FunnyDuddies

you look fantastic! so glad for you! I lookforward to doing the same exact thing with friends in new york city.

just drink your water, drink your water, drink your water, and make good choices, and move your body at least 30 miutes a day. Oh, and drink your water. These are the goals to weight loss. But it sounds to me like you are doing great! over 30 pounds in 3 months is fabulous! That is right on schedule. How much were you expecting to lose, and did you hear this from a RNY group or Doctor? Other weight loss surgeries make you lose weight quicker, but they also have all the complications that made you choose the lap band. This "tool" will help you to make the right choices for the rest of your life.

just a few questions, but why is she moving out of the house when she is obviously having issues? Is she going to college at all? I think it is good that she is in your house. I think you should sit down with her and express your conserns...without laughter. this is serious. If you want to continue to worry, then do nothing. If you want to find out, then sit her down and say that you are really worried about her. And that to live in your house you need to be sure of a few simple things. Then make her take a drug test. Your local doctor can help you get in touch with a lab. If she is not on drugs, she will have no problem with this. If she is on drugs, she will have a major problem with this. Next, tell her that she will not pay rent to you while living there, but she will put money away to live in her own place, and force this to happen. Maybe set up a jar that she puts all the bills into every paycheck. I am not saying be mean about this, but be firm. the whole jokey-jokey thing about how skinny she is shows that she can just laugh it off. It may just be that she is going through a second stage of puberty and her metabolism and hormones are out of whack. But Ockam's Razor (the theory that the simplist answer is usually the correct one) points to it being drugs. She could be on meth, or some other form of speed. Esp if she feels that she has a lot going on and needs the help to get through the day. I am saying this as someone who used to do drugs when she was a teen. I tried it all. And I went through the same things your daughter did. I weighed a healthy 100 pounds (truly I was healthy) and then started to take speed cause I thought my arms were fat and my boobs were too big. I dropped to 89 before I got clean. This was right around the same age as your daughter. Just sit with her and talk about it. I hid it easily from my folks because they refused to actually get in my face and set down rules and make me responsible. You and your family are in my prayers that you find the answer to this mystery. I really hope it is just teen angst making her metabolism kick into high gear and having her just naturally melt away.

wow...who was that? Glad to see you still on the planet. I know it is hard to have a little one dropped in your lap and expected to keep up like before. Just keep smiling and thinking about how cool it is to watch him grow. It is all that gets me through the day. LOL If I have to go every day to the gym, so do you. get your butt away from the mystical world and move your body for an hour. only cause I love ya. and I aint going through this alone. HA!

darling husband, darling daughter, and darling son. that is what DH, DD, and DS stand for. Thanks all for the compliments and the support. I am so afraid to get on the scale tomorrow. I am almost ready to say "screw it" and not weigh in till the end.

i am a stress smoker, and drinker. No, not a major drinker. I think i drink maybe once a week now, and could live without it. But when I have a lot of stress, a bottle of wine and a hot bath is a great way to wind down. I am also a stress smoker to the max. I used to smoke a lot! But now I just have one a night usually after the kids are put down. It is my moment. My bit of calm. In my line of work, deadlines come fast and hard, and I sometimes find that I am up for 3 days straight. Coffee and smokes are really what keep me going. I usually forget to eat during this time too. It is all about drinking the coffee (strong brazillian coffee black please) and have a smoke once and hour. All of a sudden I will look up and it will be 4 days later. LOL oops.

i second paul's post. My current boss is going to school to become what she calls a "Physiological Psychoanalyst" LOL Basically she is studying how what we put into our body, and how we treat our body chemically effects our state of mind and the way our brain works. I do not have any experience with ADD or ADHD, but her kids is an ADHD child and was on meds for years. He started getting suicidal, and they took him into the doc to diagnose more problems. The doctor announced he was also Bi-Polar. More meds. The child actually did his own experiment and weaned himself off the meds without his mom knowing. He totally changed. He became calmer, got better grades, saw things clearer and the suicidal tendancies went away. He was 14 at the time. So strong and smart! This made his mom realize that the meds, while they do help some kids, should not be the first answer. He is now doing great, and manages his episodes with coffee and a natural diet high in fiber and certain vitamins.

