SkinEMinE

I was a little confused because I didn't know where you were on your gastric bypass surgery journey. It appears that you are at the very beginning in the pre-op stage.
I went through 6 months of physician monitored pre-op dieting and exercise program. At the beginning of the program, I decided to apply the rule of "no soft drinks, no caffeine". I figured that since I had to give this up anyways, I might as well implement this change at the very beginning of the process. So I ended by 6 diet coke a day habit. I suffered through a week of withdrawal pain (severe headaches and body aches). But then I was O.K. I think I lost 20 pounds pre-op on this change alone.
During this 6 month period, I started to do journaling. I tracked everything I ate. This helped because I know how many calories foods had. It also showed me what fast food restaurants and which type of food to stay far away from.
Another aspect of this program was exercise. I began hill walking for a half hour per day. The walking was very important because it is an integral part of the program. Right after surgery, you have a massive amount of gas locked in your body. This is the root cause of much of the pain that patients experience. I took no pain meds after surgery. I didn't need to. I walked every 2 hours around the clock after surgery and I experience minimal pain as a result.
You diet will change dramatically over the next few years (pre-op phase, first couple years post-op in the weight loss phase, and then when you arrive at the maintenance phase). So be prepared for changes ahead. It is important to follow the dietary directions in the post-op weight loss phase. This phase is where you will achieve the most weight loss in a very short time. Don't second guess this phase.

@skinEminE I’m so sorry your husband did that to you. Glad you got rid of him!! You are worth love and that isn’t love. I feel very lucky. Mine is standing by me. He gets it.

I had a man like that in my life who gave me the same ultimatum. He thought that people who couldn’t make change thru self-discipline had a character flaw. He also distrusted modern medicine. In retrospect, I think he had good intentions but now that I’m 100lbs lighter a year after surgery and he is gone, I joke that it was the first 185lbs that was the hardest to lose. The rest came right off! Lol! I don’t regret choosing my health over his fears. My body was crushing under the weight and I was on a slow and painful track to death. He may have had good intentions but he went about it in the wrong way, was negative, and a lot of the reason I gained the weight in the first place (I’m not shifting accountability, he just supplied the trigger).
He also gave me a hard time when I quit smoking.
During the wedding ceremony, he vowed that he would stand by your side for better and for worse. He needs to get to it.

Thank you all for your support I do appreciate it. I will definitely try some of these ideas and speak to my surgeon. I was having a low moment when I wrote this. it was exciting because I quickly lost 9 pounds but gained some back. It is hard. Enjoying LIfe No Negative Nellies welcome here. I am trying to get encouragement and support and I am less than a week from surgery. take your attitude elsewhere. it is not ok.

I’m an atheist too. When someone tells me they’re going to pray for me, I just say ok. If they want to waste their time, then that is on them. If someone told me they were going to light a bonfire and dance around it for me, I’d say the same. If they told me they were going to sacrifice a chicken for me, I would put my foot down. If it doesn’t impact me or harm anything, then whatever. I haven’t had that happen to me in years, tho...
I get that the thoughtless and inconsiderate casual announcement that you one is a God believing praying Christian in a public forum directed at someone who may or may not be is arrogant, inappropriate, self-centered, and enormously irritating but we live on ground zero for Christian egotistic fanaticism. The more their membership numbers fall, the worse it gets, too...
Didn’t Jesus tell Christians to pray in private?
Too bad Christians aren’t more like their Christ, eh?

I’m an atheist too. When someone tells me they’re going to pray for me, I just say ok. If they want to waste their time, then that is on them. If someone told me they were going to light a bonfire and dance around it for me, I’d say the same. If they told me they were going to sacrifice a chicken for me, I would put my foot down. If it doesn’t impact me or harm anything, then whatever. I haven’t had that happen to me in years, tho...
I get that the thoughtless and inconsiderate casual announcement that you one is a God believing praying Christian in a public forum directed at someone who may or may not be is arrogant, inappropriate, self-centered, and enormously irritating but we live on ground zero for Christian egotistic fanaticism. The more their membership numbers fall, the worse it gets, too...
Didn’t Jesus tell Christians to pray in private?
Too bad Christians aren’t more like their Christ, eh?

lol, I love how my comment of slaughtering a chicken links to the BariatricPal Store. If I need to slaughter a chicken, at least I can do it in a bariatric friendly way.

I had trouble with the no/low carb thing too. It got a lot easier for me after not having them for 3 days. Even easier after surgery. I LOVE carbs, like doughy white bread and potatoes, rice, Pasta.
My dietician would not say it was ok to eat cheeseburgers, bun or no bun. I want that person’s dietician! Lol

This is highly variable based upon how much excess weight you have, your age, your past medical history, etc.

You can drive yourself crazy comparing your weight loss to someone else’s. Many people can lose 30 pounds the first month with 20 pounds the next two or three months. Some people have lost 100 pounds in three months.

It’s such an individual thing. Even medication can play a role in how much wright we lose, or if we are post menopausal.

Do your very best, and you will be more than thrilled I am sure!

Was not taken off diuretics after surgery and I do use MyFitness App to track food calories. My Protein source is Pure Protein, Premier Protein, I have Isopure high max Protein Powder, unflavored protein powder, isopure zero drinks, and chicken, turkey, fish, low fat ham, eggs, etc. I drink Water pretty much all day. Rarely carbs. Maybe 1 slice of bread in a week...small quantity of rice once.
My plan is to see nutritionist at beginning of next month at support group meeting....

Between 50 and 70g of Protein a day per Dr’s orders. I shoot for under 1000 cal a day. Sometimes I am a little over, sometimes a bit under. I expected 5% a month, so I should be down 26 lbs over 2 months, not 6! I’m wondering if it is because I wasn’t a big unhealthy eater prior to the surgery and have never been big on junk food, so I am eating basically the same healthy foods only a little less in quantity than before. Thought I was fat because I was eating too much, but obviously not. Now wondering if I have a metabolic issue. So heartbroken right now.

Not digging holes, no. I will be moving 250 text books up two flights of stairs, arranging 40 desks, setting up 18 science lab stations, and decorating bulletin boards by going up and down a ladder a bunch of times. Hauling stacks of papers and files from one place to another, moving tables and chairs, pushing carts of equipment from storage and into my room. My job is actually very physical and involves a lot of heavy moving, especially at the beginning and the end of the year. A sub won't do that for me, but I can postpone it until I'm able to do it, perhaps?

Not digging holes, no. I will be moving 250 text books up two flights of stairs, arranging 40 desks, setting up 18 science lab stations, and decorating bulletin boards by going up and down a ladder a bunch of times. Hauling stacks of papers and files from one place to another, moving tables and chairs, pushing carts of equipment from storage and into my room. My job is actually very physical and involves a lot of heavy moving, especially at the beginning and the end of the year. A sub won't do that for me, but I can postpone it until I'm able to do it, perhaps?

My surgeons kept saying - everyone is different - you'll just have to wait and see. But for me...
I work in education (administration) and went back PART-TIME after two weeks. It was tough. I wish I had done another full week home. The surgery is no joke - but the postop diet is the hard part. I was not in pain, but had no energy. I would suggest getting a sub - just in case.

I'm so cal! Pre-op diet day 1.

On the left I was 289LBS
On the right I am 143LBS

Wow. Gives me good motivation when I'm hating my pre op diet right now!