LaLaDee

To Celebrate getting under 100kg (220lbs), I bought myself a shiny new laptop. I've wanted a new one and it seemed cool to "reward" myself.

It's still healing.

Well maybe they should have thought, hm, perhaps this is an opportunity for us to expand our reach and attract an audience (and their dollars!) that really wants high-end well-tailored attractive fashionable clothes, rather than turning their noses up at you.

To Celebrate getting under 100kg (220lbs), I bought myself a shiny new laptop. I've wanted a new one and it seemed cool to "reward" myself.

To Celebrate getting under 100kg (220lbs), I bought myself a shiny new laptop. I've wanted a new one and it seemed cool to "reward" myself.

To Celebrate getting under 100kg (220lbs), I bought myself a shiny new laptop. I've wanted a new one and it seemed cool to "reward" myself.

Time for a forum nick name change miss not-so-thick!!

Hello everyone,
Doing so much better!

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One thing I've noticed reading this board for a while, is that we've all got a lot of valuable insight. Some amazing success stories here. Some amazing works in progress. Really good people with some terrific advice.
But we all have a lot of prejudices, too, about what works and what doesn't, and what would really help people if they only listened! LOL
And there is nothing quite like being on a stall, or being hungry, or learning to cope without your favorite lifelong coping mechanism....to make you grouchy and indignant about why people stubbornly won't listen.
Can we agree that not even the doctors have this crap figured out to any kind of consensus?
Some of us have had terrific success with eating Keto. Some of us eat a buttload of carbs and do great.
Some of us are exercise maniacs. Some of us are working hard to get to 5000 steps a day.
Some of us won't touch a taboo empty calorie treat food...because it's a slippery slope that shouldn't be tempted. Some of us feel the need to master eating taboo foods in moderation to prove that we are in control and have "conquered" food.
Some of us eat 600 calories a day. Some of us eat 1200 a day.
Some of us are ok with moderately consuming alcohol. Some of us are not.
Some of us are horrified by artificial sweeteners. Some of us use them by the boatload.

And here's the really shocking part:
People in BOTH CAMPS on all of these points...have been doing really well.
How cool is that?
The more I listen to all the different stories, the more convinced I am that there are a LOT of ways up this mountain. (Also cool!)
Here's another interesting question...
What's success?
For some folks, success is having a low normal BMI, and being an athlete.
For some folks, success is fitting a certain size, looking a certain way, feeling attractive, getting perfect plastics and looking like a model at the end.
For some folks, success is hitting some other goal. Being able to fit in an airplane seat, Being able to play with kids and be active.
For some folks, success is getting diabetes and blood pressure and other health concerns under control.
For some folks, success is weighing under 200 pounds and not sweating it much beyond that.
For some folks, success is being mobile, being independent, going back to work, and being able to take care of themselves.
There are a lot of different versions of what success looks like. And not everyone's gonna want the same thing.

What your group of doctors says....I guarantee you....will not be anything like what another group of doctors says.
There are no hard fast answers about what works and what doesn't. What we've got...are a lot of valuable personal experiences with a LOT of different programs.
All worth sharing.
But no one has THE answer for everyone:)
Sometimes I hear....but what about the newbies? Don't we owe it to them to set a good example?
No, we really don't. We owe them our honesty. And we owe them the credit they deserve...to do their homework, read a LOT of stuff, consider all the various opinions about everything.... and figure out what they believe and what works for them:)
Just my $.02
Opinions...as always....will vary:)

Thanks @allwet and @etc. etc. etc.
In theory, I’m sure I can keep losing weight - even on steroids. It just means I have to work harder. I’m trying to get past the feeling that the universe is telling me that I don’t get to have this sucessful weight loss. That I got ahead of myself and I’m supposed to stay really morbidly obese. If I’m going to survive this then I need to be positive.
We are have different difficulties - tough jobs, kids, unsupportive family, no time to exercise, whatever. Being sick and on these posionous drugs is just my little burden I suppose.
I think I can still do this.

Thanks @allwet and @etc. etc. etc.
In theory, I’m sure I can keep losing weight - even on steroids. It just means I have to work harder. I’m trying to get past the feeling that the universe is telling me that I don’t get to have this sucessful weight loss. That I got ahead of myself and I’m supposed to stay really morbidly obese. If I’m going to survive this then I need to be positive.
We are have different difficulties - tough jobs, kids, unsupportive family, no time to exercise, whatever. Being sick and on these posionous drugs is just my little burden I suppose.
I think I can still do this.

