.

You've got to give yourself time. You just had major surgery. Some people bounce back, for others it's a slower recovey. I'm sorry you have all the nausea. That makes the day soooo long. You might try some peppermint herbal tea, that helps a lot with nausea and would count as part of your liquids. It will get better, the first week is tough.

Yes, a squatty potty. This ongoing Constipation is ridiculous. And while I’m on a plan to address that and help things along, my family and a few friends swear by the squatty potty so I gathered up my pride and bought one 😂 hooray for post op poop troubles 🙄
anyone else swear by it? Have one? Love it? Notice a difference? Still trying to ignore my embarrassment and realize my booty will appreciate it (hopefully)

Hey
I was sleeved 3/16. After about two weeks my tummy went back to normal. I had a few gas episodes before it went down. The bloat and swollen stomach are real!

Hey
I was sleeved 3/16. After about two weeks my tummy went back to normal. I had a few gas episodes before it went down. The bloat and swollen stomach are real!

I was also sleeved on 3/20 and seemed to have stalled at 17lbs. I only weigh myself once a week and at my post op dr visit. I was getting frustrated, but see we are all in similar situations. We need to trust the process.

In 2008 I came down with chronic hives and battled rash and itch for years. I went on prednisone full time for 6 months and then a "maintenance dose" for a long time. I was overweight/obese to begin with, but my weight ballooned. By January 2013 when I joined weight watchers I was uncomfortable in my own body and very unhappy. In the evening, on a scale at weight watchers, my weight was recorded as 340 pounds. I did weight watchers consistently ( but not perfectly) for 2 years and lost 65 pounds. After that, lots of things happened - job changes, life changes - and I became less consistent with it and gained about 25 pounds back. Moved to another state and changed things up again and gained a few more, but not huge. Decided to start the weight loss surgery process in summer 2017. This morning I stepped on the scale at home (so yes, different scale and different time of day,but with a fleece top on cuz it's cold in my basement) and weighed 239 pounds at 9.5 weeks past surgery! I've lost 100 pounds from my high weight! I still have many more to go to reach my goals, but WOW! I feel so much better. I fit into my life so much better. When it hit me I just burst out crying, alone here in my study with my dogs.
Excuse me while I go whip up a Protein Shake and get ready to go explore a new part of my new home in celebration today!

Congratulations! Wishing you more continued success on your journey!

Hi Paulina
I'm 9 days out, had my surgery on 16/3. The first couple of days out post op aren't easy bit you've got to push through to allow your tummy to heal.
My surgeon allows lactose free milk so that's in my mix. Some days I get tired of drinking Protein Shakes but I remember my puree stage is around the corner. Everything is only for a while.

That's probably from the tube they stick down your throat during surgery. Mine stopped bothering about 5 days after surgery.
I had ice chips and sugar free popsicles to soothe that feeling.

Hi Paulina
I'm 9 days out, had my surgery on 16/3. The first couple of days out post op aren't easy bit you've got to push through to allow your tummy to heal.
My surgeon allows lactose free milk so that's in my mix. Some days I get tired of drinking Protein Shakes but I remember my puree stage is around the corner. Everything is only for a while.

Pretty darned sick of watered down Gatorade (surgeon instructions) and premier shakes, but I’ll take it.