when i had consulted with PS in the area I asked about the complications, and risks and the rate that they happen. I did not ever get the 100% quote (across 4 different surgeons) but I did get the "complications arise in men and women who are severely obese and have comorbidities such as diabetes and high blood pressue that would slow healing time" speeches. I was also told by all of them that I am in perfect shape for the surgery. My skin is in good shape, I am in good shape. As my PCP says, "You are as healthy as a horse! You are just as big as one, too." LOL Sue, I agree that fat people have a harder time healing. Complications are always lurking. We can just try to up the odds in our favor. I have the good fortune of having good circulation, a pretty good immune system, and am in pretty good shape for my size.

oh yeah...we floridians would drool over the rain you are getting, but we are too dried out! lol we desperately need rain here, like you need sunshine. glad you got your mom out! i hope it doesn't get too bad there.

I have already documented it for the ins company, and they have turned me down, twice. no worries. we can afford this cause of the new budget we set up. dh is intent on having me get all the stuff i want and need for the weight loss before anything else is bought for the family or home. fee, no please, do show your pics! There is a chance that i will have abdominal musclework done as well, but we aren't counting on it. he is going to see what things are like when he opens me up. I def want to see pics though!!!

oh and I forgot about myself. LOL Don't I always. I am still slightly recovering from a sun filled mother's day at the beach. It was really a fabulous time, and my clock is still stuck on slow. working out this morning was hard. And I am really hungry now that I am on the liquid diet. But I am sticking with it! My only cheat off the liquid diet yesterday was a roma tomato. That isn't too bad. I filled out all my foods on fitday.com and have found that I am getting the right amount of calories, but I need more protein and less carbs, so I am going to up the jello and protein drinks. DH is going to buy me some more isopure, and I think that should help some.

Diane, really happy to see you better dahling. This will be good for you, i can feel it! Heather, I kicked my own butt on the eliptical this morning too. I am up to 9 minutes that I can do on it before I feel like my legs are going to just fall off, and the pain is too much. LOL Good for you for getting up that early and going!! (((HUGS))) the first step is always the second hardest. The hardest part will come in about 4 days when your body hurts and its really early and you just don't want to go. LOL That is when you have to be the strongest!! You can do this! Tricia, your new av just makes me smile!

I'm there with ya too!! I joined Lifestyle Fitness here in Tampa, and will be going early in the morning too. We will all have a mental workout together.

i joined a gym this weekend too! then found out the time I plan to go workout during is when they open the gym to teenagers for free so that they can get some workouts done. we'll see how that goes. last thing i want is a bunch of snide teens making fun of me while i am working out. hopefully it won't be that type of crowd.

I am going to Monterrey, MX for my apron surgery. the cost is $4200. But insurance is not covering it. They feel that it is considered weight loss surgery. I know what you mean about pilates. I do them everyday, and it is tough. I also have to take breaks from working ut during the week because i have to heel from heat rashes. it is awful! And ever since my csection for my son i have lost most of my feeling from my pubic bone up to my belly button, so I don't know if have a rash or not, and it gets worse and worse without me knowing it. This surgery will eliminate all of that hopefully!! I am so excited!

i know it seems corny, but have you tried eHarmony.com? I have 3 friends who went on there, and their personallity matching really seems to work!! 2 are married, and 1 is engaged. And all three couples seem really perfect for each other! I met my DH online waaaaay back when the world wide web did not exist. It was just the internet. Connected to schools, libraries, the government, and of course the hand full of pervs. LOL DH was working at the library where he was going to college, and I was a freshman in high school. We were just friends for the longest time, till i turned 19 and moved to florida where he was going to college. then we fell in love. When I was a freshman in high school I was tiny. 100 pounds, 5ft 4inches, and tight. when i moved to florida, due to 2 years with a VERY abusive boyfriend, i was 300 pounds. he fell in love with me as a person, not with my body (although he does really like me no matter what my size.) I think that is what is great with the internet and meeting someone online before meeting them face to face. Just keep your eyes and heart open, but at the same time, continue to find the love you have for yourself. I know you are really lonely, but if you find love for yourself you will respect yourself enough to find the right man, and not one that will treat you badly, or manipulate you in any way. Good Luck!!