Ugh...mental setback. We went on a road trip last weekend...3 days. Over the three days, I had 2 bags of M&M's, half an English muffin, half the Water I usually get and probably a 1/4 of the exercise. Everything else was on track. I GAINED 5 pounds. Yes, I knew I was having things out of the normal, but to gain 5 pounds is crazy. It's made me feel that I will never be able to indulge on anything. This was the first gain, but to think how huge it was in 3 days is insane to me!.

Thanks @allwet and @etc. etc. etc.
In theory, I’m sure I can keep losing weight - even on steroids. It just means I have to work harder. I’m trying to get past the feeling that the universe is telling me that I don’t get to have this sucessful weight loss. That I got ahead of myself and I’m supposed to stay really morbidly obese. If I’m going to survive this then I need to be positive.
We are have different difficulties - tough jobs, kids, unsupportive family, no time to exercise, whatever. Being sick and on these posionous drugs is just my little burden I suppose.
I think I can still do this.

Aw, that sucks. I'm rooting for you. You'll have to dance party double time to hold steady. Hang in there, hon!

For me its my sister, unfortunately its the cost because her type of insurance wont cover any cost. She is so depressed and agitated because she has changed the way she eats and goes to gym 6 days a week. Im giving her all the encouragement i can to help her get thru her own journey. Im the best supportive sister i can be, she is my world and all i want is happiness for her!!😀

Some of my friends have said they wish they could have it done but can’t afford it, for them it’s the cost. In the uk just about everyone has to pay for bariatric surgery, the nhs will only pay if it’s life threatening and then you have to wait years. Private Insurance won’t pay so for me I had to pay $16,000. Luckily I had recently retired (early) and had a good pay out so my husband said it was the best thing we could use the money towards to make sure I lived longer to enjoy my retirement and the grandkids. I am proud I had it done and my friends all seem to support me.

People resent you getting fit with the help of surgery because they feel you didn't suffer enough to get there. They want you to suffer for being fat.
They also are threatened if you go from obese to more fit than they are.
In short, people are the worst.

I just had my first experience with someone treating me negatively re surgery and weight loss. My sister has clearly become the green eyed monster because I’m down 90 + lots of new muscle, full of self-confidence and people raved about how I looked at her husband’s bday dinner. I was always the better looking, relationship successful sister but when I got heavier I lost my self esteem, haven’t dated since 2009 and she got married. I decided to cut her out of my life for at least a while. She also said the surgery made me skinny even though it was surgery helping me change my diet and doing 10 workouts a week. That belittles how hard I’ve worked.

What’s extra silly is she’s naturally thin. She has a much smaller frame while my mom says I’m built like a German (IDK!) and have always been an athletic body type.

Why can’t people just be happy for you?

I have bags and bags of clothes that don’t fit but I’m still hanging onto them. I have already donated several bags but it just feels weird to keep giving away everything I own. Like, unintentionally I have to become a minimalist!

I think people are just awkward and in shock and they blurt out whatever pops into their heads! Doesn’t make it OK. I’ve had people ask me if I’ve lost weight. Um, yes, 55kg (120lb). And then they’re like, proud of themselves for noticing!
Now that I’m the same (or smaller) clothes size as my sisters, they seem to think I should be done losing weight too. Like we have some binding pact that I can’t be thinner than them!

Would love more updates from everyone! We’re only 7 months out and a lot of us seem to have taken a step back from the forums. I hope everyone is doing really well!

I think people are just awkward and in shock and they blurt out whatever pops into their heads! Doesn’t make it OK. I’ve had people ask me if I’ve lost weight. Um, yes, 55kg (120lb). And then they’re like, proud of themselves for noticing!
Now that I’m the same (or smaller) clothes size as my sisters, they seem to think I should be done losing weight too. Like we have some binding pact that I can’t be thinner than them!

Something funny I have noticed. Now that I'm within 15-20 pounds of being done, people who are 15-20 pounds overweight think I have "lost enough." I still have a belly and visible love handles, so it's not like I'm thin and am just going overboard. But people have this funny thing where they seem shocked and horrified at the possibility that I will go from morbidly obese to thinner than they are.
I also have a deal with my wife where if I get below 200, she has to quit smoking. I'm at 205 now and she keeps suggesting I can stop losing weight because I look great. Heh. I don't think she thought I would get here when we made this deal.

Greetings to my fellow August sleevers! I'm new here and have been following (stalking) you all for the past month.
You all are doing fantastic! I'm losing pretty slow but am still happy to be losing. My heaviest weight was 232. My weight the day decision was made for sleeve was 222, and my weight the day of surgery (8/2/17) was 217.
7 months post op, I'm at 174. 34# left to get to my goal.
I look forward to learn from, find support, be supportive, and get to know all of you.