HUGE DIFFERENCE!!! There is no more "back roll" really anymore. You just look fantastic!

I love that! Wheets you are doing awesome!! You will make it there before you know it! I can't wait to reach twoterville either. Its gonna be a big celebration!

you look amazing!! Look at your shoulders and your neck! Truly breathtaking! Congradulations! Almost 100 pounds!

I FOUND THE BEST BRA!!! I went to Torrid, which is a plus size trendy fashion store. I still can't fit into most of their clothes, but I love their lingerie. And they have a new style of bra out. Its on sale for 2 for 48. They come with clear straps and cloth straps, and the cup is thick, but not padded. I have never has so much coverage without it feeling like I was wearing another shirt. It is well made, and sturdy, and the wires feel like they are thick sturdy rods rather than those thin flimsy wires. it is amazing! I have not felt this secure since my bodice and corset wearing days when I was skinny!! If there is a Torrid in a mall near you, go check them out. They go pretty high in sizes. The one I got is a 44 DDD and it fits like a DREAM! I got a nude and a black. Here is the link to them online. http://www.torrid.com/store/product.asp?LS=0&RN=227&ITEM=583501 Definitely check them out! I feel like ordering 10 more LOL

Oh, so this weekend I went out and got all of my liquid diet foods. I am going to stay on liquid diet until its time for the apron surgery. I got high protein slim fast shakes. some low fat and low cal high protein vanilla chai tea, lots and lots of pomagranite juice (my new fave), lots of veggies and fruits for juicing, some chicken and beef broth (low sodium), skim milk, and of course my trusty protein shakes. I am focusing on protein protein protein and really going to try staying between 1200 and 1000 cals a day. plus a gallon of water. no more, no less. Does anyone have any other ideas for liquid diet options that are low cal, high protein? do you see any problems with the diet here?

depending on how my apron surgery goes, i doubt i will be in a bathing suit this summer. but next summer i am going to be a curvy girl in a sizzling one piece. maybe a two piece if the boobs don't look too bad. LOL

Hippo you are more than welcome to post here!! We welcome everyone in, even if you don't want to stay in the club, post all ya want! :nono: Tricia, I really hope you find good restriction again. I heard that as you lose the weight, you lose the fat around the stomach itself, and there by lose restriction because the band is not as tight. Hopefully this fille will work for ya and put you back into the swing of things. Diane, I am so sorry that you had the obstruction and it went and messed up all of your restriction. Maybe, like Tricia, you can go in, get unfilled, and have great restriction again. I have my fingers and toes crossed for both of you. Kristin, ugh, that sounds nasty!! LOL knowing me I would have just died of embarassment, and left the restaurant crying! I told DH that after I have the band I am not eating out anywhere until I get to goal!! LOL Pnut, shut up and get the fill! joking sis, but just talk to your doc and both of you can decide if it is time. Personally it sounds like it. You got this thing to help you lose weight. If you are not filled properly then the tool is just sitting there not doing anything for you. And if you are afraid of making it work then why did you have it put in to begin with? See the logic? I know that you will get a fill, and that you will be fine. And so what if you get a little tight for a while. You just have a slight unfill and find that sweet spot! I had a great mother's day! We spent the whole day at the beach. We got to watch the sunset and the kids played in the water all day long. We caught a ton of sponges that I am going to purify and use around the house. If anyone wants any natural sponges, just let me know. They are soft, and great for using on your face!! Just the right amount of scrub. Hope everyone had a great weekend!!!

omg i bought the sugar free dr pepper and other soda popsicles today. they are sooooo good!! I also got a box of sugar free fudge, creamsicle, and regular pops. yummy in my tummy!!

right on poodles!! i think dh's version of dream skinny clothes and my version of dream skinny clothes are vastly different! LOL while mine be small and revealing, his idea for me is almost nonexistant LOL